Kiss-ass parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I also want to add that some kiss-a comes behind the scenes. Like DADS who know the director or who are on the board or who play adult soccer and know people and talk up their kids and host social gatherings. Fundraising.

Cronyism or politicking or even friendship- whatever you want to call it.



OMG. Yes. We have one dad that is constantly bragging about playing soccer with all of the Coaches at the Club. Frankly, as a woman, I could beat him 1v1 any day of the week and played at a much higher level and in middle age I am in much better shape than him .

There is a TON of *ss-kissing that goes on in those leagues with parent players. However, I have yet to see it translated to their kids advancing--at least in the older age groups.

I'm glad to hear it doesn't translate to anything in the older age groups.

No it didn’t


It just worked to get a VDA offer on our team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I also want to add that some kiss-a comes behind the scenes. Like DADS who know the director or who are on the board or who play adult soccer and know people and talk up their kids and host social gatherings. Fundraising.

Cronyism or politicking or even friendship- whatever you want to call it.



OMG. Yes. We have one dad that is constantly bragging about playing soccer with all of the Coaches at the Club. Frankly, as a woman, I could beat him 1v1 any day of the week and played at a much higher level and in middle age I am in much better shape than him .

There is a TON of *ss-kissing that goes on in those leagues with parent players. However, I have yet to see it translated to their kids advancing--at least in the older age groups.

I'm glad to hear it doesn't translate to anything in the older age groups.

It just worked to get a VDA offer on our team.

No it didn’t

[Anonymous]

Depends on the club of whether these tactics work at older level. One good thing at BSC is KL could give 2 s* about parents, who they are and what they do. If you cant play he doesnt want them. This extends all the way up to board members and their kids who find themselves in short order on his teams going from full game playing time to last one off the bench. Say what you will about him I think this approach is fantastic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on the club of whether these tactics work at older level. One good thing at BSC is KL could give 2 s* about parents, who they are and what they do. If you cant play he doesnt want them. This extends all the way up to board members and their kids who find themselves in short order on his teams going from full game playing time to last one off the bench. Say what you will about him I think this approach is fantastic

That’s great.

I’m so tired of it not bring about merit and what that does to the kids that really deserve it and get screwed over and over.

Too many places do not function like what you describe...and they all should.

[Anonymous]

Ya, but LOTS of parents don't have clear-eyed ideas of where their kid *actually* rates in a team. So if they're not getting game time, of course it's only because of politics and the other players' kiss-ass parents, right?

[Anonymous]

Now go get daddy, er, coach his coffee!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ya, but LOTS of parents don't have clear-eyed ideas of where their kid *actually* rates in a team. So if they're not getting game time, of course it's only because of politics and the other players' kiss-ass parents, right?

We have experienced being vetted and told kid has a spot on a team, very impressed and kid is clearly better than kids practicing with only to have roster changes to allow for suck ups and @ss kisser and donors.

Soccer in the dmv is never solely about merit and performance.

You need a non-team sport that is decided by a clock for that ...like track or swimming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ya, but LOTS of parents don't have clear-eyed ideas of where their kid *actually* rates in a team. So if they're not getting game time, of course it's only because of politics and the other players' kiss-ass parents, right?

We have experienced being vetted and told kid has a spot on a team, very impressed and kid is clearly better than kids practicing with only to have roster changes to allow for suck ups and @ss kisser and donors.

Soccer in the dmv is never solely about merit and performance.

You need a non-team sport that is decided by a clock for that ...like track or swimming.

Brothers and sisters within club are a huge factor. The family bundle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ya, but LOTS of parents don't have clear-eyed ideas of where their kid *actually* rates in a team. So if they're not getting game time, of course it's only because of politics and the other players' kiss-ass parents, right?

Indeed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ya, but LOTS of parents don't have clear-eyed ideas of where their kid *actually* rates in a team. So if they're not getting game time, of course it's only because of politics and the other players' kiss-ass parents, right?

We have experienced being vetted and told kid has a spot on a team, very impressed and kid is clearly better than kids practicing with only to have roster changes to allow for suck ups and @ss kisser and donors.

Soccer in the dmv is never solely about merit and performance.

You need a non-team sport that is decided by a clock for that ...like track or swimming.

No. Even that doesn't work. I have observed a swim coach preferring slower swimmers over faster ones.

[Anonymous]

People, give it a rest. It's never just about "merit," all the way up to the pro level. There are talented pros that teams won't touch because they're assholes, their parents are assholes, or both. There's more that goes into decision-making than how good a player is. Done. Full stop. it's the same at your job. The same at every job.

If your kid is good enough, works hard, and has the right attitude, they will get a shot. It might not be at the best team in the area (clearly McSYC United--pronounced "micksick"), but they will get a chance somewhere. Not all players are a good fit for all coaches. Sucks if your kid isn't a good fit for the team right near your house--but oh, well. Every upper middle-income schmo posting on this board was able to afford their McMansion because of someone that they or their daddy knew. Welcome to planet earth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People, give it a rest. It's never just about "merit," all the way up to the pro level. There are talented pros that teams won't touch because they're assholes, their parents are assholes, or both. There's more that goes into decision-making than how good a player is. Done. Full stop. it's the same at your job. The same at every job.

If your kid is good enough, works hard, and has the right attitude, they will get a shot. It might not be at the best team in the area (clearly McSYC United--pronounced "micksick"), but they will get a chance somewhere. Not all players are a good fit for all coaches. Sucks if your kid isn't a good fit for the team right near your house--but oh, well. Every upper middle-income schmo posting on this board was able to afford their McMansion because of someone that they or their daddy knew. Welcome to planet earth.

ummm, you are clearly wrong about affording the house. Husband was dirt poor with a single mom working 3 jobs in the midwest and my parents were barely middle class.

GRIT and HARDWORK with intelligence and talent are why we now own 2 homes in the best zipcodes in the DMV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People, give it a rest. It's never just about "merit," all the way up to the pro level. There are talented pros that teams won't touch because they're assholes, their parents are assholes, or both. There's more that goes into decision-making than how good a player is. Done. Full stop. it's the same at your job. The same at every job.

If your kid is good enough, works hard, and has the right attitude, they will get a shot. It might not be at the best team in the area (clearly McSYC United--pronounced "micksick"), but they will get a chance somewhere. Not all players are a good fit for all coaches. Sucks if your kid isn't a good fit for the team right near your house--but oh, well. Every upper middle-income schmo posting on this board was able to afford their McMansion because of someone that they or their daddy knew. Welcome to planet earth.

ummm, you are clearly wrong about affording the house. Husband was dirt poor with a single mom working 3 jobs in the midwest and my parents were barely middle class.

GRIT and HARDWORK with intelligence and talent are why we now own 2 homes in the best zipcodes in the DMV.

We wouldn't have had Obama or Bill Clinton if family of origin were what it takes to make it in this Country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People, give it a rest. It's never just about "merit," all the way up to the pro level. There are talented pros that teams won't touch because they're assholes, their parents are assholes, or both. There's more that goes into decision-making than how good a player is. Done. Full stop. it's the same at your job. The same at every job.

If your kid is good enough, works hard, and has the right attitude, they will get a shot. It might not be at the best team in the area (clearly McSYC United--pronounced "micksick"), but they will get a chance somewhere. Not all players are a good fit for all coaches. Sucks if your kid isn't a good fit for the team right near your house--but oh, well. Every upper middle-income schmo posting on this board was able to afford their McMansion because of someone that they or their daddy knew. Welcome to planet earth.

ummm, you are clearly wrong about affording the house. Husband was dirt poor with a single mom working 3 jobs in the midwest and my parents were barely middle class.

GRIT and HARDWORK with intelligence and talent are why we now own 2 homes in the best zipcodes in the DMV.

LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People, give it a rest. It's never just about "merit," all the way up to the pro level. There are talented pros that teams won't touch because they're assholes, their parents are assholes, or both. There's more that goes into decision-making than how good a player is. Done. Full stop. it's the same at your job. The same at every job.

If your kid is good enough, works hard, and has the right attitude, they will get a shot. It might not be at the best team in the area (clearly McSYC United--pronounced "micksick"), but they will get a chance somewhere. Not all players are a good fit for all coaches. Sucks if your kid isn't a good fit for the team right near your house--but oh, well. Every upper middle-income schmo posting on this board was able to afford their McMansion because of someone that they or their daddy knew. Welcome to planet earth.

ummm, you are clearly wrong about affording the house. Husband was dirt poor with a single mom working 3 jobs in the midwest and my parents were barely middle class.

GRIT and HARDWORK with intelligence and talent are why we now own 2 homes in the best zipcodes in the DMV.

We wouldn't have had Obama or Bill Clinton if family of origin were what it takes to make it in this Country.

And you see what kind of President the one with a daddy that gave him everything was...one term disaster.