How long to get pregnant? What was your age for each pregnancy?

[Anonymous]

hello,

I'm of course starting to get panicked since I keep hearing of friends who get pregnant immendiately and we are on the 4th cycle right now, no luck. I am 29.

Please post your age and how long it took to get pregnant.

[Anonymous]

32- got pregnant immediately
34- got pregnant immediately

I'm very lucky!

29 is young and 4 cycles isn't that long (easy for me to say, since I'm not you, right? ) However, I've had numerous friends who have tried for longer and were successful. Please try not to get too depressed or down about it- the stress has an affect on your body.

Sending hugs and support your way!

[Anonymous]

well, my responses wont help either (24 - 1st cycle, 26-without trying) but my suggestion would be have you tried charting? That could ensure you have the best chances each time.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the charting as well. But when I was TTC, I read it can take up to a year in a healthy person, so try not to worry.

(And my response doesn't help, either. I was 38 and got pregnant within 2 weeks (but miscarried)). Got pregnant again about 6 weeks later and miscarried again. Got pregnant again about 6 weeks later and carried that baby to term.)

[Anonymous]

I got pregnant at 36, 38, and 39-- each time it took 2-3 months.

[Anonymous]

31, immediately.

But my doctor had said in our preconception appointment that she didn't want us to even call her about concerns until we'd been trying for a year.

[Anonymous]

!st pregnancy: age 36/37. Took a year.

2nd pregnancy: age 39/40. Took six months.

I recommend having sex as often as possible during your fertile days. Just Do It isn't a bad motto. And enjoy, because you know, making babies really should be fun. (Pregnancy, on the other hand, while certainly thrilling for many, isn't always as fun.)

[Anonymous]

28 - took 5 months
31 - immediately

[Anonymous]

32--took 4 months, miscarriage
32--took 3 months
36--immediately

[Anonymous]

Most people I know, myself included, tried for 6 months or more before getting pregnant regardless of age. I was 36 when I conceived and it took me 7 months. But this timeframe holds true for friends in their late twenties and early thirties too. Yes, I had a couple of friends who got pregnant after 1 - 2 months of trying, but they are definitely the exception.

When I first started TTC my gyn told me that the average woman in his practice took about 6 months to conceive and that every month a normal, healthy couple has about a 20% chance of conceiving. In other words, most women do not get pregnant immediately. Also, something to keep in mind is that women who get pregnant right away often share that fact, while those of us who take longer to conceive (and often feel frustrated and let down because of that) don't widely share our struggles. So it seems like EVERYONE is getting pregnant right away, but that's not the reality, that's just what you're hearing.

Check out Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler, MPH. This book was very helpful and empowering. Discusses charting BBT but also general signs of fertility. I thought I knew everything about my body and fertility - I was wrong.

Best of luck!

[Anonymous]

9:29 here, I remember feeling frustrated that it was taking so long to get pregnant the first time around - even though it didn't really. One thing that helped us was to not stress about it. In fact, we finally got pregnant while on vacation and weren't even trying to make a baby When my BFF was trying to get pregnant, I remember her telling me that sex became a chore because they were doing it so often and it wasn't fun anymore. Something to think about, that's all. . .

[Anonymous]

29 - 1st child immediately

31- 2nd child - started noting cervical mucus/fertile window each month...so after about 3 months of charting (no temping though) found the "right" time to TTC

33- 3rd child same as above

[Anonymous]

#1 - 29 (took a year)
#2 - 32 (took 5 months)
#3 - 34/35 (took ~ 5 cycles, I wasn't having regular cycles yet after nursing)

Charting helped a lot with #2 and #3.

[Anonymous]

at age 31 it took 8 months to conceive our first. I know it can start to get demoralizing after a few months, but like the PPs have said, you don't have need to worry until 1 year. I will add that when i did get pregnant, my conception date was a week earlier than I was SURE I had ovulated...basically, despite temping & ovulation kits, I was wrong on my ovulation date that month...and possibly the 7 previous months we were unsuccessful. My take away for next time is to pretty much have sex every few days for the whole month to cover my bases! Good luck!

[Anonymous]

#1 - 27 (semi-accident)
#2 - 30 (semi-accident)

I highly agree with the people who recommend charting/becoming intimately aware of your fertility cycles, (not just when your periods come).

Both of my pregnancies were not well planned, they were just the result of me being ultra aware of my fertility and having baby lust on the appropriate day. I've been practicing fertility awareness since college, so I could be ultra-careful on the risky (read: fertile) days. After a year or so I could tell just from the quantity and texture of my vaginal mucus how fertile I was. Some women require temperature readings, charting, watching their own mood swings, even noticing when they are most likely to be attracted to men besides their husbands (researchers have found this is correlated with your most fertile days. Darn it.)

But knowing one's own fertility is immensely empowering. Good luck to you!