Anyone cheat before getting married, then become faithful

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How does one chest before marriage?

That's my question. There is no reason for monogamy until you're married, as far as I'm concerned. I guess, everyone should be on the same page about that while dating, so since I wasn't always open about that, I guess I did "cheat" on boyfriends, including my now husband, before getting engaged. Once engaged, i was committed. Have been faithfully married for 23 years.

Lying about being faithful to a partner, even if not married or engaged, removes consent and is ethically wrong. I would not continue to date someone who were sleeping with others, as this puts my health at risk from STDs. If they failed to disclose to me that they were sleeping with others, I would be furious, as I could not make an informed decision about dating and sleeping with them. It also speaks to a much larger issue of, if they are willing to mislead me about being monogamous, they are very likely willing to mislead me on other big issues.

[Anonymous]

I know people that NEVER cheated pre-marriage, but then had midlife affairs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This happens. Once you get married, the opporutiies to meet people are fewer, as is the time if you're home all the time. Also, your libido goes down as you age so less desire to do so.

I don’t know. It’s seems like people cheat more in their 40s than their 30s. Midlife crisis has a way of turning previously faithful people into cheaters.

[Anonymous]

There is no reason for monogamy until you're married, as far as I'm concerned.

Well, you’re a terrible person. I pity your husband or wife.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From what I can tell my wife did and hasn't since. But of course who knows, which is the same with people who didn't cheat before marriage. Trash People aren't good at monogamy

Fixed it for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How does one chest before marriage?

That's my question. There is no reason for monogamy until you're married, as far as I'm concerned. I guess, everyone should be on the same page about that while dating, so since I wasn't always open about that, I guess I did "cheat" on boyfriends, including my now husband, before getting engaged. Once engaged, i was committed. Have been faithfully married for 23 years.

Lying about being faithful to a partner, even if not married or engaged, removes consent and is ethically wrong. I would not continue to date someone who were sleeping with others, as this puts my health at risk from STDs. If they failed to disclose to me that they were sleeping with others, I would be furious, as I could not make an informed decision about dating and sleeping with them. It also speaks to a much larger issue of, if they are willing to mislead me about being monogamous, they are very likely willing to mislead me on other big issues.

Exactly. The pp are justifying their unethical dirty behavior

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not on DH, but on pretty much all boyfriends before him. I’ve been married faithfully for 22 years.

You slept around behind all ex boyfriends backs? And no cheating back at you? I guess karma doesn't exist

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How does one chest before marriage?

That's my question. There is no reason for monogamy until you're married, as far as I'm concerned. I guess, everyone should be on the same page about that while dating, so since I wasn't always open about that, I guess I did "cheat" on boyfriends, including my now husband, before getting engaged. Once engaged, i was committed. Have been faithfully married for 23 years.

Lying about being faithful to a partner, even if not married or engaged, removes consent and is ethically wrong. I would not continue to date someone who were sleeping with others, as this puts my health at risk from STDs. If they failed to disclose to me that they were sleeping with others, I would be furious, as I could not make an informed decision about dating and sleeping with them. It also speaks to a much larger issue of, if they are willing to mislead me about being monogamous, they are very likely willing to mislead me on other big issues.

Exactly. The pp are justifying their unethical dirty behavior

You people are so pious and judgemental. 20-somethings do not have fully developed brains, have raging hormones, and very little sense about what they want from life or from a partner for life. I do not judge young people for making mistakes and cheating on a boyfriend or girlfriend does not make one "terrible," "trashy," or "unethical." Just human. Very big difference between dating in your 20s and then being committed in marriage. I'd rather have a partner who married once they knew what they wanted, even if they made mistakes in their youth, than the prude, pious, jealous, judgemental jerks here. Plus, those of you judging probably just weren't good-looking enough to have so many choices in your 20s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did. 15 years in to a great marriage now.

So does that mean you cheated before marriage but after you started to sleep only with your husband but cheated on him all the time prior?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

There is no reason for monogamy until you're married, as far as I'm concerned.

Well, you’re a terrible person. I pity your husband or wife.

Why would you pity a man who married a smart, educated, attractive wife who is loyal, loves sex, and gave him two beautiful children, and so far, 23 years of committed marriage? That's so weird. Trust me. He is one happy man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How does one chest before marriage?

That's my question. There is no reason for monogamy until you're married, as far as I'm concerned. I guess, everyone should be on the same page about that while dating, so since I wasn't always open about that, I guess I did "cheat" on boyfriends, including my now husband, before getting engaged. Once engaged, i was committed. Have been faithfully married for 23 years.

Lying about being faithful to a partner, even if not married or engaged, removes consent and is ethically wrong. I would not continue to date someone who were sleeping with others, as this puts my health at risk from STDs. If they failed to disclose to me that they were sleeping with others, I would be furious, as I could not make an informed decision about dating and sleeping with them. It also speaks to a much larger issue of, if they are willing to mislead me about being monogamous, they are very likely willing to mislead me on other big issues.

Exactly. The pp are justifying their unethical dirty behavior

You people are so pious and judgemental. 20-somethings do not have fully developed brains, have raging hormones, and very little sense about what they want from life or from a partner for life. I do not judge young people for making mistakes and cheating on a boyfriend or girlfriend does not make one "terrible," "trashy," or "unethical." Just human. Very big difference between dating in your 20s and then being committed in marriage. I'd rather have a partner who married once they knew what they wanted, even if they made mistakes in their youth, than the prude, pious, jealous, judgemental jerks here. Plus, those of you judging probably just weren't good-looking enough to have so many choices in your 20s.

Heh still trying to justify your nastiness huh? A woman's brain fully develops at 21 and a man's at 24. Either way if raised with morals they know the difference between right and wrong or they'd be committing felonies. If they are moral they wouldn't be cheaters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

There is no reason for monogamy until you're married, as far as I'm concerned.

Well, you’re a terrible person. I pity your husband or wife.

Why would you pity a man who married a smart, educated, attractive wife who is loyal, loves sex, and gave him two beautiful children, and so far, 23 years of committed marriage? That's so weird. Trust me. He is one happy man.

Because your morale is so low and trashy that you slept around on him before marriage but he is a simp who doesn't know better.

[Anonymous]

Why would you pity a man who married a smart, educated, attractive wife who is loyal, loves sex, and gave him two beautiful children, and so far, 23 years of committed marriage? That's so weird. Trust me. He is one happy man.

NP. We pity him his loss of agency when you were dating - he thought exclusively- and you were seeing other people. We pity him because he has a wife who has flimsy boundaries. What if your “two beautiful children” were in a long-term relationship they thought was exclusive but their partner was seeing other people but didn’t think they had to share that? I’m sure you would be the first to condemn the partner - and you should, because it’s cheating, just like you cheated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

There is no reason for monogamy until you're married, as far as I'm concerned.

Well, you’re a terrible person. I pity your husband or wife.

Why would you pity a man who married a smart, educated, attractive wife who is loyal, loves sex, and gave him two beautiful children, and so far, 23 years of committed marriage? That's so weird. Trust me. He is one happy man.

It's never good being married to a narcissit. He just hasn't figured that out yet, or plot twist he's cheating on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How does one chest before marriage?

That's my question. There is no reason for monogamy until you're married, as far as I'm concerned. I guess, everyone should be on the same page about that while dating, so since I wasn't always open about that, I guess I did "cheat" on boyfriends, including my now husband, before getting engaged. Once engaged, i was committed. Have been faithfully married for 23 years.

Lying about being faithful to a partner, even if not married or engaged, removes consent and is ethically wrong. I would not continue to date someone who were sleeping with others, as this puts my health at risk from STDs. If they failed to disclose to me that they were sleeping with others, I would be furious, as I could not make an informed decision about dating and sleeping with them. It also speaks to a much larger issue of, if they are willing to mislead me about being monogamous, they are very likely willing to mislead me on other big issues.

Exactly. The pp are justifying their unethical dirty behavior

You people are so pious and judgemental. 20-somethings do not have fully developed brains, have raging hormones, and very little sense about what they want from life or from a partner for life. I do not judge young people for making mistakes and cheating on a boyfriend or girlfriend does not make one "terrible," "trashy," or "unethical." Just human. Very big difference between dating in your 20s and then being committed in marriage. I'd rather have a partner who married once they knew what they wanted, even if they made mistakes in their youth, than the prude, pious, jealous, judgemental jerks here. Plus, those of you judging probably just weren't good-looking enough to have so many choices in your 20s.

It's interesting isn't it? Cheaters are extremely dilisional, they think everyobe is susceptible to their lies and manipulation.
Heh still trying to justify your nastiness huh? A woman's brain fully develops at 21 and a man's at 24. Either way if raised with morals they know the difference between right and wrong or they'd be committing felonies. If they are moral they wouldn't be cheaters.