Great review on shady Grove...NOT

[Anonymous]

Ok, I’ll bite 9:01. I am that woman they are protecting. After multiple years trying, multiple failures, and a miscarriage I don’t want to see your daughter at the fertility clinic. For three months after my miscarriage, I did not go to parks, libraries during the day, or grocery stores before 7pm because seeing a child or worse a pregnant woman would set me in a spiral. Having to see your daughter playing in the waiting room while I was waiting for my D and C of a 9 week pregabacy would have destroyed me. Seeing your happy family while waiting for my betas to come back zero would have been a jab in the heart. Waiting in the same space as you while I wait to have my blood drawn for yet another BFN, which I already know the cycle did not work because I tested at home five times, would just be a reminder of how much this process sucks.

I understand that there a many appointments. I understand getting a babysitting is hard and expensive. But, this policy is at a place that is designed for people who are struggling to get pregnant. There a many things you might complain about in this process and many reasons you might post a negative review, but I would seriously ask you to reconsider bringing your child to a fertility clinic. It is painful to many of us and if you can show a little compassion, that would go a long way.

[Anonymous]

I went to Shady Grove and was treated by Dr. Chang, had a terrific nurse and had a lot of personal attention. Dr. Chang called us himself multiple times. It's the best experience I've had at a medical practice. We've had two children through IVF and I've recommended Dr. Chang to several friends, who are now parents as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, I’ll bite 9:01. I am that woman they are protecting. After multiple years trying, multiple failures, and a miscarriage I don’t want to see your daughter at the fertility clinic. For three months after my miscarriage, I did not go to parks, libraries during the day, or grocery stores before 7pm because seeing a child or worse a pregnant woman would set me in a spiral. Having to see your daughter playing in the waiting room while I was waiting for my D and C of a 9 week pregabacy would have destroyed me. Seeing your happy family while waiting for my betas to come back zero would have been a jab in the heart. Waiting in the same space as you while I wait to have my blood drawn for yet another BFN, which I already know the cycle did not work because I tested at home five times, would just be a reminder of how much this process sucks.

I understand that there a many appointments. I understand getting a babysitting is hard and expensive. But, this policy is at a place that is designed for people who are struggling to get pregnant. There a many things you might complain about in this process and many reasons you might post a negative review, but I would seriously ask you to reconsider bringing your child to a fertility clinic. It is painful to many of us and if you can show a little compassion, that would go a long way.

+1000
And I would expect nothing less off the Leesburg SG office, where I have always found kind, compassionate people.

Many RE offices ask their patients not to bring in young children; this isn’t just SG’s policy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, I’ll bite 9:01. I am that woman they are protecting. After multiple years trying, multiple failures, and a miscarriage I don’t want to see your daughter at the fertility clinic. For three months after my miscarriage, I did not go to parks, libraries during the day, or grocery stores before 7pm because seeing a child or worse a pregnant woman would set me in a spiral. Having to see your daughter playing in the waiting room while I was waiting for my D and C of a 9 week pregabacy would have destroyed me. Seeing your happy family while waiting for my betas to come back zero would have been a jab in the heart. Waiting in the same space as you while I wait to have my blood drawn for yet another BFN, which I already know the cycle did not work because I tested at home five times, would just be a reminder of how much this process sucks.

I understand that there a many appointments. I understand getting a babysitting is hard and expensive. But, this policy is at a place that is designed for people who are struggling to get pregnant. There a many things you might complain about in this process and many reasons you might post a negative review, but I would seriously ask you to reconsider bringing your child to a fertility clinic. It is painful to many of us and if you can show a little compassion, that would go a long way.

I don't mind the policy but your reactions are entirely over the top. Nobody there is having *your* baby. It's not a competition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, I’ll bite 9:01. I am that woman they are protecting. After multiple years trying, multiple failures, and a miscarriage I don’t want to see your daughter at the fertility clinic. For three months after my miscarriage, I did not go to parks, libraries during the day, or grocery stores before 7pm because seeing a child or worse a pregnant woman would set me in a spiral. Having to see your daughter playing in the waiting room while I was waiting for my D and C of a 9 week pregabacy would have destroyed me. Seeing your happy family while waiting for my betas to come back zero would have been a jab in the heart. Waiting in the same space as you while I wait to have my blood drawn for yet another BFN, which I already know the cycle did not work because I tested at home five times, would just be a reminder of how much this process sucks.

I understand that there a many appointments. I understand getting a babysitting is hard and expensive. But, this policy is at a place that is designed for people who are struggling to get pregnant. There a many things you might complain about in this process and many reasons you might post a negative review, but I would seriously ask you to reconsider bringing your child to a fertility clinic. It is painful to many of us and if you can show a little compassion, that would go a long way.

I don't mind the policy but your reactions are entirely over the top. Nobody there is having *your* baby. It's not a competition.

new poster and no, no, no... her reactions are not "over the top" - don't invalidate another persons feelings because you don't "get" them. have a little compassion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, I’ll bite 9:01. I am that woman they are protecting. After multiple years trying, multiple failures, and a miscarriage I don’t want to see your daughter at the fertility clinic. For three months after my miscarriage, I did not go to parks, libraries during the day, or grocery stores before 7pm because seeing a child or worse a pregnant woman would set me in a spiral. Having to see your daughter playing in the waiting room while I was waiting for my D and C of a 9 week pregabacy would have destroyed me. Seeing your happy family while waiting for my betas to come back zero would have been a jab in the heart. Waiting in the same space as you while I wait to have my blood drawn for yet another BFN, which I already know the cycle did not work because I tested at home five times, would just be a reminder of how much this process sucks.

I understand that there a many appointments. I understand getting a babysitting is hard and expensive. But, this policy is at a place that is designed for people who are struggling to get pregnant. There a many things you might complain about in this process and many reasons you might post a negative review, but I would seriously ask you to reconsider bringing your child to a fertility clinic. It is painful to many of us and if you can show a little compassion, that would go a long way.

I don't mind the policy but your reactions are entirely over the top. Nobody there is having *your* baby. It's not a competition.

new poster and no, no, no... her reactions are not "over the top" - don't invalidate another persons feelings because you don't "get" them. have a little compassion.

feelings can be irrational and over the top.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, I’ll bite 9:01. I am that woman they are protecting. After multiple years trying, multiple failures, and a miscarriage I don’t want to see your daughter at the fertility clinic. For three months after my miscarriage, I did not go to parks, libraries during the day, or grocery stores before 7pm because seeing a child or worse a pregnant woman would set me in a spiral. Having to see your daughter playing in the waiting room while I was waiting for my D and C of a 9 week pregabacy would have destroyed me. Seeing your happy family while waiting for my betas to come back zero would have been a jab in the heart. Waiting in the same space as you while I wait to have my blood drawn for yet another BFN, which I already know the cycle did not work because I tested at home five times, would just be a reminder of how much this process sucks.

I understand that there a many appointments. I understand getting a babysitting is hard and expensive. But, this policy is at a place that is designed for people who are struggling to get pregnant. There a many things you might complain about in this process and many reasons you might post a negative review, but I would seriously ask you to reconsider bringing your child to a fertility clinic. It is painful to many of us and if you can show a little compassion, that would go a long way.

I don't mind the policy but your reactions are entirely over the top. Nobody there is having *your* baby. It's not a competition.

new poster and no, no, no... her reactions are not "over the top" - don't invalidate another persons feelings because you don't "get" them. have a little compassion.

feelings can be irrational and over the top.

+1. PP unfortunately probably can’t get pregnant because of stress and extreme emotion over pregnancy or lack thereof.

[Anonymous]

I have been on both sides at SGF. When I was doing IVF 2 years ago, it didn’t bother me when I see other children. For my second IVF, we were brought to a waiting room with my toddler. I don’t completely get the reaction of some of the posters who don’t want to see kids, but I don’t mind the waiting room either, just as long as they can accommodate me.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ok, I’ll bite 9:01. I am that woman they are protecting. After multiple years trying, multiple failures, and a miscarriage I don’t want to see your daughter at the fertility clinic. For three months after my miscarriage, I did not go to parks, libraries during the day, or grocery stores before 7pm because seeing a child or worse a pregnant woman would set me in a spiral. Having to see your daughter playing in the waiting room while I was waiting for my D and C of a 9 week pregabacy would have destroyed me. Seeing your happy family while waiting for my betas to come back zero would have been a jab in the heart. Waiting in the same space as you while I wait to have my blood drawn for yet another BFN, which I already know the cycle did not work because I tested at home five times, would just be a reminder of how much this process sucks.

I understand that there a many appointments. I understand getting a babysitting is hard and expensive. But, this policy is at a place that is designed for people who are struggling to get pregnant. There a many things you might complain about in this process and many reasons you might post a negative review, but I would seriously ask you to reconsider bringing your child to a fertility clinic. It is painful to many of us and if you can show a little compassion, that would go a long way.

I don't mind the policy but your reactions are entirely over the top. Nobody there is having *your* baby. It's not a competition.

new poster and no, no, no... her reactions are not "over the top" - don't invalidate another persons feelings because you don't "get" them. have a little compassion.

feelings can be irrational and over the top.

When undergoing treatments- I would see people bring their small kids into the waiting room. Okay maybe it sorta burned a bit especially when I was getting blood drawn for a beta during a miscarriage. But you have to be in control of your emotions. The world can be unfair. It’s not a competition. Babies are everywhere. You can’t go through life like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok, I’ll bite 9:01. I am that woman they are protecting. After multiple years trying, multiple failures, and a miscarriage I don’t want to see your daughter at the fertility clinic. For three months after my miscarriage, I did not go to parks, libraries during the day, or grocery stores before 7pm because seeing a child or worse a pregnant woman would set me in a spiral. Having to see your daughter playing in the waiting room while I was waiting for my D and C of a 9 week pregabacy would have destroyed me. Seeing your happy family while waiting for my betas to come back zero would have been a jab in the heart. Waiting in the same space as you while I wait to have my blood drawn for yet another BFN, which I already know the cycle did not work because I tested at home five times, would just be a reminder of how much this process sucks.

I understand that there a many appointments. I understand getting a babysitting is hard and expensive. But, this policy is at a place that is designed for people who are struggling to get pregnant. There a many things you might complain about in this process and many reasons you might post a negative review, but I would seriously ask you to reconsider bringing your child to a fertility clinic. It is painful to many of us and if you can show a little compassion, that would go a long way.

+1000
And I would expect nothing less off the Leesburg SG office, where I have always found kind, compassionate people.

I think the policy Is good because toddlers can mess with expensive equipment not because it’s insensitive to people undergoing treatment.

Many RE offices ask their patients not to bring in young children; this isn’t just SG’s policy.

[Anonymous]

There are a million places I am in control of my emotions. At work when pregnant coworkers are everywhere. At the movies. At restaurants. At brunch when my friends announce they are pregnant. I tried very hard to avoid places that would be triggers, like parks, grocery store during morning weekend hours, so that I did not have to manage my emotions. The one place I should not have to put on a brave face about being infertile is at my infertility clinic. It’s like expecting an open bar at an AA meeting and then being shocked that “alcohol exists in the world, can’t these people deal?”.

And no. No one is having my baby and them being pregnant does not increase or decrease my odds, but it does remind me of what I am missing and how unfair the process feels - wait until older, stable jobs, own home, and then it is “too late” and not working out. I don’t wish them not to be pregnant. It just hurts. And getting pregnant and miscarrying sucks. If you have not had to experience failed cycles and miscarriages, you are super blessed but can’t possibly understand. But the office has a stated policy and it is clear. Please respect that and those who are in a different place in their journey.

[Anonymous]

I got pregnant at SGF and would NEVER bring my child there when we try for a second. For me, the waiting room is a dark place where all of us women were stuck waiting for the universe to hand us a winning lottery ticket so we could leave. Seeing children there at 7am as I tried to make it through another cycle would have been way too much. I had to protect myself emotionally in order to make it through the appt and a full work day before I broke down at the end of the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are a million places I am in control of my emotions. At work when pregnant coworkers are everywhere. At the movies. At restaurants. At brunch when my friends announce they are pregnant. I tried very hard to avoid places that would be triggers, like parks, grocery store during morning weekend hours, so that I did not have to manage my emotions. The one place I should not have to put on a brave face about being infertile is at my infertility clinic. It’s like expecting an open bar at an AA meeting and then being shocked that “alcohol exists in the world, can’t these people deal?”.

And no. No one is having my baby and them being pregnant does not increase or decrease my odds, but it does remind me of what I am missing and how unfair the process feels - wait until older, stable jobs, own home, and then it is “too late” and not working out. I don’t wish them not to be pregnant. It just hurts. And getting pregnant and miscarrying sucks. If you have not had to experience failed cycles and miscarriages, you are super blessed but can’t possibly understand. But the office has a stated policy and it is clear. Please respect that and those who are in a different place in their journey.

a had 3 failed IVFs and a MC. I don't mind the policy and don't even find it all that inconvenient. still, your reactions are over the top.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are a million places I am in control of my emotions. At work when pregnant coworkers are everywhere. At the movies. At restaurants. At brunch when my friends announce they are pregnant. I tried very hard to avoid places that would be triggers, like parks, grocery store during morning weekend hours, so that I did not have to manage my emotions. The one place I should not have to put on a brave face about being infertile is at my infertility clinic. It’s like expecting an open bar at an AA meeting and then being shocked that “alcohol exists in the world, can’t these people deal?”.

And no. No one is having my baby and them being pregnant does not increase or decrease my odds, but it does remind me of what I am missing and how unfair the process feels - wait until older, stable jobs, own home, and then it is “too late” and not working out. I don’t wish them not to be pregnant. It just hurts. And getting pregnant and miscarrying sucks. If you have not had to experience failed cycles and miscarriages, you are super blessed but can’t possibly understand. But the office has a stated policy and it is clear. Please respect that and those who are in a different place in their journey.

a had 3 failed IVFs and a MC. I don't mind the policy and don't even find it all that inconvenient. still, your reactions are over the top.

You may think they are over the top but the pain is real. I'm not the previous poster but she could be describing me. I am that woman who after finding out I had a CP (after 2.5 years of trying, multiple losses, IVF and still going) went to my 3 yr olds holiday show and when the infants came out I started to cry but luckily kept it together. After one of my failed transfers last year, we were flying to visit family and when I saw a woman changing her baby I burst into tears and had to walk away. Was it over the top? You might think so but the pain was/is very fresh and real. I have avoided talking to friends and family who are pregnant b/c I can't fully share in their excitement even though I want to. It's called self-preservation. I never thought I'd be the person spontaneously crying at babies or avoiding those I'm closest to but I want a second child so badly and these are reminders of what didn't work out. Please remember that people react in ways they have no control over but expecting folks to keep it together at a fertility clinic is over the top. I wouldn't have wanted to see your child there and I have one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ok, I’ll bite 9:01. I am that woman they are protecting. After multiple years trying, multiple failures, and a miscarriage I don’t want to see your daughter at the fertility clinic. For three months after my miscarriage, I did not go to parks, libraries during the day, or grocery stores before 7pm because seeing a child or worse a pregnant woman would set me in a spiral. Having to see your daughter playing in the waiting room while I was waiting for my D and C of a 9 week pregabacy would have destroyed me. Seeing your happy family while waiting for my betas to come back zero would have been a jab in the heart. Waiting in the same space as you while I wait to have my blood drawn for yet another BFN, which I already know the cycle did not work because I tested at home five times, would just be a reminder of how much this process sucks.

I understand that there a many appointments. I understand getting a babysitting is hard and expensive. But, this policy is at a place that is designed for people who are struggling to get pregnant. There a many things you might complain about in this process and many reasons you might post a negative review, but I would seriously ask you to reconsider bringing your child to a fertility clinic. It is painful to many of us and if you can show a little compassion, that would go a long way.

I don't mind the policy but your reactions are entirely over the top. Nobody there is having *your* baby. It's not a competition.

new poster and no, no, no... her reactions are not "over the top" - don't invalidate another persons feelings because you don't "get" them. have a little compassion.

feelings can be irrational and over the top.

+1. PP unfortunately probably can’t get pregnant because of stress and extreme emotion over pregnancy or lack thereof.

NP. Wow, I would never have expected to see this response on an IF board.