Those who are fit with kids

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m one of the moms who does Jillian Michaels and other workouts at home. I do them on the floor of the guest room or in the hall while the baby sleeps.

What a bad mom. Everyone knows it’s unacceptable to sleep more than 4 hours a night or do literally ANYTHING before every menial household task an chore has been completed !! God, you probably even have the temerity to sit on your couch sometimes.

No one has called the moms who work out bad moms.
Again: so easy for rich people whose homes are cleaned from them or have nannies and talk about working out early morning in their home gyms.

If you really mean well, some of you, to encourage other moms, then don't be such b**ches.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m one of the moms who does Jillian Michaels and other workouts at home. I do them on the floor of the guest room or in the hall while the baby sleeps.

What a bad mom. Everyone knows it’s unacceptable to sleep more than 4 hours a night or do literally ANYTHING before every menial household task an chore has been completed !! God, you probably even have the temerity to sit on your couch sometimes.

No one has called the moms who work out bad moms.
Again: so easy for rich people whose homes are cleaned from them or have nannies and talk about working out early morning in their home gyms.

If you really mean well, some of you, to encourage other moms, then don't be such b**ches.

DP, but give me a break. A bunch of us offered practical suggestions for how we do it, and get told we’re lying, or fabulously wealthy, or any manner of things we’re not, and when we defend ourselves, you swear at us. Roll your eyes all you want, it won’t change your priorities.

[Anonymous]

^^Also, providing suggestions is encouraging people. If you want hand-holding go elsewhere. Prioritizing exercise in this way is hard work for myriad reasons, not least of which is the judgment heaped on us by people like you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m one of the moms who does Jillian Michaels and other workouts at home. I do them on the floor of the guest room or in the hall while the baby sleeps.

What a bad mom. Everyone knows it’s unacceptable to sleep more than 4 hours a night or do literally ANYTHING before every menial household task an chore has been completed !! God, you probably even have the temerity to sit on your couch sometimes.

No one has called the moms who work out bad moms.
Again: so easy for rich people whose homes are cleaned from them or have nannies and talk about working out early morning in their home gyms.

If you really mean well, some of you, to encourage other moms, then don't be such b**ches.

DP, but give me a break. A bunch of us offered practical suggestions for how we do it, and get told we’re lying, or fabulously wealthy, or any manner of things we’re not, and when we defend ourselves, you swear at us. Roll your eyes all you want, it won’t change your priorities.

If you are one of the ones giving practical advice without demeaning commentary, then I'm not talking to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^Also, providing suggestions is encouraging people. If you want hand-holding go elsewhere. Prioritizing exercise in this way is hard work for myriad reasons, not least of which is the judgment heaped on us by people like you.

Hand holding is one thing. Conveying your tips without commentary about "martyrs" or laziness or other insults is another.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m one of the moms who does Jillian Michaels and other workouts at home. I do them on the floor of the guest room or in the hall while the baby sleeps.

What a bad mom. Everyone knows it’s unacceptable to sleep more than 4 hours a night or do literally ANYTHING before every menial household task an chore has been completed !! God, you probably even have the temerity to sit on your couch sometimes.

No one has called the moms who work out bad moms.
Again: so easy for rich people whose homes are cleaned from them or have nannies and talk about working out early morning in their home gyms.

If you really mean well, some of you, to encourage other moms, then don't be such b**ches.

DP, but give me a break. A bunch of us offered practical suggestions for how we do it, and get told we’re lying, or fabulously wealthy, or any manner of things we’re not, and when we defend ourselves, you swear at us. Roll your eyes all you want, it won’t change your priorities.

NP. I’m following with interest

Suggestions I’ve seen:
1) Wake up 4 or 5 am and work out at him
2) Workout at lunch
3) leave kids in aftercare longer and go to gym before pickup

What else have I missed, trying to build a plan here and negotiating with DH!

[Anonymous]

Kids are currently with grandma and cousins. I could go home and clean but I’m going to the gym instead.

[Anonymous]

I’m a single mom. I make about 80K, don’t receive child support. I workout 3-5 times a week and I love my sleep. I leave work just in time to work out before pickup. Sometimes, this has meant having a night so clean house. Right now, I’ve finally organized and decluttered my condo. I started meal prepping a few months ago.

When you’re ready for change, you’ll change and not a moment sooner. I had the convenient single mom excuse. I was always tired and behind on sleep and chores. Then I met my single mom friend of a similar income with two kids who works out 5-6 days a week and she inspired me to do better.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NP. My DH leaves for work at 5 am; I drop off kids and get to work at 9 am. Work to 530, then get home at 6pm, make dinner (DH picks up and usually has activities and homework until I get home), then kids aren’t asleep until 9. I could maybe work out at 930, but usually have to clean up and do other chores.

How would you fit in an hour of exercise here? No lunch break, sorry.

The only way to do it would be to really prioritize it. Force some room in your work schedule (9-5:30 with no breaks at all is a lot) or work out after 7 pm (DH can take care of bedtime a couple times a week, no?). You don't mention the weekends, but those are good options too - find a gym with childcare or set up playdates for the kids if DH can't help for some reason. Not that you are required to do this, mind you. But I think that's what you would have to do *IF* you really wanted to squeeze in some time for a workout. And you might want to if you want to be around to enjoy your children and potential future grandchildren in 30 years.

9-530 With a 30 minute break for lunch is the standard. In 30 minutes really isn’t enough time to fit in a workout, maybe you can go for a walk but if you get sweaty you won’t have time to change.
For us we have meetings scheduled all the time, so you might get 30 minutes of break throughout the day, but you won’t get a solid chunk. Just chipto grab a sandwich to take to your next meeting.

I do work out on the weekends, Working out at 5 AM is an option, but we have a small house so running on a treadmill or something will wake the kids (If we even had a treadmill

That's tough - my sympathies But maybe some little things that add up. Take the stairs at work when you can, standing desk, quick stretch breaks and quiet yoga videos on the days you can get up and the kids are still sleeping (?) Building in exercise time with your kids too maybe? Riding bikes/walk around the block/Dance parties?

I do all those small things and some am light exercises but doc says I need intensity

Maybe do some YouTube or DVD workout videos. I got in amazing shape years ago doing The Firm workouts. I did them in my small apartment living room. I now do mostly gym workout classes (body pump and spin), but I’ll do 20-40 minute yoga videos before work on weekdays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a single mom. I make about 80K, don’t receive child support. I workout 3-5 times a week and I love my sleep. I leave work just in time to work out before pickup. Sometimes, this has meant having a night so clean house. Right now, I’ve finally organized and decluttered my condo. I started meal prepping a few months ago.

When you’re ready for change, you’ll change and not a moment sooner. I had the convenient single mom excuse. I was always tired and behind on sleep and chores. Then I met my single mom friend of a similar income with two kids who works out 5-6 days a week and she inspired me to do better.

What are those exact hours? Before is 7 am, pickup is 6pm, so 7am drop off, 730 get to work, leave 4, get to gym at 430, leave gym 530, home by 6?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a single mom. I make about 80K, don’t receive child support. I workout 3-5 times a week and I love my sleep. I leave work just in time to work out before pickup. Sometimes, this has meant having a night so clean house. Right now, I’ve finally organized and decluttered my condo. I started meal prepping a few months ago.

When you’re ready for change, you’ll change and not a moment sooner. I had the convenient single mom excuse. I was always tired and behind on sleep and chores. Then I met my single mom friend of a similar income with two kids who works out 5-6 days a week and she inspired me to do better.

What are those exact hours? Before is 7 am, pickup is 6pm, so 7am drop off, 730 get to work, leave 4, get to gym at 430, leave gym 530, home by 6?

Sorry aftercare by 6, then home 630?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m one of the moms who does Jillian Michaels and other workouts at home. I do them on the floor of the guest room or in the hall while the baby sleeps.

What a bad mom. Everyone knows it’s unacceptable to sleep more than 4 hours a night or do literally ANYTHING before every menial household task an chore has been completed !! God, you probably even have the temerity to sit on your couch sometimes.

No one has called the moms who work out bad moms.
Again: so easy for rich people whose homes are cleaned from them or have nannies and talk about working out early morning in their home gyms.

If you really mean well, some of you, to encourage other moms, then don't be such b**ches.

I am the teacher on page 8 who said I work out 3-5 times a week and how I do it. I’m not rich. I don’t have a housekeeper or outsource a single thing actually. No nannies. You live in a dreamland where you pretend people who make time to work out are all Oprah so you can excuse being too lazy to do it. In reality, 90% of us here are working moms with busy schedules. Some of us make it work. Some of us don’t. Your choice which one you want to be though it sounds like you’re going with lazy, bitter, and judgmental.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^^Also, providing suggestions is encouraging people. If you want hand-holding go elsewhere. Prioritizing exercise in this way is hard work for myriad reasons, not least of which is the judgment heaped on us by people like you.

Hand holding is one thing. Conveying your tips without commentary about "martyrs" or laziness or other insults is another.

Someone saying “I have never even sat in my couch except to nurse my daughter” is factually being a martyr. She wants to pretend she can’t work out because she’s so busy caring for her kid she’s can’t even sit (unlike us bad moms who work out AND sit), she will be rightfully called out for her martyrdom.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m one of the moms who does Jillian Michaels and other workouts at home. I do them on the floor of the guest room or in the hall while the baby sleeps.

What a bad mom. Everyone knows it’s unacceptable to sleep more than 4 hours a night or do literally ANYTHING before every menial household task an chore has been completed !! God, you probably even have the temerity to sit on your couch sometimes.

No one has called the moms who work out bad moms.
Again: so easy for rich people whose homes are cleaned from them or have nannies and talk about working out early morning in their home gyms.

If you really mean well, some of you, to encourage other moms, then don't be such b**ches.

I am the teacher on page 8 who said I work out 3-5 times a week and how I do it. I’m not rich. I don’t have a housekeeper or outsource a single thing actually. No nannies. You live in a dreamland where you pretend people who make time to work out are all Oprah so you can excuse being too lazy to do it. In reality, 90% of us here are working moms with busy schedules. Some of us make it work. Some o
f us don’t. Your choice which one you want to be though it sounds like you’re going with lazy, bitter, and judgmental.

Yeah I wanted to circle back to your post. So you leave dishes in your sink overnight and wash them... when exactly? After the next nights dinner?

Probably we should use paper plates!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh and let me be clear: I very often don’t WANT to get up off my ass and do the workout. Just yesterday I was sitting on the couch thinking “this is nice, maybe I should just sit on the couch some more.” Then I internally whined some more, got up, changed into my workout clothes, and worked out for 45 minutes. You just make yourself do it, it has to become non-negotiable.

Are you kidding, I would love to work out, go for a bike ride lift weights while listening to some jams, it would be awesome to have an hour a day to myself to do something fun like that. But the only hours I get one that would be feasible are between 12 and 4 AM, every other hour is spoken for by someone else in the family or my boss. Not to mention the disaster the houses, too bad they didn’t count as working out.

If this is true, you need Iyanna to fix your life. There’s no way in hell I would be living like this. Where is your DH!?!

Also, working out isn’t “something fun.” Something fun would be wandering through the mall or a boozy brunch with the girls. Putting a non-negotiable health maintenance appointment on my daily schedule is a must. Otherwise, at 43, I would be an obese diabetic with high blood pressure and working toward heart disease. It’s totally up to me to prevent those things from happening, so if that means I get less sleep during the week, clothes aren’t folded and put away, and dishes aren’t done every night, so be it.

Get a grip. I work out, I fit it in and it took me a long time to get here. That said, the picture of a 43 year old obese diabetic as what happens when you do not fit in working out is ridiculous. Yes, there are 43 year old obese diabetics, but not everyone who does not work out is one. That totally undermines your position.