Debate with Spouse re Weight

Anonymous
Nobody gets priority.

You alternate days. This is a situation where you prioritize everyone’s health. M/W/F is for the husband and T/Th/Sa for the wife. Done.
Anonymous
Both should do 7 min exercise routine during the week. Longer when schedule permits.
Anonymous
Whatever is keeping both of you from exercising as much as is healthy (which really doesn’t have to be every day) is what should go down on the priority list. Slack off on your jobs, hire a babysitter, let your kids use screens, eat stupid simple meals, etc.

No reason for health to be so far down on the priority list.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP. Should have added: obviously alternating days is fairest. But idiosyncratic professional and caretaking obligations make that impracticable by all accounts, so this question is about how to break a tie, so to speak.


My husband and I have very busy schedules and when our children were small I needed somebody to always watch them, one way we were able to exercise during that time of our life was because we found a fitness center that had a daycare. Prior to that, I took walks very early in the morning or after the kids went to bed. My husband was very overweight it was more important that he went to the gym.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP. Should have added: obviously alternating days is fairest. But idiosyncratic professional and caretaking obligations make that impracticable by all accounts, so this question is about how to break a tie, so to speak.


Why is a competition. Two grown adults should be able to figure this out. It sounds like both of you have a bunch of BS excuses.
Anonymous
Really? This is what you fight about? Give whatever plan you want 2 weeks, then both of you will be back to laying on the sofa eating Doritos.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:OP. Should have added: obviously alternating days is fairest. But idiosyncratic professional and caretaking obligations make that impracticable by all accounts, so this question is about how to break a tie, so to speak.


This is BS. Try harder. Be creative. Be flexible. If you’re really struggling and can only see this working one way, then share the specifics so that DCUM can take a stab at offering solutions. I’m wondering if you’re hesitant to do that because you might not like what is offered.
Anonymous
This is why I joined a gym with childcare. I was sick of the fights and not being able to take care of myself. I recommend it. Doesn't make your husband and less selfish tho. My husband is an only child and selfish too.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Really? This is what you fight about? Give whatever plan you want 2 weeks, then both of you will be back to laying on the sofa eating Doritos.


Haha this is harsh but true
Anonymous
OP. I rarely post on this website. It’s weird to me how harsh you all are. Anyway, thanks to the few who entertained the premise of the question.
Anonymous
I’m not buying that there’s only time for one person to work out. There only be time for one person to workout at the ideal time and place, but that doesn’t mean there’s no other time at all. One or both of you is taking a hard line to get your preference met rather than working out a compromise to meet both of your needs.
Anonymous
I see no reason that only one parent gets the time to exercise. How is it so black and white to your family? Is this a “only one person can do a gym membership” thing? Or one person wants an extensive hobby like cycling 4 hours every weekend?
Anonymous
Your husbands premise that the couple needs to make time for him to exercise is the flaw here— if it is medically necessary he needs to make time for it in the way he would make time to take his medicine. Not be given extra free time at your expense. Whatever he does during his current free time is what goes first.

The only time I have expected my husband to make the family time for me to exercise was from 6-12 weeks postpartum when restoring core strength was a time-limited medical priority, that, if ignored, would lead to lifetime change in body. Unless your DH recently gave birth or has been told he needs to lose X lbs to qualify for a surgical intervention, I don’t see his argument.
Anonymous
Husband has priority his is a medical issue. But it does not have to be a permanent priority. After one month or two of priority you can move to an every other day model.
Anonymous
Do squats while you both argue about it.
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