Having Doubts About Girlfriend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, OP, you're sad. Is there a question you want to ask, you troll?

You said you've asked her about it and she said she loves you. You love her and see your life with her but wonder if she feels the same way.

You're contradicting yourself with your "doubts" and wondering if she feels the same way and you've literally written that she does (she loves you and you love her).

Not OP but it’s a valid question when her best friend just picked a good enough guy and his gf makes a comment like that. I would worry too.

You have no idea how many women settle for a “good enough” or throw any guy in when they’re ready to settle down. I know at least 5 women who admitted over the years to not being that in love but they wanted a husband and kids.

Because they know they can make it work regardless. It's the guy that needs to be fully in love. Is he? Only you know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, OP, you're sad. Is there a question you want to ask, you troll?

You said you've asked her about it and she said she loves you. You love her and see your life with her but wonder if she feels the same way.

You're contradicting yourself with your "doubts" and wondering if she feels the same way and you've literally written that she does (she loves you and you love her).

Not OP but it’s a valid question when her best friend just picked a good enough guy and his gf makes a comment like that. I would worry too.

You have no idea how many women settle for a “good enough” or throw any guy in when they’re ready to settle down. I know at least 5 women who admitted over the years to not being that in love but they wanted a husband and kids.

It's a very valid question. A large number of posters here admit every day they just wnt with a good enough guy because the clock was ticking on babies and they believed in a traditional family, they all admit to not liking their husband, miserable marriages and only hanging around for the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, OP, you're sad. Is there a question you want to ask, you troll?

You said you've asked her about it and she said she loves you. You love her and see your life with her but wonder if she feels the same way.

You're contradicting yourself with your "doubts" and wondering if she feels the same way and you've literally written that she does (she loves you and you love her).

Not OP but it’s a valid question when her best friend just picked a good enough guy and his gf makes a comment like that. I would worry too.

You have no idea how many women settle for a “good enough” or throw any guy in when they’re ready to settle down. I know at least 5 women who admitted over the years to not being that in love but they wanted a husband and kids.

Because they know they can make it work regardless. It's the guy that needs to be fully in love. Is he? Only you know.

NP here, but that's just it, most of the time they don't make it work, even if they stay married they are miserable. I don't think OP is talking about storybook fully in love stuff I think he wants to know that she sees something in him, something that will make her want to stay if kids don't come easy or once the kids grow up and move out, no just the current guy she's dating so she can check the box of kids and babies before 35.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Trust your gut.

+1, if you have doubts something is nagging at you. What do you think would happen if you are still dating beyond her timeline? Will she freak out? There’s your answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, OP, you're sad. Is there a question you want to ask, you troll?

You said you've asked her about it and she said she loves you. You love her and see your life with her but wonder if she feels the same way.

You're contradicting yourself with your "doubts" and wondering if she feels the same way and you've literally written that she does (she loves you and you love her).

Not OP but it’s a valid question when her best friend just picked a good enough guy and his gf makes a comment like that. I would worry too.

You have no idea how many women settle for a “good enough” or throw any guy in when they’re ready to settle down. I know at least 5 women who admitted over the years to not being that in love but they wanted a husband and kids.

It's a very valid question. A large number of posters here admit every day they just wnt with a good enough guy because the clock was ticking on babies and they believed in a traditional family, they all admit to not liking their husband, miserable marriages and only hanging around for the kids.

+1.

[Anonymous]

I think this is a valid question and not one we can answer. I don’t often say this on this forum, but I would for sure talk to a marriage counselor about this one. By yourself. Lay out the facts to them, see what they have to say. You may be right, you may be wrong but the decision shouldn’t be made by this forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, OP, you're sad. Is there a question you want to ask, you troll?

You said you've asked her about it and she said she loves you. You love her and see your life with her but wonder if she feels the same way.

You're contradicting yourself with your "doubts" and wondering if she feels the same way and you've literally written that she does (she loves you and you love her).

Not OP but it’s a valid question when her best friend just picked a good enough guy and his gf makes a comment like that. I would worry too.

You have no idea how many women settle for a “good enough” or throw any guy in when they’re ready to settle down. I know at least 5 women who admitted over the years to not being that in love but they wanted a husband and kids.

It's a very valid question. A large number of posters here admit every day they just wnt with a good enough guy because the clock was ticking on babies and they believed in a traditional family, they all admit to not liking their husband, miserable marriages and only hanging around for the kids.

+1.

And sometimes the woman settles for someone who is not what they dreamed of but go into the marriage with open eyes and realistic expectations. It’s called being a grown up and realizing those exceptions where not realistic.

[Anonymous]

trust your gut. Men have intuition and its is valid.

Women who settle are never happy in their marriage. There is a high chance she will grow to resent you and she will always wonder if she could have done better if she waited just a little longer. Most women will not admit this but they know its true.
How old is she? How old are you? Women usually have a realization in their late 20s early 30 that they are getting older and its harder to compete with the younger 20-somthings and if her hot heart throb from her party years didn't wife her up then she will be forced to settle and will have regrets. IF you are going to marry you deserve a woman that has truly hot burning desire for YOU. She needs to want YOUR kids... not merely "just want kids" She must really desire to make a life with YOU not simply "want to get married."

Listen to her words. does she say "I want to get married" of does she say "I want to marry you" does she say "I want kids" or does she say "I want your kids" There is a HUGH difference in potential outcomes for you depending on what her end goal is.

I really wish my father (or someone) had explained this to me when I was younger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, OP, you're sad. Is there a question you want to ask, you troll?

You said you've asked her about it and she said she loves you. You love her and see your life with her but wonder if she feels the same way.

You're contradicting yourself with your "doubts" and wondering if she feels the same way and you've literally written that she does (she loves you and you love her).

Not OP but it’s a valid question when her best friend just picked a good enough guy and his gf makes a comment like that. I would worry too.

You have no idea how many women settle for a “good enough” or throw any guy in when they’re ready to settle down. I know at least 5 women who admitted over the years to not being that in love but they wanted a husband and kids.

It's a very valid question. A large number of posters here admit every day they just wnt with a good enough guy because the clock was ticking on babies and they believed in a traditional family, they all admit to not liking their husband, miserable marriages and only hanging around for the kids.

+1.

And sometimes the woman settles for someone who is not what they dreamed of but go into the marriage with open eyes and realistic expectations. It’s called being a grown up and realizing those exceptions where not realistic.

h. Let's get one thing straight no one is talking about marrying the everyday Joe vs hoping Chris Ecbans will show up on your doorstep, Using someone to mark your checklist is not being a grown-up it's being selfish, and possibly psycho if you are so comfortable using another person.

[Anonymous]

I would run fast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, OP, you're sad. Is there a question you want to ask, you troll?

You said you've asked her about it and she said she loves you. You love her and see your life with her but wonder if she feels the same way.

You're contradicting yourself with your "doubts" and wondering if she feels the same way and you've literally written that she does (she loves you and you love her).

Not OP but it’s a valid question when her best friend just picked a good enough guy and his gf makes a comment like that. I would worry too.

You have no idea how many women settle for a “good enough” or throw any guy in when they’re ready to settle down. I know at least 5 women who admitted over the years to not being that in love but they wanted a husband and kids.

It's a very valid question. A large number of posters here admit every day they just wnt with a good enough guy because the clock was ticking on babies and they believed in a traditional family, they all admit to not liking their husband, miserable marriages and only hanging around for the kids.

+1.

And sometimes the woman settles for someone who is not what they dreamed of but go into the marriage with open eyes and realistic expectations. It’s called being a grown up and realizing those exceptions where not realistic.

It’s realistic it’s just the exception rather than the rule. That’s why there are so many affairs and divorces.

[Anonymous]

You ARE one of the many guys so be happy she chose you and STFU

[Anonymous]

I don’t personally know her and can’t tell you if she’s settling or really loves you but I said something similar to my now husband. I wanted to be upfront with what I wanted at the start so we weren’t wasting our time. However, if I felt he want the “one”, I would have broken up after a year and started over. He was the best I ever had and couldn’t imagine spending my life with someone else. It worked out in the end although due to infertility, we missed my “deadline” to have kids, took two more years but we both really love each other and are compatible. He also has the same fears as you BTW. I would talk to her. 6 months is pretty new.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t personally know her and can’t tell you if she’s settling or really loves you but I said something similar to my now husband. I wanted to be upfront with what I wanted at the start so we weren’t wasting our time. However, if I felt he want the “one”, I would have broken up after a year and started over. He was the best I ever had and couldn’t imagine spending my life with someone else. It worked out in the end although due to infertility, we missed my “deadline” to have kids, took two more years but we both really love each other and are compatible. He also has the same fears as you BTW. I would talk to her. 6 months is pretty new.

* had the same fears

[Anonymous]

Getting married to anyone is a leap of faith, OP. She answered your questions, so what else is there to be done other than break up and hope you meet someone else you might fall in love with?