Pissed at DH for letting DCs pick out my xmas gift

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Anonymous wrote:I think I know you OP. This doesn't surprise me

You probably know hundreds like OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Any woman on the TTC forum would gladly have your problem

+1 Shut up already, you vain petty woman. Good lord!

Posters like you two are annoying as fuck.

Hey, Pot!

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my kids money (when they were 6&7) so they could pick out something for me on their own. They got me a sweater for the dog and an enormous container of cheese puffs. I appreciated it even though they were gifts for me that were really gifts for them (and the dog).

If you want DH to lead them to something better then tell him exactly what you want and have him work it so it looks like it's from the kids. Or tell them you want nothing but a homemade card from them.

I really don't understand why such obviously self-serving gifts should be so much appreciated. Perhaps they should get a set of new tires and pack of paper towels for their Christmas. Hey, it's the thought that counts!

Because they tried and I appreciated their efforts. I love the dog and cheese puffs so while their gifts weren't just for me their hearts were in the right place.

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Anonymous wrote:Any woman on the TTC forum would gladly have your problem

+1 Shut up already, you vain petty woman. Good lord!

Posters like you two are annoying as fuck.

Hey, Pot!

No. It's true. Annoying.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids picked out a One Direction t-shirt for my DH. He wore it proudly yesterday.

I love this.

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my kids money (when they were 6&7) so they could pick out something for me on their own. They got me a sweater for the dog and an enormous container of cheese puffs. I appreciated it even though they were gifts for me that were really gifts for them (and the dog).

If you want DH to lead them to something better then tell him exactly what you want and have him work it so it looks like it's from the kids. Or tell them you want nothing but a homemade card from them.

I really don't understand why such obviously self-serving gifts should be so much appreciated. Perhaps they should get a set of new tires and pack of paper towels for their Christmas. Hey, it's the thought that counts!

Because they tried and I appreciated their efforts. I love the dog and cheese puffs so while their gifts weren't just for me their hearts were in the right place.

How were their hearts in the right place if they essentially bought stuff for themselves? It's not like they were 3 or even 4.

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Anonymous wrote:Please tell me OP is a troll. I cannot believe this is a real problem.

OMG hard to believe these are adults that post this crap. You know what my boys got their dad? A pen that is inserted into a butt that farts-for his desk (home not work) and a "weenie warmer" (yes for his penis) I got several of those crazy loom bracelets. These holidays are for kids.

I want one. For work. Where did they get it?

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00BFWFTN0

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Does op throw away her preschooler's art if it isn't up to par.

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I'm a PP, and I think it would be totally fine if the pin got 'lost' or 'fell off in the street and run over by a car' or 'stolen from my jacket by someone at work who obviously thought it was beautiful.'

That said, I made a pin for my mom in kindergarten that was a shellacked camel animal cracker glued to a piece of styrofoam. She brings that pin out every Christmas, and I'm 40.

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Anonymous wrote:They are kids. Appreciate them and your DH and be glad you got something. Quit whining.

This is OP. I do appreciate them and like I said - I wasn't mad at them and did all the oohs and aahs.

I think people are missing the point. I'm not unappreciative - I am just pissed DH didn't steer them to something I'd like more - LIKE I DID WITH HIS GIFT FROM THE GIRLS.

Part of the joy of giving is to find something the recipient would like - that's a teachable moment too!

I think you are missing the point, OP. So you killed their joy and sense of pride by choosing your DH's gift yourself. He made a different choice. What did you expect by posting this? Validation? You are barking up the wrong tree, sister.

Ugh, I'm so over this. This is the last time I'm responding. I didn't ask for validation and I DID start my thread by recognizing this is a bit petty. I was looking for ways that would NOT (got that??? that would NOT) hurt my kids' feelings. I got a few great suggestions and obviously there are others that understand.

Just to repeat - my kids think I absolutely LOVE their gift. I've been wearing it out every single damn time we've gone out since xmas. I was looking for ways to not have to wear it for the rest of my life as it's not my taste.

So, everyone, thanks for those that understood and gave me some good ideas. everyone else - whatever! I'm not going to read this anymore.

You think they're not getting this level of distaste from you?? Dream on. You're so screwed up that you think a 3 and 5 year old, who want to pick out their own gift to you all by themselves, have to, on their first try, pick out something that you adore. I would be so proud that my kids wanted to pick it out themselves and all you can do is bitch that they didn't nail it on the head. God, you seriously are a bitch.

Stop it with the name-calling and the shaming. OP is a FINE person despite not liking the crap her kids got her. And her DH could have steered them towards something else, and given them the money to pay and they'd have been thrilled to feel like they paid, and then he could have let them wrap her gift and they'd have been thrilled to wrap it themselves. No need to make her feel terribly. She's not a terrible person for not liking an ugly POS her kids got her.

Yes, she kind of is. And no, I won't stop shaming this OP. She needs to be shamed.

Not pp you responded to but nah, she isn't. If you really feel upset and shamed the people that truly needed shaming in the world, you could do wonders. Otherwise, stfu with your holier than thou attitude.

I'm not holier than thou, I just don't put a gift over my kids. Really, she didn't set the bar that high. She deserves shaming. She really, really does. Who the hell puts their kids excitement over a gift they picked out themselves to the back burner over their own enjoyment of the gift? Yeah, people like OP, who need shaming. These are young kids for crying out loud. I feel more sorry for the husband…. At least she's trying to hide her greediness from her kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I gave my kids money (when they were 6&7) so they could pick out something for me on their own. They got me a sweater for the dog and an enormous container of cheese puffs. I appreciated it even though they were gifts for me that were really gifts for them (and the dog).

If you want DH to lead them to something better then tell him exactly what you want and have him work it so it looks like it's from the kids. Or tell them you want nothing but a homemade card from them.

I really don't understand why such obviously self-serving gifts should be so much appreciated. Perhaps they should get a set of new tires and pack of paper towels for their Christmas. Hey, it's the thought that counts!

Because they tried and I appreciated their efforts. I love the dog and cheese puffs so while their gifts weren't just for me their hearts were in the right place.

How were their hearts in the right place if they essentially bought stuff for themselves? It's not like they were 3 or even 4.

They actually may have been 5 and 6. It was the first time it was all up to them and they thought they were buying something I'd appreciate.

It actually makes for a funny story now that they are older and would buy something I'd like.

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Anonymous wrote:OP don't you hate those pasta necklaces they make too? They come from love and all but so hideous. The look of excitement on their faces when they give them? Makes you cringe right? Plus they just expect you to wear them! The nerve!!

Signed,
Mom who proudly wears hideous jewelry made/purchased by my children including beaded, painted macaroni, pipe cleaners, TJ Maxx lead lined crap which turns my skin green. Currently sporting 6 rainbow loom bracelets (thanks Santa!).

+1

Sometimes I wear the pasta necklace and the un-matching pasta bracelet too!

Just go with it OP. You'll laugh about it one day. And it will be sentimental when your little girls are grown up and you reflect what it was like back in Christmas '13.

I highly doubt that…. She'll still be seething at her asshole husband who DARED to let her kids pick out their own present. HOW DARE HE??? SHE DIDN'T!!!! SHE TOOK OVER AND MADE THEM BUY WHAT SHE TOLD THEM TO BUY. WHY DIDN'T HE??????

That's a much more likely scenario.

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Anonymous wrote:Any woman on the TTC forum would gladly have your problem

+10000

I'd be wearing it with pride. My VP was wearing paper clip earrings a few years ago that her daughter made her and that she just "had to wear". She forgot to take them off and didn't notice until I complimented her on them. Your kids are thrilled to be giving you a gift. Enjoy their utter innocence. It will be gone before you know it b

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Wow. Just wow. The wolves are out tonight. The mob mentality is just incredible on this thread. I get the sense some of you are just cowardly and piling it on, especially after you sniffed out that OP is generally polite and won't fight back.

Just stop it. I'm sure OP gets the hint, which is that there is no love for her here. Just stop the bullying pile-on. What an obnoxious bunch. I'm sure all you stone-throwers are all worthy of Mom of the Year plaques, amirite? Or pins, rather...big, ugly, Mom of the Year pins...

OP made it abundantly clear that she showed appreciation to her children. There is obviously some underlying resentment here at her husband. If I were to guess, DH got her a big crappy nothing for Christmas, or something close to it.

OP, are you mad because you didn't get a real, usable, substantial gift from your family, even though an adult was part of the decision-making process? That would make me mad. Clearly, you need to make your wants better known to your DH. I would love an ugly pin from the kids, my kids are currently too young to give me anything right now, but DH better not hide behind same pin as a "family gift."

It took me 10+ years to make my DH a decent gift-giver. He used to give me awful dimestore crap, and it infuriated me. The issue here is with DH. He used the girls' enthusiasm as a cop-out to get you a crappy gift, huh? Was this ugly pin from the kids AND DH?!? Please talk directly to him about his lazy gift-giving. He shouldn't use the kids as an excuse to give you an ugly $10 pin for Christmas.

And of course, any gift from our kids is worth making a fuss over. And you don't have to wear that ugly pin to all eternity. I'm sure no one else on this thread does. Just show the girls how much you love it and after wearing it awhile gently put it away, like you would heirloom jewelry.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids picked out a One Direction t-shirt for my DH. He wore it proudly yesterday.

I love this.

I'd wear 'em: