Does anyone else just hate the newborn stage so much?

[Anonymous]

My god yes it is absolute hell. I remember wondering if I would survive with my first. I’m now pregnant with my second and just imagining the newborn stage with complete and utter dread.

[Anonymous]

I'm with you, OP. Newborn stage is pure hell. I think some people can handle the lack of sleep, but I sure couldn't. We're one and done and honestly it's mostly bc I just can't imagine doing the baby phase again.

[Anonymous]

Solidarity, OP. You'll get there, just hang on.

[Anonymous]

I was totally 100% a hater of thr newborn stage. When I found out I was having a third, one of my first thought was "oh crap I have to have a newborn again"

[Anonymous]

They’re basically cute potatoes who scream all the tinev they’re conscious. And the lack of sleep is brutal. Solidarity, OP.

[Anonymous]

If you can afford it get a night nurse for a couple of nights and pump. You are not weak or selfish for needing sleep. The best piece of newborn parenting advice I ever got was “we were never designed to do all of it ourselves”.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for saying all this OP. I was feeling the same way but have been too ashamed and guilty to put voice to it.

[Anonymous]

I had no previous interest in newborns before having kids, and I actually liked the newborn stage more than I expected to (but I also function well on minimal sleep). My least favorite stage is 9-18 months when they are mobile but don't communicate well verbally.

[Anonymous]

Haha I love newborns. If I could go to a snowy cabin alone with a newborn and a maid/cook, I’d be all set. 3 months to uhhh 5 years really tests my patience though haha.

[Anonymous]

I guess I'm the odd one out!
I LOVE the newborn stage so much. My baby is 9 weeks old right now and I wish I could just freeze time. I felt the same with DC1. DC2 is our last kid, and I'm really sad I won't have more newborns in my future.

[Anonymous]

So hard and no one else seems to get it. I have a 7 week old too. My mom asked why my Dh watched the baby until 10am this morning. She said he should have been working instead. I was like what?! I’m up all night so he takes the baby for 3 hours to let me sleep in. Just because my baby seems easy and happy, doesn’t mean it isn’t hard and I’m still up every 3 hours all night long.

I really love newborns though. It’s my favorite stage.

[Anonymous]

I’m much happier even with the sleep deprivation now than I was the first time. I am formula feeding now, and it’s so much easier than nursing since I had trouble breastfeeding.

The gratitude of an easier situation really helps get through the downside of this phase. Maybe imagine things had gone worse in some angle and the gratitude will make it better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My second is seven weeks. I hate my life right now. I’ve never functioned well without adequate sleep. We sleep trained our first right at 4 months and since then I’ve loved my life and being a mom. I know once this one is sleep trained I’ll be able to enjoy her too. But right now I just want to run away to a hotel and sleep for a week and hide from everyone.

Nursing is going well, which is great, my husband is fantastic and I pump so he can do the middle of the night feed once or twice a week. Baby is doing really well. I’m just so miserable. I can’t wait for this phase to end and we’re not even half way through it.

Please don’t tell me to suck it up. I AM sucking it up, every damn day. I just hate it.



I don’t even know what I’m asking for. Solidarity? Advice? Just a vent? Ugh, I don’t even know.

Extreme irritability is a sign of depression.

[Anonymous]

Maybe I’m different but I loved the newborn stage. The breastfeeding challenges and sleep deprivation was less than ideal, but baby slept so much and I was able to why so much done. Now he is 6 months old and I feel like I can’t do anything without him trying to get into something or crying because he can’t see me for more than a minute. It’s a fun age and I love that he’s more interactive, but I miss the days where I could get things done. On the plus side, I sleep a full nights sleep.

[Anonymous]

It was so awful. I wanted to die and regretted having the baby during the darkest times. I can’t function without sleep. Next time I am definitely hiring a full time baby nurse.