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my take.
1. Women who haven’t learned how to articulate needs or set boundaries and stop believing that cheating is wrong or the temptation gets high. 2. Women who have done the above but their partner hasn’t respected them and they feel trapped in the marriage because of kids and finances, and they slowly stop believing that cheating is wrong or the temptation gets to be too much for them. 3. Those of any gender who have unmanaged mental health issues, lack a strong moral foundation, and has the opportunity. (Compartmentalization to justify cheating is a mental health issue, as is self-loathing) 4. The above except without the mental health issues, but worse morals and more opportunity. 5. I think entwined in all of these is often lack of understanding of female sexuality. Dead bedrooms come from duty sex comes from a lack of desire comes from a situation where the man or the man and the woman don’t understand that desire is not internal, it’s a response to stimuli. 6. Sociopaths. It’s kinda crazy that so many of these issues could be taken care of by pretty simple interventions. It’s like the Israelites refusing to look at the serpent because the solution couldn’t have possibly been that simple. (I’m an atheist but that’s one of my favorite stories ever) |
Ok, sweetie. |
That's what it's all about. How you were raised and having morals or not. Plus no p is worth losing your spouse, home, and children over. Haven't seen that yet to speak of! |
I’ve actually never had the opportunity! And I’m not the most beautiful person out there, but I’m a solid 7 with makeup, and I’m friendly. But I’m not complaining. I’m pretty sure I’d never cheat but this makes it a non-starter. |
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I feel there is one or a small number of posters on DCUM who keep perseverating on this topic of cheating. They're fixated about it, and start all kinds of threads on the subject. Perhaps it's not even victims of cheating who start these threads, but troubled posters who have selected this as their fixation, like other weirdos do with other topics on other forums. |
Thank you. It's beyond OCD, but I think for whatever reason they are clearly troubled people. I suspect mostly cheaters who are troubled like anyone who chooses to live a double life. Probably some hurt victims as well. |
It’s cheated-on people. Or victims, if you like. It’s been a particularly worked-over topic since the beginning of the pandemic. |
Or D. In the AP recent thread, more cheating women lost their home and kids. |
| OP has made this exact thread before. Maybe a year ago? It's like she's hoping her AP's wife is reading and will notice the description of him. |
| People who enjoy sex and are married to people who have decided to end their sex life. |
Well I hope she thinks about the not so flattering things pps have stated about her, a fellow cheater. It’s like they think of their AP and others as bad, but oh not them, they aren’t the same as the people they are cheating with or others that cheat. Every cheater I have ever met did some serious compartmentalization and mental gymnastics. |
Yep. I remember the retired military thing. |
A very small cut. |
Sometimes men who are cut small cheat in order to feel bigger. |
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