Bennifer Revisited

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On the one hand, I enjoy ben spilling the tea about his and jens divorce, but on the other, what a jerk. Who says that stuff to the press about their kids mom?

An alcoholic, drug abusing jerk.

Or someone who just hates his ex.

I bet they had a toxic relationship near the end. And I bet she held a lot of power during the divorce and with coparenting. She could share sordid details if he doesn’t fall in line and follow her rules: family church outings, no other baby mamas, etc.

Good for her. But probably barely tolerated by him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Years ago, on this forum, I had described Affleck as a deadbeat and some woman—most likely a white woman—, was quick to point out that he couldn't possibly be a dead beat because he was worth ...whatever amount I can't remember. I thought to myself : 'it's precisely this kind of cluelessnes and desperation for male attention on women's part that breeds the Afflecks of tomorrow'. A dead beat is someone who continuously shirks his responsibilities—social, marital, professional. Financial , etc—in favor of questionable self gratifying and sometimes illegal acts. He's manifestedly not a family guy , never been . Worse, he couldn't even be bothered to have a discussion with his then wife about the number of kids they wanted to have as it's clearly been a point of friction that contributed to the breakdown of the marriage .This was pure cowardice .

As an actress and even a person —though, admittedly I don't know her —, Jennifer garner does nothing for me , absolutely nothing. However, if we're being objective , it's hard not to see her as the grown up here . Until Affleck proves he was held at gun point and forced to marry her , he's just proving himself to be the idiot he's always been.Adulthood requires that one chooses its own path in life and make decisions independently. And herein lies the problem .

It was obvious from the get go—at least to some of us—that, this union was a mismatch of two entirely different people. Garner and Affleck really have nothing in common. He allowed PR machines and potentially racist family members to influence a choice that quite frankly should've been made by none other than himself . This union should've never happened . Therefore , all things considered, why would anyone be surprised that a deadbeat of his caliber fails to show any contrition and instead plays the victim by arguing that he felt trapped ?

Well said, yes he does indeed seem like a deadbeat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:New interview with Affleck, blames drinking on feeling trapped in his marriage. He's such a jerk. Good luck to JLo.
https://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/pictures/ben-affleck-felt-trapped-in-jennifer-garner-marriage-details/

Why would he say something like this. It is so mean and his ex has been incredibly kind. I think the trapped feeling was that she was pregnant when they married but he had two more kids after so he kept it going for awhile. I am guessing Jen G can be controlling but maybe she is controlling because she was married to a child. I hope this new/old relationship works for the sake of his kids.

I think he's kind of a douche, but I didn't think the quotes were that bad. He laid the blame for the drinking on himself, praised Garner as a mom, and was real about the fact that the marriage didn't work.

The US Weekly headline definitely sensationalizes it.

Whether he and JLo last remains to be seen. I think she's a force and isn't going to compromise a lot. It's a recipe for success, but he may not be able to keep up.

I LOVE Jennifer Garner, so I feel like this is a betrayal, but there is something I like about the idea of Bennifer 2.0 being Hollywood's GenX glamour couple a la Annette Benning and Warren Beatty.

OMG these fools are nothing like Annette Benning and Warren Beatty.

+1 Annette B. Is pure class and Warren appreciates her.

Please. He hit on my friend and gave her his number a decade or so ago. He was very very aggressive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:New interview with Affleck, blames drinking on feeling trapped in his marriage. He's such a jerk. Good luck to JLo.
https://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/pictures/ben-affleck-felt-trapped-in-jennifer-garner-marriage-details/

Why would he say something like this. It is so mean and his ex has been incredibly kind. I think the trapped feeling was that she was pregnant when they married but he had two more kids after so he kept it going for awhile. I am guessing Jen G can be controlling but maybe she is controlling because she was married to a child. I hope this new/old relationship works for the sake of his kids.

I think he's kind of a douche, but I didn't think the quotes were that bad. He laid the blame for the drinking on himself, praised Garner as a mom, and was real about the fact that the marriage didn't work.

The US Weekly headline definitely sensationalizes it.

Whether he and JLo last remains to be seen. I think she's a force and isn't going to compromise a lot. It's a recipe for success, but he may not be able to keep up.

I LOVE Jennifer Garner, so I feel like this is a betrayal, but there is something I like about the idea of Bennifer 2.0 being Hollywood's GenX glamour couple a la Annette Benning and Warren Beatty.

OMG these fools are nothing like Annette Benning and Warren Beatty.

+1 Annette B. Is pure class and Warren appreciates her.

Please. He hit on my friend and gave her his number a decade or so ago. He was very very aggressive.

Did this incident occur in a church? Work place? Bar?

[Anonymous]

He didn’t have to marry JenG. Seriously. People who are just dating have babies all the time. He made that choice.

He also didn’t have to stay married and create 2 more children with her.

She clearly is the responsible adult here. Those kids are really not going to want anything to do with his dumb ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Years ago, on this forum, I had described Affleck as a deadbeat and some woman—most likely a white woman—, was quick to point out that he couldn't possibly be a dead beat because he was worth ...whatever amount I can't remember. I thought to myself : 'it's precisely this kind of cluelessnes and desperation for male attention on women's part that breeds the Afflecks of tomorrow'. A dead beat is someone who continuously shirks his responsibilities—social, marital, professional. Financial , etc—in favor of questionable self gratifying and sometimes illegal acts. He's manifestedly not a family guy , never been . Worse, he couldn't even be bothered to have a discussion with his then wife about the number of kids they wanted to have as it's clearly been a point of friction that contributed to the breakdown of the marriage .This was pure cowardice .

As an actress and even a person —though, admittedly I don't know her —, Jennifer garner does nothing for me , absolutely nothing. However, if we're being objective , it's hard not to see her as the grown up here . Until Affleck proves he was held at gun point and forced to marry her , he's just proving himself to be the idiot he's always been.Adulthood requires that one chooses its own path in life and make decisions independently. And herein lies the problem .

It was obvious from the get go—at least to some of us—that, this union was a mismatch of two entirely different people. Garner and Affleck really have nothing in common. He allowed PR machines and potentially racist family members to influence a choice that quite frankly should've been made by none other than himself . This union should've never happened . Therefore , all things considered, why would anyone be surprised that a deadbeat of his caliber fails to show any contrition and instead plays the victim by arguing that he felt trapped ?

Well said, yes he does indeed seem like a deadbeat.

“Likely a white woman”? What a horrible assumption to make

[Anonymous]

Ben and JLo are a match made in heaven?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On the one hand, I enjoy ben spilling the tea about his and jens divorce, but on the other, what a jerk. Who says that stuff to the press about their kids mom?

An alcoholic, drug abusing jerk.

Or someone who just hates his ex.

I bet they had a toxic relationship near the end. And I bet she held a lot of power during the divorce and with coparenting. She could share sordid details if he doesn’t fall in line and follow her rules: family church outings, no other baby mamas, etc.

Good for her. But probably barely tolerated by him.

I don’t care how much you hate your ex - you don’t bad mouth her and the family to the press like he does. His interviews read like he didn’t want his kids at all and resents them.

And dude got caught banging the nanny. He’s lucky JenG didn’t cut it off.

[Anonymous]

It sounds exactly like many of us have thought; Jen G was of age and wanted to marry and settle down. She wound up pregnant and he agreed to marry her. Fundamentally they were incompatible as she wanted a regular SAHM life with a rich husband and lots of kids. He was immature and an addict and resented her for tying him down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:New interview with Affleck, blames drinking on feeling trapped in his marriage. He's such a jerk. Good luck to JLo.
https://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/pictures/ben-affleck-felt-trapped-in-jennifer-garner-marriage-details/

lol JLo is a million times more high maintenance and needy than Jennifer Garner.
I hope Jennifer Garner is happy. She seems like such a lovely person.

Except JLo is willing to put Ben first (or second, after her career). For Jen G, it will always be her kids.

She puts her career and her fame first and has, I think, for a very long time...decades. Hard to believe she can truly change, her incentive to make a relationship work was probably highest with Marc Anthony, who was the father of her children and her third marriage. If she couldn't weather rough times with him long term it seems unlikely that she won't bolt again when it gets hard and real, as it always does.

And Ben, who has even less stick-to-it-ness...

[Anonymous]

JG’s classic quote still rings true today

“I didn’t marry the big, fat movie star. I married him and I would go back and remake that decision. I ran down the beach to him and I would again. You can’t have three babies and so much of what we had. He’s the love of my life. He’s the most brilliant person in any room, the most charismatic, the most generous,” she raved. “He’s just a complicated guy. I always say, ‘When his sun shines on you, you feel it.’ But when the sun is shining elsewhere, it’s cold. He can cast quite a shadow. … It’s not Ben’s job to make me happy. The main thing is these kids — and we’re completely inline with what we hope for them.”

https://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2016/02/jennifer-garner-talks-kids-career-ben-affleck

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds exactly like many of us have thought; Jen G was of age and wanted to marry and settle down. She wound up pregnant and he agreed to marry her. Fundamentally they were incompatible as she wanted a regular SAHM life with a rich husband and lots of kids. He was immature and an addict and resented her for tying him down.

His choice. On him.

And she worked during their marriage. I remember one of them saying they took turns on who had projects. Which is NOT being a SAHM with a early ch husband.

[Anonymous]

Ack - that is supposed to say rich husband

[Anonymous]

Rremember his "marriage is hard work" Oscars acceptance speech? He gets in those public digs to Jennifer G.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:New interview with Affleck, blames drinking on feeling trapped in his marriage. He's such a jerk. Good luck to JLo.
https://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/pictures/ben-affleck-felt-trapped-in-jennifer-garner-marriage-details/

Why would he say something like this. It is so mean and his ex has been incredibly kind. I think the trapped feeling was that she was pregnant when they married but he had two more kids after so he kept it going for awhile. I am guessing Jen G can be controlling but maybe she is controlling because she was married to a child. I hope this new/old relationship works for the sake of his kids.

I think he's kind of a douche, but I didn't think the quotes were that bad. He laid the blame for the drinking on himself, praised Garner as a mom, and was real about the fact that the marriage didn't work.

The US Weekly headline definitely sensationalizes it.

Whether he and JLo last remains to be seen. I think she's a force and isn't going to compromise a lot. It's a recipe for success, but he may not be able to keep up.

I LOVE Jennifer Garner, so I feel like this is a betrayal, but there is something I like about the idea of Bennifer 2.0 being Hollywood's GenX glamour couple a la Annette Benning and Warren Beatty.

He said he was drinking because he felt trapped. That's blaming Jen, not himself. He's a jerk. He should have just shut up about it. I used to love him, but the past few years have made me despise him.