What were you in high school (nerd, brain, band geek, jock, druggie, etc.); how did life turn out?

[Anonymous]

I wasn't a very good student academically, and I also wasn't very popular w/the "in" crowd either. I didn't have many friends for a few yrs. I was very unattractive and self-conscious. After high school, I immediately blossomed, but then it was too late...

However thank goodness for Facebook.

Now 30 yrs. later, I can post pics of how much better I look than some of those mean and popular girls who teased me back then. Some of them are fat now, some only post pics of their children, but none of them.

It's funny because now they will talk to me. I wish I could tell them, "See...I am nice, huh?? I was nice even back then, but you didn't give me a chance to show you because you judged me by my appearance or my clothes, etc. I wish you could have given me a chance because I really would have liked to be your friend back then too..."

Also, some of the guys who didn't give me the time of day in high school now can talk to me on Facebook. I guess they no longer have to worry about not looking cool if someone were to see them communicating w/me. Lol.

Ah..High School.

Those were the days...

[Anonymous]

I was New Wave when it was brand NEW!

turned out just fine

[Anonymous]

this has been an interesting thread - Thanks to those who participated!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am reading all these entries and trying to put a lable on who I was in highschool but, I just can't. I was smart and in top classes, scored spectacularly on standarized test but did not get the best grades (B+ average, I think). I was a total underachiever as I could get by with doing the minimum. I played sports, was good at soccer, made JV girls basketball but quit when it got too "butch-y". I had lots off friends in different circles, cheerleaders, druggies, and everyone in between but, I was also kind of considered a bitch, mostly by the popular football jock boys in my grade. I just didnt cater to their egos at all. I had boyfriends but they were all either older than me or went to different highschools. Also, I was a virgin but liked to party.

I didn't know it then but everyone thought I was beautiful but didn't really "get" me. Some people were scared of me, or thought I was a snob or mean, which if you knew me now, would make you die laughhing. I think alot of this is because I grew up in the South and went to a public highschool (small and decent but nothing academically outstanding). My parents were transplants, not southern at all, and had very differnt values and background than most of my schools peers' parents. My parents were both well educated and from very well educated families. My mom in particular was very different from most of the moms - ivy league educated from an wealthier background and about a decade older than most moms. Many of my peers' moms did not graduate from college.

My family was definitely on the "richer" side in my highschool too. I went away to a summer camp in the mountains every summer. I went on all the school trips to Europe. My parents told me to pick any college I wanted and they would pay for it. But, they didn't let me spend as much money on clothes and stuff as some of my friends and I didn't get a car (much less a new one) for my 16th birthday like some friends who's parents were not as well off as mine. The values in my home were just different. I guess I was just an outlier. I didn't really fit in but I also wasn't a loner. I wasn't popular or unpopular. I kind of went my own way and tried differnt things. I always had a good group of freinds but felt pretty open to hanging out with different people. I wasn't really confident or secure but I don't think I had nearly as much angst as some others. I wasn't afraid to say what I thought, that is for sure, and in the south that can make lots of folks think a girl is trouble.

Anyway, I keep in touch with a handful of highschool friends through Christmas cards and two are still in my life on a more regulart basis. I think I am successful by most standards. I am married to a good guy with two awesome kids, both in a great private school in Washington. I am an attorney and have a great work situation. I have a beauitiful house that I love. There are things I dont have that I wish for but I am also grateful for what I have, mostly my children.

Sorry to revive a dead thread, but I just had to comment on this post. Lady, you are literally me. Though I might've graduated after you - I'm from the Class of 2007, at a private high school. We have some really eerie similarities and I'm so glad I read this because this was my life experience and my personality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You forgot the slutty type and that was me for sure. I did not have a reputation but I was really bad in high school. Mostly with people who did not go to my school.

Now I am the perfect SAHM and nobody knows my past.

Hahaha me too!!!!

[Anonymous]

I was pretty and popular and it's all worked out for me. I'm still thin and pretty and have a great life. I married well and have a high paying job. Life's not always fair

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was New Wave when it was brand NEW!

turned out just fine

I was too, but I was also a "brain" - when I found out (from my fellow brains) we all fell over laughing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was pretty and popular and it's all worked out for me. I'm still thin and pretty and have a great life. I married well and have a high paying job. Life's not always fair

And yet here you are, slumming it with us losers, trying to make us think you're better than us. You're not fooling anyone fatty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My teenaged daughter is going through a tough time socially right now, and I've always consoled her with the maxim that the popular cheerleaders and jocks may have their day in high school, but in time, it's the former "band geeks" and nerds who rule the day. I've always said that, and always believed that, but not keeping up with anyone from my high school on FB or otherwise, I actually have no idea whether this proved true in my case. As for me, I was a nerd in high school. I'm still a nerd now, I guess, although much more confident and well put together. Married a nerd. We're successful and happy, but by no means "popular," and truth be told, I would not have minded being a part of the cool crowd way back then. Anyway, I'd love to hear from others, whether you are evidence of the maxim or not - what were you considered in high school and how did you turn out in life (successful, happy; still a nerd, jock etc. or did you evolve/change)?

Thanks.

I think there is an inverse relationship between high school happiness and future life success.

I was nerdy in the shy kind of way in high school; now I'm 50 and still nerdy. I'm successful, and happy. My DH was nerdy in the debate team kind of way and he's not nerdy anymore--quite the social butterfly--and he's very successful, and happy. By nerdy, I mean we loved books, and both of us never did drugs; had few sexual partners and only in love relationships, and for me, I hate parties which probably kept me on the straight and narrow.

[Anonymous]

Stoner.

Became a HS social studies teacher.

[Anonymous]

Goody-goody and brain. Ugh. Hard to believe looking back at it. Now: lawyer.

[Anonymous]

Kind of invisible then, kind of invisible now. The difference is I kind of appreciate being invisible these days!

[Anonymous]

GDI in both HS and college

HS peers, however, remembered me as the "Eurotrash" gal who was funny.

go figure

did fine, btw - married with two kids, stable job, relatively happy!

[Anonymous]

I hung out with the punk and goth crowd. (I was the late 80s.) I still am an outsider but much better off than my HS friends. I went to grad school when they went to rehab.

[Anonymous]

I was fairly invisible and not at all popular all the way through school....from 1st-HS. Then I blossomed in college in a big way, both physically and intellectually.

No one recognized me at our HS reunion, and I went to a small HS. They all questioned if I was really that same person. I think they were shocked that I became attractive and fairly successful, as they all become fat and tired looking. Not kidding.