Having Doubts About Girlfriend

[Anonymous]

I’ve been dating my girlfriend for six months, and while I’m happy, I have some worries about the relationship. She told me on the first date that she was looking to get married and settle down, which I understood and respected. I’m at a place in my life where I want the same thing too. She has had a timeline of when she wants to be married and have her first kid. I can’t help but wonder if she loves and sees a future with me, or if I just fit into her plan. One of her best friends admitted that she was not super in love with her husband at the time, but he fit most of wants, and she was ready to get married and started a family. My girlfriend said she understood and sometimes you have to settle a little in order to get the life you want. I’ve asked her about it and she said she loves me and she would not marry if she was sure, but I have this nagging feeling that I’m just one of the many guys she can fit into the role of her husband. Sometimes I think it’s crazy and I’m a paranoid, and other times I think it’s valid and worried about it. I love her and see my life with her, but I wonder if she feels the same way.

[Anonymous]

OMG, OP, you're sad. Is there a question you want to ask, you troll?

You said you've asked her about it and she said she loves you. You love her and see your life with her but wonder if she feels the same way.

You're contradicting yourself with your "doubts" and wondering if she feels the same way and you've literally written that she does (she loves you and you love her).

[Anonymous]

Are her parents married? What’s her view of a successful marriage?

[Anonymous]

She’s using you. Run fast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG, OP, you're sad. Is there a question you want to ask, you troll?

You said you've asked her about it and she said she loves you. You love her and see your life with her but wonder if she feels the same way.

You're contradicting yourself with your "doubts" and wondering if she feels the same way and you've literally written that she does (she loves you and you love her).

Not OP but it’s a valid question when her best friend just picked a good enough guy and his gf makes a comment like that. I would worry too.

You have no idea how many women settle for a “good enough” or throw any guy in when they’re ready to settle down. I know at least 5 women who admitted over the years to not being that in love but they wanted a husband and kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG, OP, you're sad. Is there a question you want to ask, you troll?

You said you've asked her about it and she said she loves you. You love her and see your life with her but wonder if she feels the same way.

You're contradicting yourself with your "doubts" and wondering if she feels the same way and you've literally written that she does (she loves you and you love her).

Stop calling troll on everything. You’re annoying.

[Anonymous]

OP, almost everyone who settles down recognizes that it could happen with more than one unique person. Just because you are in the right place at the right time does not mean she cannot love or build a loving meaningful life with you. In fact sometimes people love the principle even more than the person and that’s not necessarily bad. It keeps everything together through hard times. If she chooses you and you love her go for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, OP, you're sad. Is there a question you want to ask, you troll?

You said you've asked her about it and she said she loves you. You love her and see your life with her but wonder if she feels the same way.

You're contradicting yourself with your "doubts" and wondering if she feels the same way and you've literally written that she does (she loves you and you love her).

Not OP but it’s a valid question when her best friend just picked a good enough guy and his gf makes a comment like that. I would worry too.

You have no idea how many women settle for a “good enough” or throw any guy in when they’re ready to settle down. I know at least 5 women who admitted over the years to not being that in love but they wanted a husband and kids.

She told me on the first date that she was looking to get married and settle down, which I understood and respected. I’m at a place in my life where I want the same thing too.
followed by... [I love her and see my life with her, but I wonder if she feels the same way.[/b]

OP needs to look in the mirror because it sounds like OP is the one wondering if he should settle or not even though he has made a couple statements that seem to suggest they are good for each other. My guess is nobody is ever going to be good enough for OP because even if OP moves on from this person he loves, this will stay stuck in his head.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, OP, you're sad. Is there a question you want to ask, you troll?

You said you've asked her about it and she said she loves you. You love her and see your life with her but wonder if she feels the same way.

You're contradicting yourself with your "doubts" and wondering if she feels the same way and you've literally written that she does (she loves you and you love her).

Stop calling troll on everything. You’re annoying.

So is your face.

[Anonymous]

Men do the same thing, OP. They date and date and then decide they're ready to settle down and do the whole wife and kids thing. Whoever they're dating at that point is who becomes Mrs. It's not that complicated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, OP, you're sad. Is there a question you want to ask, you troll?

You said you've asked her about it and she said she loves you. You love her and see your life with her but wonder if she feels the same way.

You're contradicting yourself with your "doubts" and wondering if she feels the same way and you've literally written that she does (she loves you and you love her).

Stop calling troll on everything. You’re annoying.

So is your face.

Are you 5? Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, OP, you're sad. Is there a question you want to ask, you troll?

You said you've asked her about it and she said she loves you. You love her and see your life with her but wonder if she feels the same way.

You're contradicting yourself with your "doubts" and wondering if she feels the same way and you've literally written that she does (she loves you and you love her).

Stop calling troll on everything. You’re annoying.

So is your face.

You’re the troll that starts drama on every thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OMG, OP, you're sad. Is there a question you want to ask, you troll?

You said you've asked her about it and she said she loves you. You love her and see your life with her but wonder if she feels the same way.

You're contradicting yourself with your "doubts" and wondering if she feels the same way and you've literally written that she does (she loves you and you love her).

Stop calling troll on everything. You’re annoying.

So is your face.

Troll.

[Anonymous]

Do you struggle with imposter syndrome in other areas as well?

[Anonymous]

Trust your gut.