Normal behavior for high school senior?

[Anonymous]

Yeah, senioritis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD has five AP classes and two EC commitments so she’s busy but totally emotionally checked out. She only does the social stuff she has to do and just wants to babysit for college money on weekends now. She waiting for EA acceptance letter and has all he applications for college done.

She doesn’t seem depressed, no weight loss or weight gain, has continued running every morning. It’s like she’s over high school and not the least bit interested in “savoring” her last year. College is everything for her now.

Anyone else’s kid doing this?

Yeah - mine just clocked in/out of senior year. Some kids savor, mine was just ready for the next stage. Good luck, OP. Your kid sounds great!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I went to school with the same kids for 12 years, and couldn't wait to get to college.

Your dad sounds over it OP, and knows college is so much better than anything she could do her senior year of high school. She will never see most of those people again after this year.

What? My high school friends are still my best friends nearly 30 years later. Sounds like a lame high school.

FWIW, I still love my high school friends but my closest friends are from college and grad school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I went to school with the same kids for 12 years, and couldn't wait to get to college.

Your dad sounds over it OP, and knows college is so much better than anything she could do her senior year of high school. She will never see most of those people again after this year.

What? My high school friends are still my best friends nearly 30 years later. Sounds like a lame high school.

+1 Still talk to my high school friends every week, along with college friends. We were planning a trip to see them in Japan earlier today(they came up few months ago!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD has five AP classes and two EC commitments so she’s busy but totally emotionally checked out. She only does the social stuff she has to do and just wants to babysit for college money on weekends now. She waiting for EA acceptance letter and has all he applications for college done.

She doesn’t seem depressed, no weight loss or weight gain, has continued running every morning. It’s like she’s over high school and not the least bit interested in “savoring” her last year. College is everything for her now.

Anyone else’s kid doing this?

Every senior last year was like this because there was no senior year. It’s fine. Let her look forward as long as she’s productively using her time in some way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your kid is overextended. They don't have to take all of those advanced classes.

OP here. No, she really isn’t. She’s very bright and handles the AP’s fairly easily. She’s getting all A’s with just a couple hours of homework each night. Her ec’s are student government and debate which is more time consuming but not unmanageable.

My concern is her lack of interest in high school life. She’s missed countless parties and school social events because she wanted to work (babysit) instead. She’s working all day today and this evening and had no problem canceling plans with friends when this job came up.

She’s socially checked out of high school. All she wants with her free time is to make money for college.

Well what's her financial reality for college? Will she have to work all the way through it? Maybe she's really stressed about the responsibility and is focused on getting a jump on it so she has more time to study once she's in college? That seems possible.

I don't see anything drastically unusual about her behavior in the broad sense. Knowing a bit life change is coming up and maybe being over your current life or friends or school seems common.

[Anonymous]

Did you ask HER? Did you tell her what you've observed and ask her what is happening in her mind and emotions about it?

On a very different track, is she hanging out with anyone on her babysitting gigs? Someone she's dating or a BFF? Just a thought as I know some teens with boyfriends/girlfriends who have them come and hang out while they babysit, especially for very young kids or kids who will go to bed at som epoint and parents out for awhile.

[Anonymous]

And maybe she'll relax when she gets in

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your kid is overextended. They don't have to take all of those advanced classes.

OP here. No, she really isn’t. She’s very bright and handles the AP’s fairly easily. She’s getting all A’s with just a couple hours of homework each night. Her ec’s are student government and debate which is more time consuming but not unmanageable.

My concern is her lack of interest in high school life. She’s missed countless parties and school social events because she wanted to work (babysit) instead. She’s working all day today and this evening and had no problem canceling plans with friends when this job came up.

She’s socially checked out of high school. All she wants with her free time is to make money for college.

Np Is this a problem? It looks like you raised a smart girl! Would you prefer that she partied all weekend?

[Anonymous]

If she isn’t savoring it, she isn’t savoring it. Maybe she is done. That’s all.

Stop acting ,Ike my mom, who always got stressed about every typical thing I might have chosen not to do. Your daughter is fine. She is living a life, not a movie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I went to school with the same kids for 12 years, and couldn't wait to get to college.

Your dad sounds over it OP, and knows college is so much better than anything she could do her senior year of high school. She will never see most of those people again after this year.

What? My high school friends are still my best friends nearly 30 years later. Sounds like a lame high school.

+1 Still talk to my high school friends every week, along with college friends. We were planning a trip to see them in Japan earlier today(they came up few months ago!)

Some people have that, some don’t. Mileage varies.

[Anonymous]

It’s certainly in the range of normal behavior and actually makes more sense than “savoring” (although I savored!). As long as her grades and obligations aren’t slipping, she’s planning ahead. That’s a good thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your kid is overextended. They don't have to take all of those advanced classes.

AP classes are just what normal classes are in the rest of the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I went to school with the same kids for 12 years, and couldn't wait to get to college.

Your dad sounds over it OP, and knows college is so much better than anything she could do her senior year of high school. She will never see most of those people again after this year.

What? My high school friends are still my best friends nearly 30 years later. Sounds like a lame high school.

You think everyone in your high school had the same high school experience as you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like your kid is overextended. They don't have to take all of those advanced classes.

That's why she's "checked out" probably.
-DP