Normal behavior for high school senior?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your kid is overextended. They don't have to take all of those advanced classes.

OP here. No, she really isn’t. She’s very bright and handles the AP’s fairly easily. She’s getting all A’s with just a couple hours of homework each night. Her ec’s are student government and debate which is more time consuming but not unmanageable.

My concern is her lack of interest in high school life. She’s missed countless parties and school social events because she wanted to work (babysit) instead. She’s working all day today and this evening and had no problem canceling plans with friends when this job came up.

She’s socially checked out of high school. All she wants with her free time is to make money for college.

Just a few hours? Doesn't sound like she could have a personal life because she doesn't have time. She sounds depressed.

[Anonymous]

We called this senioritis when I was in high school in the 90s. I did something similar (I worked a part time job instead of playing a sport).

I was DONE. I was not depressed - just wasn’t interested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We called this senioritis when I was in high school in the 90s. I did something similar (I worked a part time job instead of playing a sport).

I was DONE. I was not depressed - just wasn’t interested.

+1

Same. Very normal to feel this way. It’s a good sign, she’s ready to fly the coop!

[Anonymous]

Your DD was me -- I was literally counting the days till I graduated and could leave for college.

I remember looking over at a friend of mine at our HS graduation. She was crying, and I was absolutely gobsmacked. It was probably the first time I experienced someone having the polar opposite reaction to a situation that I was having.

I could not have been happier to say goodbye to HS.

[Anonymous]

None of these kids had anything approaching a normal high school career. My senior is simultaneously loving spending time with friends and doing things like orchestra in person— and over high school in general. Depends on the day and the mood.

At lt she’s taking college apps seriously. Her brother did not, and around this time his senior year it was getting ugly.

[Anonymous]

I am just jealous that she's done with her apps ... when my senior still hasn't finished even his EA ones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your kid is overextended. They don't have to take all of those advanced classes.

OP here. No, she really isn’t. She’s very bright and handles the AP’s fairly easily. She’s getting all A’s with just a couple hours of homework each night. Her ec’s are student government and debate which is more time consuming but not unmanageable.

My concern is her lack of interest in high school life. She’s missed countless parties and school social events because she wanted to work (babysit) instead. She’s working all day today and this evening and had no problem canceling plans with friends when this job came up.

She’s socially checked out of high school. All she wants with her free time is to make money for college.

Just a few hours? Doesn't sound like she could have a personal life because she doesn't have time. She sounds depressed.

Wait!! NP here and your high school kid doesn’t study for a few hours every night?!! I’m shocked you think a few hours of studying is excessive today!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your kid is overextended. They don't have to take all of those advanced classes.

OP here. No, she really isn’t. She’s very bright and handles the AP’s fairly easily. She’s getting all A’s with just a couple hours of homework each night. Her ec’s are student government and debate which is more time consuming but not unmanageable.

My concern is her lack of interest in high school life. She’s missed countless parties and school social events because she wanted to work (babysit) instead. She’s working all day today and this evening and had no problem canceling plans with friends when this job came up.

She’s socially checked out of high school. All she wants with her free time is to make money for college.

Just a few hours? Doesn't sound like she could have a personal life because she doesn't have time. She sounds depressed.

You clearly know nothing about depression or how much kids study today. I bet you don’t have teenagers and are just trolling. NP here and you’re just embarrassing yourself, dude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We called this senioritis when I was in high school in the 90s. I did something similar (I worked a part time job instead of playing a sport).

I was DONE. I was not depressed - just wasn’t interested.

+1

Same. Very normal to feel this way. It’s a good sign, she’s ready to fly the coop!

+2. It’s actually a very positive approach. The girl isn’t ditching school or slacking but socially she’s moved on.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I went to school with the same kids for 12 years, and couldn't wait to get to college.

Your dad sounds over it OP, and knows college is so much better than anything she could do her senior year of high school. She will never see most of those people again after this year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I went to school with the same kids for 12 years, and couldn't wait to get to college.

Your dad sounds over it OP, and knows college is so much better than anything she could do her senior year of high school. She will never see most of those people again after this year.

What? My high school friends are still my best friends nearly 30 years later. Sounds like a lame high school.

[Anonymous]

My DD was like this - she just wanted to get on with college already and move on to the next phase. It's fine - they sort themselves out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We called this senioritis when I was in high school in the 90s. I did something similar (I worked a part time job instead of playing a sport).

I was DONE. I was not depressed - just wasn’t interested.

Exactly this. I was still an overachiever academically, but the moment I had my ED letter in hand, I was done. I handed the reins over to the juniors for the clubs I was in charge of and focused on my job because I knew I was covering my own books/discretionary spending and I had my ticket out of town already in hand. I spent any spare time I had and applied for every scholarship I thought I could qualify for and cobbled together $25k towards my first year of college from organizations that gave me anywhere from $250 to $5k each. That plus a Stafford loan covered the entire first year. My parents were thrilled with me, not questioning my choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We called this senioritis when I was in high school in the 90s. I did something similar (I worked a part time job instead of playing a sport).

I was DONE. I was not depressed - just wasn’t interested.

This is not senioritis.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't seem like she's over high school. IT seems like she's distancing herself from her friend group. This is how some people cope with big changes, so they don't have to deal with the emotions of saying good-by they just avoid or disappear.

It could also mean that something has happened in her group of friends.