Bennifer Revisited

[Anonymous]

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It was obvious from the get go—at least to some of us—that, this union was a mismatch of two entirely different people. Garner and Affleck really have nothing in common. He allowed PR machines and potentially racist family members to influence a choice that quite frankly should've been made by none other than himself . This union should've never happened . Therefore , all things considered, why would anyone be surprised that a deadbeat of his caliber fails to show any contrition and instead plays the victim by arguing that he felt trapped ?

The one thing they have in common is a wish for a stable, traditional nuclear family. Wasn't enough to make it last, but I think they both very much want that.

Good lord ! Where do I begin ? I'm not sure which is scarier; your cluelessness or the fact that you genuinely believe the crap you wrote . Ben Affleck is not and will never be a family man . The core of his split from his ex wife is precisely because he wouldn't behave like someone with a wife and kids . Yet, here you are literally saying the dumbest thing possible, its like you live in an alternate universe or something.

Wow, that is a really personal ad hominem attack on a random stranger on the internet with an opinion. Seek help.

Seek better arguments, wanna-be therapist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What he said is completely awful. Jen G was the best thing that ever happened to him. I am so glad Jen G and the kids are away from him. I pray there is no lasting damage to those kids.

Know what the worst thing is? I don't think he is into his kids either. Remember all those pictures of him and Jen G together when they were a couple and he was always looking bored/not into her/so completely different of his pictures with JLO (or even when he was pictured with Gwyneth, Ana, any other girlfriend)? He has that same look when he is pictured with his kids. That bored, not really into them type of look. He seems much more animated/has more of that look with JLo's kids.

ITA with this. It's just the same old story. He was never really into her, she got pregnant because she was desperate to get him, he never planned to be the family man, stayed because he wanted a son but kept cheating etc. etc. Don't forget that Garner was married when she hooked up with him in Daredevil in 2002. She was cheating on Scott Foley with him for over a year, as her and Scott didn't separate until 2003 and divorced in 2004. Ben probably thought he was safe by sleeping with a married woman - no commitment required. Then she divorced for him and trapped him with the pregnancy. He's still bitter about it. Scott Foley is the only lucky one here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

It was obvious from the get go—at least to some of us—that, this union was a mismatch of two entirely different people. Garner and Affleck really have nothing in common. He allowed PR machines and potentially racist family members to influence a choice that quite frankly should've been made by none other than himself . This union should've never happened . Therefore , all things considered, why would anyone be surprised that a deadbeat of his caliber fails to show any contrition and instead plays the victim by arguing that he felt trapped ?

The one thing they have in common is a wish for a stable, traditional nuclear family. Wasn't enough to make it last, but I think they both very much want that.

Good lord ! Where do I begin ? I'm not sure which is scarier; your cluelessness or the fact that you genuinely believe the crap you wrote . Ben Affleck is not and will never be a family man . The core of his split from his ex wife is precisely because he wouldn't behave like someone with a wife and kids . Yet, here you are literally saying the dumbest thing possible, its like you live in an alternate universe or something.

Wow, that is a really personal ad hominem attack on a random stranger on the internet with an opinion. Seek help.

Agree, 1+ (NP). We are all having fun playing armchair therapist here, yourself included hostile PP. No need to rage (and a little calm might help your punctuation).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What he said is completely awful. Jen G was the best thing that ever happened to him. I am so glad Jen G and the kids are away from him. I pray there is no lasting damage to those kids.

Know what the worst thing is? I don't think he is into his kids either. Remember all those pictures of him and Jen G together when they were a couple and he was always looking bored/not into her/so completely different of his pictures with JLO (or even when he was pictured with Gwyneth, Ana, any other girlfriend)? He has that same look when he is pictured with his kids. That bored, not really into them type of look. He seems much more animated/has more of that look with JLo's kids.

ITA with this. It's just the same old story. He was never really into her, she got pregnant because she was desperate to get him, he never planned to be the family man, stayed because he wanted a son but kept cheating etc. etc. Don't forget that Garner was married when she hooked up with him in Daredevil in 2002. She was cheating on Scott Foley with him for over a year, as her and Scott didn't separate until 2003 and divorced in 2004. Ben probably thought he was safe by sleeping with a married woman - no commitment required. Then she divorced for him and trapped him with the pregnancy. He's still bitter about it. Scott Foley is the only lucky one here.

So I thought she cheated on Scott Foley with Michael Vartan and then dumped Vartan once Ben became available after the enagagement to JLo ended. I do think she had her eyes set on Ben the whole time and she’s a cautionary tale to be careful what you wish for.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who got pregnant by her on again off again boyfriend. He married her. They then lost their child after birth. And they were split up less than a year later.

I think that Affleck likely THOUGHT he wanted to be a family man in that moment when he found out JenG was pregnant. So, he tried to play that role for a while (like my friend's ex did). Discovered it wasn't all it was cracked up to be or whatever his excuse was. So he gave up and moved on, but she is left with the 3 kids he probably never should have created with her.

This is true. Garner used the old trick of pressuring marriage with a pregnancy, this is the moment when Ben should've called it quits.

I never said that these women got pregnant to trap or pressure a guy to marry them. It is such a sexist assumption that a woman does this on purpose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What he said is completely awful. Jen G was the best thing that ever happened to him. I am so glad Jen G and the kids are away from him. I pray there is no lasting damage to those kids.

Know what the worst thing is? I don't think he is into his kids either. Remember all those pictures of him and Jen G together when they were a couple and he was always looking bored/not into her/so completely different of his pictures with JLO (or even when he was pictured with Gwyneth, Ana, any other girlfriend)? He has that same look when he is pictured with his kids. That bored, not really into them type of look. He seems much more animated/has more of that look with JLo's kids.

ITA with this. It's just the same old story. He was never really into her, she got pregnant because she was desperate to get him, he never planned to be the family man, stayed because he wanted a son but kept cheating etc. etc. Don't forget that Garner was married when she hooked up with him in Daredevil in 2002. She was cheating on Scott Foley with him for over a year, as her and Scott didn't separate until 2003 and divorced in 2004. Ben probably thought he was safe by sleeping with a married woman - no commitment required. Then she divorced for him and trapped him with the pregnancy. He's still bitter about it. Scott Foley is the only lucky one here.

2+. If possible, he actually seemed demonstrably less interested in the kids than in Garner. Otherwise put, perversely, I think if he had not associated Garner so much with the kids/motherhood, the (romantic) bloom might not have come off the rose so fast. (If nothing else, I think narcissists enjoy being the center of someone else's universe and she was certainly willing to play that role... pre-kids.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

It was obvious from the get go—at least to some of us—that, this union was a mismatch of two entirely different people. Garner and Affleck really have nothing in common. He allowed PR machines and potentially racist family members to influence a choice that quite frankly should've been made by none other than himself . This union should've never happened . Therefore , all things considered, why would anyone be surprised that a deadbeat of his caliber fails to show any contrition and instead plays the victim by arguing that he felt trapped ?

The one thing they have in common is a wish for a stable, traditional nuclear family. Wasn't enough to make it last, but I think they both very much want that.

Good lord ! Where do I begin ? I'm not sure which is scarier; your cluelessness or the fact that you genuinely believe the crap you wrote . Ben Affleck is not and will never be a family man . The core of his split from his ex wife is precisely because he wouldn't behave like someone with a wife and kids . Yet, here you are literally saying the dumbest thing possible, its like you live in an alternate universe or something.

what do you think jlo wanted from him when they were engaged all those years ago? she, too, wanted a devoted husband and a bunch of kids. or do you think she wanted cheating and threesomes and a childless marriage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What he said is completely awful. Jen G was the best thing that ever happened to him. I am so glad Jen G and the kids are away from him. I pray there is no lasting damage to those kids.

Know what the worst thing is? I don't think he is into his kids either. Remember all those pictures of him and Jen G together when they were a couple and he was always looking bored/not into her/so completely different of his pictures with JLO (or even when he was pictured with Gwyneth, Ana, any other girlfriend)? He has that same look when he is pictured with his kids. That bored, not really into them type of look. He seems much more animated/has more of that look with JLo's kids.

Because it’s a lot easier to play part-time Disney Dad than to actually parent full-time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What he said is completely awful. Jen G was the best thing that ever happened to him. I am so glad Jen G and the kids are away from him. I pray there is no lasting damage to those kids.

Know what the worst thing is? I don't think he is into his kids either. Remember all those pictures of him and Jen G together when they were a couple and he was always looking bored/not into her/so completely different of his pictures with JLO (or even when he was pictured with Gwyneth, Ana, any other girlfriend)? He has that same look when he is pictured with his kids. That bored, not really into them type of look. He seems much more animated/has more of that look with JLo's kids.

Because it’s a lot easier to play part-time Disney Dad than to actually parent full-time.

+1 exactly!!

[Anonymous]

Weird I did not find this interview offensive and really did not read it as criticizing or blaming Jennifer Garner.

He basically said they were having problems, he was unhappy, and instead of behaving responsibly he drank. And that if he'd stayed in the relationship he would probably not have gotten sober.

That isn't a criticism of Jennifer Garner, its just probably an accurate perspective on his feelings. She could be the greatest wife ever (she kind of seems like she was!) and still be not totally right together. Love doesn't always work like that. Someone isn't 'good' or 'bad' because another person falls in or out of love with them.

I think Ben Affleck has made a lot of poor choices, but I think talking about his sobriety and the difficult path to get there isn't one of them. Maybe it will help someone else on a similar journey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weird I did not find this interview offensive and really did not read it as criticizing or blaming Jennifer Garner.

He basically said they were having problems, he was unhappy, and instead of behaving responsibly he drank. And that if he'd stayed in the relationship he would probably not have gotten sober.

That isn't a criticism of Jennifer Garner, its just probably an accurate perspective on his feelings. She could be the greatest wife ever (she kind of seems like she was!) and still be not totally right together. Love doesn't always work like that. Someone isn't 'good' or 'bad' because another person falls in or out of love with them.

I think Ben Affleck has made a lot of poor choices, but I think talking about his sobriety and the difficult path to get there isn't one of them. Maybe it will help someone else on a similar journey.

but he didn't get sober! he was continued to drink after the divorce. I kind of agree with you that he didn't mean to blame garner but his whole theory does not make sense at all. he didn't start to drink during marriage and didn't stop after it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who got pregnant by her on again off again boyfriend. He married her. They then lost their child after birth. And they were split up less than a year later.

I think that Affleck likely THOUGHT he wanted to be a family man in that moment when he found out JenG was pregnant. So, he tried to play that role for a while (like my friend's ex did). Discovered it wasn't all it was cracked up to be or whatever his excuse was. So he gave up and moved on, but she is left with the 3 kids he probably never should have created with her.

This is true. Garner used the old trick of pressuring marriage with a pregnancy, this is the moment when Ben should've called it quits.

I never said that these women got pregnant to trap or pressure a guy to marry them. It is such a sexist assumption that a woman does this on purpose.

I never said you did .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weird I did not find this interview offensive and really did not read it as criticizing or blaming Jennifer Garner.

He basically said they were having problems, he was unhappy, and instead of behaving responsibly he drank. And that if he'd stayed in the relationship he would probably not have gotten sober.

That isn't a criticism of Jennifer Garner, its just probably an accurate perspective on his feelings. She could be the greatest wife ever (she kind of seems like she was!) and still be not totally right together. Love doesn't always work like that. Someone isn't 'good' or 'bad' because another person falls in or out of love with them.

I think Ben Affleck has made a lot of poor choices, but I think talking about his sobriety and the difficult path to get there isn't one of them. Maybe it will help someone else on a similar journey.

Or maybe it's both at the same time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What he said is completely awful. Jen G was the best thing that ever happened to him. I am so glad Jen G and the kids are away from him. I pray there is no lasting damage to those kids.

Know what the worst thing is? I don't think he is into his kids either. Remember all those pictures of him and Jen G together when they were a couple and he was always looking bored/not into her/so completely different of his pictures with JLO (or even when he was pictured with Gwyneth, Ana, any other girlfriend)? He has that same look when he is pictured with his kids. That bored, not really into them type of look. He seems much more animated/has more of that look with JLo's kids.

ITA with this. It's just the same old story. He was never really into her, she got pregnant because she was desperate to get him, he never planned to be the family man, stayed because he wanted a son but kept cheating etc. etc. Don't forget that Garner was married when she hooked up with him in Daredevil in 2002. She was cheating on Scott Foley with him for over a year, as her and Scott didn't separate until 2003 and divorced in 2004. Ben probably thought he was safe by sleeping with a married woman - no commitment required. Then she divorced for him and trapped him with the pregnancy. He's still bitter about it. Scott Foley is the only lucky one here.

Scott foley has said there was no cheating. Maybe he’s only saying it because he’s a nice guy, or to save face if it’s embarrassing for him, but don’t know why he wouldn’t skewer her nice girl reputation if she had in fact cheated.

Also, I believe she dated Michael vartan between scott foley and ben affleck. So Michael vartan would be the one she cheated on while filming daredevil, if there was cheating involved. Wasn’t daredevil a 2004 movie?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who got pregnant by her on again off again boyfriend. He married her. They then lost their child after birth. And they were split up less than a year later.

I think that Affleck likely THOUGHT he wanted to be a family man in that moment when he found out JenG was pregnant. So, he tried to play that role for a while (like my friend's ex did). Discovered it wasn't all it was cracked up to be or whatever his excuse was. So he gave up and moved on, but she is left with the 3 kids he probably never should have created with her.

This is true. Garner used the old trick of pressuring marriage with a pregnancy, this is the moment when Ben should've called it quits.

I never said that these women got pregnant to trap or pressure a guy to marry them. It is such a sexist assumption that a woman does this on purpose.

I never said you did .

It is pretty hard to interpret the “old trick” part as anything else…