Those who are fit with kids

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Anonymous wrote:^^Also, providing suggestions is encouraging people. If you want hand-holding go elsewhere. Prioritizing exercise in this way is hard work for myriad reasons, not least of which is the judgment heaped on us by people like you.

Hand holding is one thing. Conveying your tips without commentary about "martyrs" or laziness or other insults is another.

Someone saying “I have never even sat in my couch except to nurse my daughter” is factually being a martyr. She wants to pretend she can’t work out because she’s so busy caring for her kid she’s can’t even sit (unlike us bad moms who work out AND sit), she will be rightfully called out for her martyrdom.

I posted my schedule. We are booked with work and kids from 5am - 930pm, then we have have all the housework, next day prep. My point was that people wave their hands and say just get off the couch when I was never on it.

Pp who says, leave the dishes for a couple days, that is an option though I believe we risk pests doing so. But it’s a valid option.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh and let me be clear: I very often don’t WANT to get up off my ass and do the workout. Just yesterday I was sitting on the couch thinking “this is nice, maybe I should just sit on the couch some more.” Then I internally whined some more, got up, changed into my workout clothes, and worked out for 45 minutes. You just make yourself do it, it has to become non-negotiable.

Are you kidding, I would love to work out, go for a bike ride lift weights while listening to some jams, it would be awesome to have an hour a day to myself to do something fun like that. But the only hours I get one that would be feasible are between 12 and 4 AM, every other hour is spoken for by someone else in the family or my boss. Not to mention the disaster the houses, too bad they didn’t count as working out.

If this is true, you need Iyanna to fix your life. There’s no way in hell I would be living like this. Where is your DH!?!

Also, working out isn’t “something fun.” Something fun would be wandering through the mall or a boozy brunch with the girls. Putting a non-negotiable health maintenance appointment on my daily schedule is a must. Otherwise, at 43, I would be an obese diabetic with high blood pressure and working toward heart disease. It’s totally up to me to prevent those things from happening, so if that means I get less sleep during the week, clothes aren’t folded and put away, and dishes aren’t done every night, so be it.

Get a grip. I work out, I fit it in and it took me a long time to get here. That said, the picture of a 43 year old obese diabetic as what happens when you do not fit in working out is ridiculous. Yes, there are 43 year old obese diabetics, but not everyone who does not work out is one. That totally undermines your position.

I think we agree, but you're too busy being an asshole to see that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^^Also, providing suggestions is encouraging people. If you want hand-holding go elsewhere. Prioritizing exercise in this way is hard work for myriad reasons, not least of which is the judgment heaped on us by people like you.

Hand holding is one thing. Conveying your tips without commentary about "martyrs" or laziness or other insults is another.

Go back to the first few pages of this thread. Lots of tips. The comments about martyrs didn’t start until we were called depressing and rich and all the rest.

PP who is looking for practical tips: if you can do a jogging stroller, that was another key for me when my kids were a bit younger. I took the first two out 2-3 times a week, and that thing offers a great workout!

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Anonymous wrote:Oh and let me be clear: I very often don’t WANT to get up off my ass and do the workout. Just yesterday I was sitting on the couch thinking “this is nice, maybe I should just sit on the couch some more.” Then I internally whined some more, got up, changed into my workout clothes, and worked out for 45 minutes. You just make yourself do it, it has to become non-negotiable.

Are you kidding, I would love to work out, go for a bike ride lift weights while listening to some jams, it would be awesome to have an hour a day to myself to do something fun like that. But the only hours I get one that would be feasible are between 12 and 4 AM, every other hour is spoken for by someone else in the family or my boss. Not to mention the disaster the houses, too bad they didn’t count as working out.

If this is true, you need Iyanna to fix your life. There’s no way in hell I would be living like this. Where is your DH!?!

Also, working out isn’t “something fun.” Something fun would be wandering through the mall or a boozy brunch with the girls. Putting a non-negotiable health maintenance appointment on my daily schedule is a must. Otherwise, at 43, I would be an obese diabetic with high blood pressure and working toward heart disease. It’s totally up to me to prevent those things from happening, so if that means I get less sleep during the week, clothes aren’t folded and put away, and dishes aren’t done every night, so be it.

Get a grip. I work out, I fit it in and it took me a long time to get here. That said, the picture of a 43 year old obese diabetic as what happens when you do not fit in working out is ridiculous. Yes, there are 43 year old obese diabetics, but not everyone who does not work out is one. That totally undermines your position.

I think we agree, but you're too busy being an asshole to see that.

And notice that I said *I* would be an obese diabetic with HBP. I wasn't talking about *everyone* who does not work out. All of these things run in my family on both sides, so *I* am extra careful.

Sounds like you need to squeeze in a workout today to boost your horrible mood.

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Anonymous wrote:^^Also, providing suggestions is encouraging people. If you want hand-holding go elsewhere. Prioritizing exercise in this way is hard work for myriad reasons, not least of which is the judgment heaped on us by people like you.

Hand holding is one thing. Conveying your tips without commentary about "martyrs" or laziness or other insults is another.

Someone saying “I have never even sat in my couch except to nurse my daughter” is factually being a martyr. She wants to pretend she can’t work out because she’s so busy caring for her kid she’s can’t even sit (unlike us bad moms who work out AND sit), she will be rightfully called out for her martyrdom.

I posted my schedule. We are booked with work and kids from 5am - 930pm, then we have have all the housework, next day prep. My point was that people wave their hands and say just get off the couch when I was never on it.

Pp who says, leave the dishes for a couple days, that is an option though I believe we risk pests doing so. But it’s a valid option.

You would not get pests. I’m the PP who said I will pick workout over dishes . I assure you I don’t live with rodents and bugs. Rinse dishes when you put them in the sink. You don’t have to wash them every single night especially if it means staying up until midnight or missing important self care... like a workout. They’re just not that important day to day.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m one of the moms who does Jillian Michaels and other workouts at home. I do them on the floor of the guest room or in the hall while the baby sleeps.

What a bad mom. Everyone knows it’s unacceptable to sleep more than 4 hours a night or do literally ANYTHING before every menial household task an chore has been completed !! God, you probably even have the temerity to sit on your couch sometimes.

No one has called the moms who work out bad moms.
Again: so easy for rich people whose homes are cleaned from them or have nannies and talk about working out early morning in their home gyms.

If you really mean well, some of you, to encourage other moms, then don't be such b**ches.

I am the teacher on page 8 who said I work out 3-5 times a week and how I do it. I’m not rich. I don’t have a housekeeper or outsource a single thing actually. No nannies. You live in a dreamland where you pretend people who make time to work out are all Oprah so you can excuse being too lazy to do it. In reality, 90% of us here are working moms with busy schedules. Some of us make it work. Some o
f us don’t. Your choice which one you want to be though it sounds like you’re going with lazy, bitter, and judgmental.

Yeah I wanted to circle back to your post. So you leave dishes in your sink overnight and wash them... when exactly? After the next nights dinner?

Probably we should use paper plates!

Um yeah I do. And the world still spins.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m one of the moms who does Jillian Michaels and other workouts at home. I do them on the floor of the guest room or in the hall while the baby sleeps.

What a bad mom. Everyone knows it’s unacceptable to sleep more than 4 hours a night or do literally ANYTHING before every menial household task an chore has been completed !! God, you probably even have the temerity to sit on your couch sometimes.

No one has called the moms who work out bad moms.
Again: so easy for rich people whose homes are cleaned from them or have nannies and talk about working out early morning in their home gyms.

If you really mean well, some of you, to encourage other moms, then don't be such b**ches.

DP, but give me a break. A bunch of us offered practical suggestions for how we do it, and get told we’re lying, or fabulously wealthy, or any manner of things we’re not, and when we defend ourselves, you swear at us. Roll your eyes all you want, it won’t change your priorities.

NP. I’m following with interest

Suggestions I’ve seen:
1) Wake up 4 or 5 am and work out at him
2) Workout at lunch
3) leave kids in aftercare longer and go to gym before pickup

What else have I missed, trying to build a plan here and negotiating with DH!

Fit it in on the weekends.
Workout at home after kids go to bed
Run/walk while kids are at their activities instead of scrolling through your phone
Workout while your kids play at the playground

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Anonymous wrote:Oh and let me be clear: I very often don’t WANT to get up off my ass and do the workout. Just yesterday I was sitting on the couch thinking “this is nice, maybe I should just sit on the couch some more.” Then I internally whined some more, got up, changed into my workout clothes, and worked out for 45 minutes. You just make yourself do it, it has to become non-negotiable.

Are you kidding, I would love to work out, go for a bike ride lift weights while listening to some jams, it would be awesome to have an hour a day to myself to do something fun like that. But the only hours I get one that would be feasible are between 12 and 4 AM, every other hour is spoken for by someone else in the family or my boss. Not to mention the disaster the houses, too bad they didn’t count as working out.

If this is true, you need Iyanna to fix your life. There’s no way in hell I would be living like this. Where is your DH!?!

Also, working out isn’t “something fun.” Something fun would be wandering through the mall or a boozy brunch with the girls. Putting a non-negotiable health maintenance appointment on my daily schedule is a must. Otherwise, at 43, I would be an obese diabetic with high blood pressure and working toward heart disease. It’s totally up to me to prevent those things from happening, so if that means I get less sleep during the week, clothes aren’t folded and put away, and dishes aren’t done every night, so be it.

Get a grip. I work out, I fit it in and it took me a long time to get here. That said, the picture of a 43 year old obese diabetic as what happens when you do not fit in working out is ridiculous. Yes, there are 43 year old obese diabetics, but not everyone who does not work out is one. That totally undermines your position.

I think we agree, but you're too busy being an asshole to see that.

And notice that I said *I* would be an obese diabetic with HBP. I wasn't talking about *everyone* who does not work out. All of these things run in my family on both sides, so *I* am extra careful.

Sounds like you need to squeeze in a workout today to boost your horrible mood.

Yes, I am the asshole here. All I did was say you are exaggerating the consequences generally which does not help your case. Oh, and I worked out at 6:30 this morning to fit it in. I am not a poster saying it cannot be done, I am saying tone down your posts just a tad.

Peace.

[Anonymous]

PP poster here who works out.

Typical, Crazy Saturday- Up with doggie and youngest kid who likes to be up at 5:30. A few loads of laundry, make breakfast for kids and hubby, folding laundry, putting away, kids to the playground before it get too hot, dog to the dog park. Made lunch for kids, errands while younger one napped, then picked up older one to buy new much needed shoes and then to the grocery store for a few dinner items. Dinner at our friends house (brought 2 dishes) with their kids so our kids had someone to play with. Got home for baths and bedtime routine.

Just took the doggie for a 2ish mile run after both kids went to bed. I keep to the streets and off the bike trails after dark to be safer. That was my workout today. Tomorrow I’m hoping for a slightly longer 3 mile run.

That’s it - an hour over the weekend. And running with the dog? Part of the household chores (exercising dog so he’s calmer).

We are all busy. Let’s not tear each other apart.

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Anonymous wrote:PP poster here who works out.

Typical, Crazy Saturday- Up with doggie and youngest kid who likes to be up at 5:30. A few loads of laundry, make breakfast for kids and hubby, folding laundry, putting away, kids to the playground before it get too hot, dog to the dog park. Made lunch for kids, errands while younger one napped, then picked up older one to buy new much needed shoes and then to the grocery store for a few dinner items. Dinner at our friends house (brought 2 dishes) with their kids so our kids had someone to play with. Got home for baths and bedtime routine.

Just took the doggie for a 2ish mile run after both kids went to bed. I keep to the streets and off the bike trails after dark to be safer. That was my workout today. Tomorrow I’m hoping for a slightly longer 3 mile run.

That’s it - an hour over the weekend. And running with the dog? Part of the household chores (exercising dog so he’s calmer).

We are all busy. Let’s not tear each other apart.

Up at 530 and running at 10pm at night in he dark? When do you sleep?!

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Anonymous wrote:Oh and let me be clear: I very often don’t WANT to get up off my ass and do the workout. Just yesterday I was sitting on the couch thinking “this is nice, maybe I should just sit on the couch some more.” Then I internally whined some more, got up, changed into my workout clothes, and worked out for 45 minutes. You just make yourself do it, it has to become non-negotiable.

Are you kidding, I would love to work out, go for a bike ride lift weights while listening to some jams, it would be awesome to have an hour a day to myself to do something fun like that. But the only hours I get one that would be feasible are between 12 and 4 AM, every other hour is spoken for by someone else in the family or my boss. Not to mention the disaster the houses, too bad they didn’t count as working out.

If this is true, you need Iyanna to fix your life. There’s no way in hell I would be living like this. Where is your DH!?!

Also, working out isn’t “something fun.” Something fun would be wandering through the mall or a boozy brunch with the girls. Putting a non-negotiable health maintenance appointment on my daily schedule is a must. Otherwise, at 43, I would be an obese diabetic with high blood pressure and working toward heart disease. It’s totally up to me to prevent those things from happening, so if that means I get less sleep during the week, clothes aren’t folded and put away, and dishes aren’t done every night, so be it.

Get a grip. I work out, I fit it in and it took me a long time to get here. That said, the picture of a 43 year old obese diabetic as what happens when you do not fit in working out is ridiculous. Yes, there are 43 year old obese diabetics, but not everyone who does not work out is one. That totally undermines your position.

I think we agree, but you're too busy being an asshole to see that.

And notice that I said *I* would be an obese diabetic with HBP. I wasn't talking about *everyone* who does not work out. All of these things run in my family on both sides, so *I* am extra careful.

Sounds like you need to squeeze in a workout today to boost your horrible mood.

Yes, I am the asshole here. All I did was say you are exaggerating the consequences generally which does not help your case. Oh, and I worked out at 6:30 this morning to fit it in. I am not a poster saying it cannot be done, I am saying tone down your posts just a tad.

Peace.

I’m not exaggerating the consequences FOR ME. They have been severe FOR ME (extreme weight gain, fertility issues). I never spoke in general terms. But do you, boo.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh and let me be clear: I very often don’t WANT to get up off my ass and do the workout. Just yesterday I was sitting on the couch thinking “this is nice, maybe I should just sit on the couch some more.” Then I internally whined some more, got up, changed into my workout clothes, and worked out for 45 minutes. You just make yourself do it, it has to become non-negotiable.

Are you kidding, I would love to work out, go for a bike ride lift weights while listening to some jams, it would be awesome to have an hour a day to myself to do something fun like that. But the only hours I get one that would be feasible are between 12 and 4 AM, every other hour is spoken for by someone else in the family or my boss. Not to mention the disaster the houses, too bad they didn’t count as working out.

If this is true, you need Iyanna to fix your life. There’s no way in hell I would be living like this. Where is your DH!?!

Also, working out isn’t “something fun.” Something fun would be wandering through the mall or a boozy brunch with the girls. Putting a non-negotiable health maintenance appointment on my daily schedule is a must. Otherwise, at 43, I would be an obese diabetic with high blood pressure and working toward heart disease. It’s totally up to me to prevent those things from happening, so if that means I get less sleep during the week, clothes aren’t folded and put away, and dishes aren’t done every night, so be it.

Get a grip. I work out, I fit it in and it took me a long time to get here. That said, the picture of a 43 year old obese diabetic as what happens when you do not fit in working out is ridiculous. Yes, there are 43 year old obese diabetics, but not everyone who does not work out is one. That totally undermines your position.

I think we agree, but you're too busy being an asshole to see that.

And notice that I said *I* would be an obese diabetic with HBP. I wasn't talking about *everyone* who does not work out. All of these things run in my family on both sides, so *I* am extra careful.

Sounds like you need to squeeze in a workout today to boost your horrible mood.

Yes, I am the asshole here. All I did was say you are exaggerating the consequences generally which does not help your case. Oh, and I worked out at 6:30 this morning to fit it in. I am not a poster saying it cannot be done, I am saying tone down your posts just a tad.

Peace.

I’m not exaggerating the consequences FOR ME. They have been severe FOR ME (extreme weight gain, fertility issues). I never spoke in general terms. But do you, boo.

For the vast majority of people such as those reading this thread for advice (not likely at this point), obesity and Type I diabetes iare controlled with diet. Exercise helps, but it does not control your weight.

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Type II diabetes of course

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Anonymous wrote:PP poster here who works out.

Typical, Crazy Saturday- Up with doggie and youngest kid who likes to be up at 5:30. A few loads of laundry, make breakfast for kids and hubby, folding laundry, putting away, kids to the playground before it get too hot, dog to the dog park. Made lunch for kids, errands while younger one napped, then picked up older one to buy new much needed shoes and then to the grocery store for a few dinner items. Dinner at our friends house (brought 2 dishes) with their kids so our kids had someone to play with. Got home for baths and bedtime routine.

Just took the doggie for a 2ish mile run after both kids went to bed. I keep to the streets and off the bike trails after dark to be safer. That was my workout today. Tomorrow I’m hoping for a slightly longer 3 mile run.

That’s it - an hour over the weekend. And running with the dog? Part of the household chores (exercising dog so he’s calmer).

We are all busy. Let’s not tear each other apart.

Up at 530 and running at 10pm at night in he dark? When do you sleep?!

Oh my goodness no, lol. Got the kids in bed around 8 so was out the door about quarter after. Fell asleep about 11. Up at 6 (little one deigned to give me an extra half hour today- what a guy!)

I’m good with 6-7 hours of sleep as long as I’m not sick and keeping up with my workouts and healthy diet.

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Ok, real talk. I am very, very fit (one of those people you see and instantly know I work out a lot because I'm ripped). I used to be able to work out only 2x per week, sometimes 1, because I didn't prioritize it. I wouldn't have said that at the time. I would have done what a lot of pp's here have done and talked about dishes and dinner.

Then it occurred to me: dishes and dinner are ruining my life. I realized I was spending- no, wasting- HOURS every evening prepping, serving, eating, and cleaning. And then I was resenting my husband because he wasn't working as hard. So, I decided to just pick up meals at Harris Teeter while on my work lunch break. They have $6 meals that are very healthy. In fact, more healthy than I could make (more nutritional variety) and for the quality, cheaper than I could do. Oh, and they come.in their own disposable dishes. So I suddenly had hours upon hours back and I was less exhausted and stressed. I had more time with the kids because I wasn't doing meal prep and cleaning.

Look, ladies. You're in a cage but the door is open.