Blue Collar vs White Collar

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Once they realize you think you’re above them, they will lose interest, so save yourself the hassle and embarrassment.

She’s not “above” them. She merely makes more money.

But that's how many of these guys think when they meet a women who makes more than them, she's above them and if they don't ghost spend their time trying to bring her down

Nah. Men are socialized to have a certain entitlement to women. I’ve known plenty of unemployed middle aged loser men who can’t understand why a young and attractive female lawyer wouldn’t want him. Men always think they’re good enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Once they realize you think you’re above them, they will lose interest, so save yourself the hassle and embarrassment.

She’s not “above” them. She merely makes more money.

You’re delusional. OP clearly signaled that she was above them and used income to prove that point.

[Anonymous]

I think you should look for men who like to do what you do and share common values. I’m white collar and DH is not. We have tons in common. We love nature and hike regularly. We both run/exercise and travel around to races. We love traveling, sports, the ocean, and animals. I’ve found that making my own money freed up space for more possibilities. I didn’t need to look for men to support a lifestyle greater than what I could give myself. I just looked at personality, appearance/chemistry, shared values, and common activities.

I dated white collar men previously and found many of them to be soft-bodied, desk jockeys that always want to talk about work. You’ll never know if you don’t give someone a chance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Once they realize you think you’re above them, they will lose interest, so save yourself the hassle and embarrassment.

She’s not “above” them. She merely makes more money.

But that's how many of these guys think when they meet a women who makes more than them, she's above them and if they don't ghost spend their time trying to bring her down

Nah. Men are socialized to have a certain entitlement to women. I’ve known plenty of unemployed middle aged loser men who can’t understand why a young and attractive female lawyer wouldn’t want him. Men always think they’re good enough.

Every woman thinks she deserves a 6’ 2” jacked CEO even if she’s a fat tatted 40-ish single mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Once they realize you think you’re above them, they will lose interest, so save yourself the hassle and embarrassment.

She’s not “above” them. She merely makes more money.

But that's how many of these guys think when they meet a women who makes more than them, she's above them and if they don't ghost spend their time trying to bring her down

Nah. Men are socialized to have a certain entitlement to women. I’ve known plenty of unemployed middle aged loser men who can’t understand why a young and attractive female lawyer wouldn’t want him. Men always think they’re good enough.

Every woman thinks she deserves a 6’ 2” jacked CEO even if she’s a fat tatted 40-ish single mom.

There's the incel, he shows up on almost every relationship thread whining about fat women who want nothing to do with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Once they realize you think you’re above them, they will lose interest, so save yourself the hassle and embarrassment.

She’s not “above” them. She merely makes more money.

You’re delusional. OP clearly signaled that she was above them and used income to prove that point.

Op here- I didnt say I was above them, Just that im not sure we would be compatible! I have disposable income that allows me to travel and indulge in other activities that they might not be able to afford. How would that work then? I’m also not sure there would be intellectual compatibility as our worlds would be very different: All of my circle is white collar, so this would also make it harder to navigate. I would like to hear from women who have been in these situations to hear how they worked it out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a physician. Both of my parents and one sibling are also physicians. My other two siblings are lawyers. I prefer “blue collar”men. They’re handy, they’re in shape, they have reasonable work hours, and some make a lot of money. Most are able to start saving years earlier than people who have ten years of post secondary education. The smartest, most interesting man I dated was in the landscaping business. During the winter, he did occasional snow removal, read a lot, traveled and worked on his house. He played the sax and spoke three languages. He was tanned and in great shape without needing to lift weights. In the evenings, he wasn’t drained and ambivalent about everything. My current partner has a roofing business. He has a beautiful home which he renovated himself, he’s mortgage free, and has savings. We have plenty to talk about because he’s well read and well traveled. He’s unpretentious and has a decent, uncomplicated relationship with his ex wife, who is now re married to a fire fighter. One of his daughters wants to work with him, the other wants to be a vet.

Op here- I think your examples are very different. Someone who owns/runs their business would be a very different experience from someone delivering for UPS or working in a restaurant as opposed to owning the restaurant, should have been more clear in my post

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you should look for men who like to do what you do and share common values. I’m white collar and DH is not. We have tons in common. We love nature and hike regularly. We both run/exercise and travel around to races. We love traveling, sports, the ocean, and animals. I’ve found that making my own money freed up space for more possibilities. I didn’t need to look for men to support a lifestyle greater than what I could give myself. I just looked at personality, appearance/chemistry, shared values, and common activities.

I dated white collar men previously and found many of them to be soft-bodied, desk jockeys that always want to talk about work. You’ll never know if you don’t give someone a chance.

What do you do and what does he do? Salary wise, whats the difference in earnings?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Once they realize you think you’re above them, they will lose interest, so save yourself the hassle and embarrassment.

She’s not “above” them. She merely makes more money.

But that's how many of these guys think when they meet a women who makes more than them, she's above them and if they don't ghost spend their time trying to bring her down

Nah. Men are socialized to have a certain entitlement to women. I’ve known plenty of unemployed middle aged loser men who can’t understand why a young and attractive female lawyer wouldn’t want him. Men always think they’re good enough.

Hey "Nah" girl, you have to move yourself out of the trailer park so you won't see as many unemployed middle aged loser men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Once they realize you think you’re above them, they will lose interest, so save yourself the hassle and embarrassment.

She’s not “above” them. She merely makes more money.

But that's how many of these guys think when they meet a women who makes more than them, she's above them and if they don't ghost spend their time trying to bring her down

Nah. Men are socialized to have a certain entitlement to women. I’ve known plenty of unemployed middle aged loser men who can’t understand why a young and attractive female lawyer wouldn’t want him. Men always think they’re good enough.

Really? Who socializes these men? Is there a book they learn from or some class they take? Where does this all happen? Or is you little theory just a big wafting pile of sh1t?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Once they realize you think you’re above them, they will lose interest, so save yourself the hassle and embarrassment.

She’s not “above” them. She merely makes more money.

But that's how many of these guys think when they meet a women who makes more than them, she's above them and if they don't ghost spend their time trying to bring her down

Nah. Men are socialized to have a certain entitlement to women. I’ve known plenty of unemployed middle aged loser men who can’t understand why a young and attractive female lawyer wouldn’t want him. Men always think they’re good enough.

Hey "Nah" girl, you have to move yourself out of the trailer park so you won't see as many unemployed middle aged loser men.

I’m a lawyer and live in the townhouse I own.

[Anonymous]

No scrubs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Once they realize you think you’re above them, they will lose interest, so save yourself the hassle and embarrassment.

She’s not “above” them. She merely makes more money.

But that's how many of these guys think when they meet a women who makes more than them, she's above them and if they don't ghost spend their time trying to bring her down

Nah. Men are socialized to have a certain entitlement to women. I’ve known plenty of unemployed middle aged loser men who can’t understand why a young and attractive female lawyer wouldn’t want him. Men always think they’re good enough.

Hey "Nah" girl, you have to move yourself out of the trailer park so you won't see as many unemployed middle aged loser men.

I’m a lawyer and live in the townhouse I own.

Good for you. Why is it lawyers always feel the need to tell you they’re lawyers even when you don’t ask and no one cares? Perhaps a sense of entitlement their opinions are somehow more valid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Once they realize you think you’re above them, they will lose interest, so save yourself the hassle and embarrassment.

She’s not “above” them. She merely makes more money.

But that's how many of these guys think when they meet a women who makes more than them, she's above them and if they don't ghost spend their time trying to bring her down

Nah. Men are socialized to have a certain entitlement to women. I’ve known plenty of unemployed middle aged loser men who can’t understand why a young and attractive female lawyer wouldn’t want him. Men always think they’re good enough.

Hey "Nah" girl, you have to move yourself out of the trailer park so you won't see as many unemployed middle aged loser men.

I’m a lawyer and live in the townhouse I own.

Good for you. Why is it lawyers always feel the need to tell you they’re lawyers even when you don’t ask and no one cares? Perhaps a sense of entitlement their opinions are somehow more valid?

No, the person I was responding to suggested that I live in a trailer park. I was merely correcting them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Once they realize you think you’re above them, they will lose interest, so save yourself the hassle and embarrassment.

She’s not “above” them. She merely makes more money.

You’re delusional. OP clearly signaled that she was above them and used income to prove that point.

Op here- I didnt say I was above them, Just that im not sure we would be compatible! I have disposable income that allows me to travel and indulge in other activities that they might not be able to afford. How would that work then? I’m also not sure there would be intellectual compatibility as our worlds would be very different: All of my circle is white collar, so this would also make it harder to navigate. I would like to hear from women who have been in these situations to hear how they worked it out

I have a graduate degree and work in a white collar job. I once dated a guy who worked in a hardware store. He was really sweet and interesting, also super hot. There was a cultural difference so that was cool because he could take me to a restaurant from his country and explain the food and wine. We traveled together, he met my friends who liked him. It was not a long relationship — less than a year — and I can’t remember how it ended, but there weren’t any hard feelings. I think in this case there were personality differences, he was not super driven and was a bit directionless.

It really depends what you’re looking for in a partner but I doubt those things would come down to the particular job (unless you like being with someone who can understand your career challenges) as opposed to personality/character, education (whether formal or informal), values, and life goals.