Friends 4 yo still wears a diaper all the time

[Anonymous]

That was my nephew. It was pure laziness but he eventually potty trained at 4.5. They would change him openly in the living room and I found it SO gross.

[Anonymous]

Daytime diapers is pretty unusual, which you are fully aware of. So, I’m not sure why you are asking. Either there is a medical or developmental issue or a parenting issue. I’m not sure why it matters to you. This will come to a head with kindergarten as the school susses out what to do.

That said, as the parent of a child that will never, ever potty trained due to disability, I can remember the special Ed team telling us the didn’t worry about potty training until age 5. While unusual not to be trained earlier, it wasn’t considered a “delay” until age 5.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That was my nephew. It was pure laziness but he eventually potty trained at 4.5. They would change him openly in the living room and I found it SO gross.

Was the potty training initiated by the kid or did the parent finally get proactive?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There’s probably a hidden disability you don’t know about.

That’s possible and they really don’t want friends to know. But if I was a parent of a 4/5 yo kid who wore diapers, I’d want friends to know that’s it’s due to an underlying medical issue. Bc the alternate option of my kid is totally normal and we just have been nonchalant about it seems more awkward and embarrassing for the kid. No?

“But if I were facing a disability or a medical challenge”…shut up. You don’t know.

-NP

Actually you shut up. How do you know what I’m facing. O you don’t.

We know you don’t know what your “friends” are facing, or you wouldn’t be here asking. I say “friends” because you’re actually a judgmental gossip and they’d be well-rid of the likes of you.

[Anonymous]

Oh my god, mind your own business you horrid b_tch.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:MYOB.

I do mind my own business. Hence where I said in my original post that I would never comment to the parents as it’s not my business how they parents. I’m curious, so I’m posting on a completely anonymous forum to ask a question out of curiosity. That’s the whole point.

You’re clearly not MYOB or you wouldn’t be posting about this. I had a kid who toilet trained late. ADHD + sensory issues + no desire to stop what he was doing to use the bathroom= lots of accidents. Guess what? He’s in 8th grade now, has great grades, is a stand-out athlete, I’ve been told my other moms is regarded as the most popular boy in his grade, and is a kind, good kid. Seriously, save your judgement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That was my nephew. It was pure laziness but he eventually potty trained at 4.5. They would change him openly in the living room and I found it SO gross.

False news. A 4.5 yr old doesn't lay on the ground and let their parent change them in front of others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MYOB.

I do mind my own business. Hence where I said in my original post that I would never comment to the parents as it’s not my business how they parents. I’m curious, so I’m posting on a completely anonymous forum to ask a question out of curiosity. That’s the whole point.

You’re clearly not MYOB or you wouldn’t be posting about this. I had a kid who toilet trained late. ADHD + sensory issues + no desire to stop what he was doing to use the bathroom= lots of accidents. Guess what? He’s in 8th grade now, has great grades, is a stand-out athlete, I’ve been told my other moms is regarded as the most popular boy in his grade, and is a kind, good kid. Seriously, save your judgement.

Oh my "the most popular boy". LMAO. That just means the girls want to hook up with him. It's not some accolade.

There's nothing wrong with OP checking her own judgement of whether its "normal" or not.

[Anonymous]

It’s really not a big deal at all. As long as the kid is happy and healthy does it matter if he wears diapers? I wouldn’t even give it a second thought. Let kids be kids.

[Anonymous]

This post seems full of defensive people who had kids who trained really late.

Yes disabilities can cause issues, but the majority of the time I’ve found it’s bc the parents are undisciplined, kinda lazy (expect the child to figure it out on their own rather than put real effort into it), and are not able to push through their child’s resistance or challenges. I’m certainly not a perfect parent myself, but there is something a little disturbing about 4 year olds still pooping in a diaper

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s possible there is a medical issue and your friends are covering for it. But unless the child has medical documentation of a disability, no kindergarten is going to let in an un-potty-trained kid.

Schools don’t actually have a choice about who they let in. Public schools anyway. That’s not how it works.

[Anonymous]

My friend’s child potty trained at 4.5. He had sensory issues and required occupational therapy.

[Anonymous]

100% not your business.

My niece has chronic GI issues that cause her to have pretty frequent accidents. She’s had surgeries and therapy, but it’s still an issue.

She’s 6 and so so self conscious about it. Even with these specialized sleek diapers that are thinner and supposedly less noticeable. You never know Op.

[Anonymous]

My kids are very delayed with toilet training, so I've had 3 with diapers at 5/6, but I found it hugely stressful and tried everything under the sun

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s almost as if it’s…none of your business.

It’s not. My question is if it’s not unusual for kids to wear diapers full time at this age.

Look, pp, op just hatched from an egg and was just WONDERING if this was normal. Not being a nosy and judgmental frenemy at all.