Breaking up with my toxic mom group (Ashley Tisdale essay)

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know one womens group that doesn’t eventually break up or splinter, for various reasons.

Even if they get together on occasion they are one big happy organism feeding positively off each other. They are many groups of 2 or 3 loosely connected to others.

Also friendship wax and wane that is life.

How do you get past 25 years old and not understand this.

Yeah. I kind of thought she really shot herself in the foot here by breaking off with every member of the group. She should have just spent more time with the people she got along with and less time with the larger group.

It’s weird to be half in and half out with a group. Better to have a clean break.

No group does everything together. We have a large friend group in our neighborhood and not a single event has everyone at it because people do have other things going on in their lives. I can also do things with some of the members of the group if I want. It's not a monolith.

This isn't really that deep. The other women were just not good enough friends to want to tolerate any BS. If she felt slighted or ostracized she doesn't owe friendship to one or two of the women who were basically acquaintances or randomly sent her flowers then ignored her. This was not a lifelong friendship. It has run its course.

That's fine. I just think it's dramatic to say you have to break away from the entire group because some people don't like you. Just don't hang out with them then.

If your "friends" are planning a group outing at your kids birthday right in front of you, not including you, they aren't very good friends. These people suck and the posters bending over backwards to explain it away or blame the people who don't stand for poor treatment sounds a little nutty. It's ok to move on and make new friends, these people sound pretty awful.

It's fine if you want to read the more dramatic version of events. The way she wrote it she didn't explain how she "knew" they planned the other event while at her daughter's birthday party. I think she was being overly sensitive (which I get, she had a young child/children at the time and that's exhausting/draining). That doesn't mean she has to be friends with these people. If you don't want to spend time with them, then don't. I just think she, and many of the posters here, are being very dramatic.

I have seen people plan events right in front of me. I am not deaf and I doubt Ashley is either. I didn't expect to be included because I didn't know the group that well but they were literally planning it so I got up and walked away. People are so wrapped up in themselves they do things like this. Why are you cutting the friends slack but not Ashely? She has to explain how she "knew" vs just taking her at face value? Why are you finding it so hard to just take her word for it?

She said in the article that she was seated at a party all the way down at the end of the table. Do you think the table sat 30, there were 20 people in attendance, 29 of them sat at one end, then they had 10 empty chairs, and then Ashley was at the other end all by herself? Or do you think she was mad that she wasn't seated near whoever she deemed to be the most important/famous at the head of the table? If the table seats 12 and there were 12 people in attendance, someone had to sit at the end of the table - why did she take that as a slight? Things like that are why I have a hard time taking her seriously, among other reasons.

That’s not her daughter’s birthday party that she was talking about. Maybe read it again because you’re seeing what you want to see. This was happening more than once so she noticed a pattern. But somehow you’re desperate to see her as the bad person.

I couldn't care less about Ashley Tisdale. I've never even seen High School Musical or anything else she's been on. I'm not desperate to see her as a bad person. That's weird.

Here is what she said, cut and pasted from her article:

Another time, at one of the mom’s dinner parties, I realized where I sat with her — which was at the end of the table, far from the rest of the women.

The person asked why I am having a hard time taking her word for it. The above is why. Do you really think she was seated from from everyone else? Or was she just not seated close to the hostess, in which case she felt slighted. Someone has to sit at the end of the table, and it's obnoxious behavior on her part to be so wounded that it was her. Would she have been worried about the feelings of whoever was seated down there had it not been her?

DP. I interpreted that part of the essay to mean she was at a seated dinner party with a few members of this mom group and a bunch of other people, and the host seated the other members of the group near herself, but sat Ashley at the other end of the table next to other people who were not members of the group. I did not interpret it to mean that Ashley was seated at the end of a table with a. bunch of empty seats in between, which makes no sense.

If that happened to me I also would have assumed that the host of the party viewed those other members of our group as close friends but perhaps didn't like me or didn't want me to be part of the group. Also if I hosted a party and this happened accidentally, I actually would say something to the friend who wound up far away like "I'm so sorry, I hope you found people to talk to -- I didn't realize until we sat down how far away you were" or something like that. Because I think the dynamic would be obviously a little hurtful.

But they were all invited to the party! If I host a dinner and I invite my friends from work, my friends from college, and my friends from the neighborhood, I can't sit next to all of them. But you think the friends who sit down at the other end of the table from me should be upset? If she's the one seeing the lines of this "group" so closely that it means others are excluded from it, then she is part of the problem. And that's my issue.

You’re ignoring that this was not an isolated incident. She’s not part of the problem when she recognizes what’s going on and opts out.

I’m with the other Pp. If I went to a random party and was seated alone at the end, fine. If I go to one where there is a known group, all the others are seated together, and I’m seated separately, I would assume there’s a reason.

You just haven’t been part of a group like this. So toxic. Invitations and compliments wielded as weapons. Cliques within the group. I realized when each event was stressful that it wasn’t for me. I left (just slow fade, no confrontation) and haven’t missed it at all. I still run into a couple women and none of them hang out together. Because at some point, it wasn’t fun! I’m not in middle school and don’t want to be in that insecure headspace. You can say that’s all me, I should be able to deal with not being included. And I very much am. But the way this was all done in my group, to me and to others, was not mature. If you really think it’s not a problem to treat people this way, then you are the problem.

I’m not sure why you’re disagreeing with me. I said she noticed a pattern of exclusion and wanted out of it. The other pp is the one saying it was all in her head and she’s the toxic one for putting them on blast.

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She denies its the same group but she literally unfollowed the moms in it lol

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know one womens group that doesn’t eventually break up or splinter, for various reasons.

Even if they get together on occasion they are one big happy organism feeding positively off each other. They are many groups of 2 or 3 loosely connected to others.

Also friendship wax and wane that is life.

How do you get past 25 years old and not understand this.

Yeah. I kind of thought she really shot herself in the foot here by breaking off with every member of the group. She should have just spent more time with the people she got along with and less time with the larger group.

It’s weird to be half in and half out with a group. Better to have a clean break.

No group does everything together. We have a large friend group in our neighborhood and not a single event has everyone at it because people do have other things going on in their lives. I can also do things with some of the members of the group if I want. It's not a monolith.

This isn't really that deep. The other women were just not good enough friends to want to tolerate any BS. If she felt slighted or ostracized she doesn't owe friendship to one or two of the women who were basically acquaintances or randomly sent her flowers then ignored her. This was not a lifelong friendship. It has run its course.

That's fine. I just think it's dramatic to say you have to break away from the entire group because some people don't like you. Just don't hang out with them then.

If your "friends" are planning a group outing at your kids birthday right in front of you, not including you, they aren't very good friends. These people suck and the posters bending over backwards to explain it away or blame the people who don't stand for poor treatment sounds a little nutty. It's ok to move on and make new friends, these people sound pretty awful.

It's fine if you want to read the more dramatic version of events. The way she wrote it she didn't explain how she "knew" they planned the other event while at her daughter's birthday party. I think she was being overly sensitive (which I get, she had a young child/children at the time and that's exhausting/draining). That doesn't mean she has to be friends with these people. If you don't want to spend time with them, then don't. I just think she, and many of the posters here, are being very dramatic.

I have seen people plan events right in front of me. I am not deaf and I doubt Ashley is either. I didn't expect to be included because I didn't know the group that well but they were literally planning it so I got up and walked away. People are so wrapped up in themselves they do things like this. Why are you cutting the friends slack but not Ashely? She has to explain how she "knew" vs just taking her at face value? Why are you finding it so hard to just take her word for it?

She said in the article that she was seated at a party all the way down at the end of the table. Do you think the table sat 30, there were 20 people in attendance, 29 of them sat at one end, then they had 10 empty chairs, and then Ashley was at the other end all by herself? Or do you think she was mad that she wasn't seated near whoever she deemed to be the most important/famous at the head of the table? If the table seats 12 and there were 12 people in attendance, someone had to sit at the end of the table - why did she take that as a slight? Things like that are why I have a hard time taking her seriously, among other reasons.

That’s not her daughter’s birthday party that she was talking about. Maybe read it again because you’re seeing what you want to see. This was happening more than once so she noticed a pattern. But somehow you’re desperate to see her as the bad person.

I couldn't care less about Ashley Tisdale. I've never even seen High School Musical or anything else she's been on. I'm not desperate to see her as a bad person. That's weird.

Here is what she said, cut and pasted from her article:

Another time, at one of the mom’s dinner parties, I realized where I sat with her — which was at the end of the table, far from the rest of the women.

The person asked why I am having a hard time taking her word for it. The above is why. Do you really think she was seated from from everyone else? Or was she just not seated close to the hostess, in which case she felt slighted. Someone has to sit at the end of the table, and it's obnoxious behavior on her part to be so wounded that it was her. Would she have been worried about the feelings of whoever was seated down there had it not been her?

DP. I interpreted that part of the essay to mean she was at a seated dinner party with a few members of this mom group and a bunch of other people, and the host seated the other members of the group near herself, but sat Ashley at the other end of the table next to other people who were not members of the group. I did not interpret it to mean that Ashley was seated at the end of a table with a. bunch of empty seats in between, which makes no sense.

If that happened to me I also would have assumed that the host of the party viewed those other members of our group as close friends but perhaps didn't like me or didn't want me to be part of the group. Also if I hosted a party and this happened accidentally, I actually would say something to the friend who wound up far away like "I'm so sorry, I hope you found people to talk to -- I didn't realize until we sat down how far away you were" or something like that. Because I think the dynamic would be obviously a little hurtful.

But they were all invited to the party! If I host a dinner and I invite my friends from work, my friends from college, and my friends from the neighborhood, I can't sit next to all of them. But you think the friends who sit down at the other end of the table from me should be upset? If she's the one seeing the lines of this "group" so closely that it means others are excluded from it, then she is part of the problem. And that's my issue.

Let’s say you were hosting several groups and when you were planning the seating, you sat all of your mom friends together except for Ashley, who you stuck between your college friends and your work friends. It doesn’t matter where you sit. What Ashley cares about is that she’s the only one sandwiched between people she doesn’t know.

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She denies its the same group but she literally unfollowed the moms in it lol

It's definitely that group but not necessarily the celebs in it who she had the beef with. Who knows.

I do think the MAGA stuff is just an internet rumor. It's entirely based on her posting something about being upset after Charlie Kirk's murder, but lots of liberals were upset -- I didn't like him at all but what kind of ghoul is happy when someone is shot to death in front of a crowd of college students? It was shocking and awful. I'm pretty sure she later clarified that she didn't agree with Kirk's politics, just was opposed to that kind of violence. I don't know why people struggle with that not even particularly nuanced position, but people online can be nutso.

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Tisdale’s article appeared on my newsfeed today right next to the headlines about Tatiana schlossberg’s funeral and untimely death from aggressive cancer. A stark contrast and a reminder of how completely asinine and unimportant this entire topic is. It’s pedantic that cliques exist amongst grown adults and attention and validation seeking that tisdale would write an article about it. People lack perspective on what’s important in life.

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Anonymous wrote:Tisdale’s article appeared on my newsfeed today right next to the headlines about Tatiana schlossberg’s funeral and untimely death from aggressive cancer. A stark contrast and a reminder of how completely asinine and unimportant this entire topic is. It’s pedantic that cliques exist amongst grown adults and attention and validation seeking that tisdale would write an article about it. People lack perspective on what’s important in life.

Of course it seems unimportant compared to someone dying at a young age from cancer. 99% of this website is unimportant compared to that.

But friendships, finding support as a mom, and just generally having community are actually very important.

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Anonymous wrote:Tisdale’s article appeared on my newsfeed today right next to the headlines about Tatiana schlossberg’s funeral and untimely death from aggressive cancer. A stark contrast and a reminder of how completely asinine and unimportant this entire topic is. It’s pedantic that cliques exist amongst grown adults and attention and validation seeking that tisdale would write an article about it. People lack perspective on what’s important in life.

Of course it seems unimportant compared to someone dying at a young age from cancer. 99% of this website is unimportant compared to that.

But friendships, finding support as a mom, and just generally having community are actually very important.

Which you can do without the friend “group” angle. Your own mom, or other women who have raised kids and share their wisdom and advice, coworkers, one-on-one friends. There’s so many ways to have the support and community, without the “group” part of it.

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Anonymous wrote:Tisdale’s article appeared on my newsfeed today right next to the headlines about Tatiana schlossberg’s funeral and untimely death from aggressive cancer. A stark contrast and a reminder of how completely asinine and unimportant this entire topic is. It’s pedantic that cliques exist amongst grown adults and attention and validation seeking that tisdale would write an article about it. People lack perspective on what’s important in life.

Of course it seems unimportant compared to someone dying at a young age from cancer. 99% of this website is unimportant compared to that.

But friendships, finding support as a mom, and just generally having community are actually very important.

Which you can do without the friend “group” angle. Your own mom, or other women who have raised kids and share their wisdom and advice, coworkers, one-on-one friends. There’s so many ways to have the support and community, without the “group” part of it.

Many, many women find themselves in Mom groups. They want to know other moms in the neighborhood with babies the same age. This isn't remotely weird or odd.

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Anonymous wrote:Tisdale’s article appeared on my newsfeed today right next to the headlines about Tatiana schlossberg’s funeral and untimely death from aggressive cancer. A stark contrast and a reminder of how completely asinine and unimportant this entire topic is. It’s pedantic that cliques exist amongst grown adults and attention and validation seeking that tisdale would write an article about it. People lack perspective on what’s important in life.

Of course it seems unimportant compared to someone dying at a young age from cancer. 99% of this website is unimportant compared to that.

But friendships, finding support as a mom, and just generally having community are actually very important.

Which you can do without the friend “group” angle. Your own mom, or other women who have raised kids and share their wisdom and advice, coworkers, one-on-one friends. There’s so many ways to have the support and community, without the “group” part of it.

Many, many women find themselves in Mom groups. They want to know other moms in the neighborhood with babies the same age. This isn't remotely weird or odd.

The “group” idea is odd. Most people find 1-2 people they like in a group.

In a class of people you find 1-2 friends.
On a sports team you find 1-2 friends.
At work you find 1-2 friends.

The idea you will find a group where every single person is close friends is not real life.

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Anonymous wrote:I thought Mel Robbin’s “Let Them” had a good take on this. Most likely, if people are excluding you it’s because it’s logistically easier for them to make plans together for some reason. Either they live closer together or they have something in their schedule where they regularly bump into each other. It almost certainly isn’t personal. Most friendships are just based on seeing people a lot. I fell out of years long friendships when my kids started driving and I no longer needed to communicate with people regularly to arrange carpools. It sounds stupid, but when you carpool, you know when someone is sick or needs surgery or goes on vacation or has a death in the family. And when we weren’t hauling each other’s kids around, we stopped communicating like that. It wasn’t anything personal. It was just that it required more effort, and we tried for a bit, but eventually we all stopped putting it in.

Mel Robbins is a complete idiot. For the life of me I don't know why people are so obsessed with this "let them" nonsense. It's insipid.

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Anonymous wrote:Tisdale’s article appeared on my newsfeed today right next to the headlines about Tatiana schlossberg’s funeral and untimely death from aggressive cancer. A stark contrast and a reminder of how completely asinine and unimportant this entire topic is. It’s pedantic that cliques exist amongst grown adults and attention and validation seeking that tisdale would write an article about it. People lack perspective on what’s important in life.

Of course it seems unimportant compared to someone dying at a young age from cancer. 99% of this website is unimportant compared to that.

But friendships, finding support as a mom, and just generally having community are actually very important.

Which you can do without the friend “group” angle. Your own mom, or other women who have raised kids and share their wisdom and advice, coworkers, one-on-one friends. There’s so many ways to have the support and community, without the “group” part of it.

It's harder than you're making it sound. Many people don't have moms who will do what you say here, or live far from their moms (sometimes out of necessity -- I live far from my mom because there are no jobs other than waitress within a 4 hour drive). None of my coworkers had kids. A couple friends had kids but I could only see them a couple times a month because of scheduling.

So I did what lots of women do a joined a group of new moms in my neighborhood, a bunch of women who all had babies within like 6-8 months. We met through a list serve. This is what lots of women do because it's the best way to find other women near you who are going through the same thing.

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Anonymous wrote:Tisdale’s article appeared on my newsfeed today right next to the headlines about Tatiana schlossberg’s funeral and untimely death from aggressive cancer. A stark contrast and a reminder of how completely asinine and unimportant this entire topic is. It’s pedantic that cliques exist amongst grown adults and attention and validation seeking that tisdale would write an article about it. People lack perspective on what’s important in life.

Of course it seems unimportant compared to someone dying at a young age from cancer. 99% of this website is unimportant compared to that.

But friendships, finding support as a mom, and just generally having community are actually very important.

Which you can do without the friend “group” angle. Your own mom, or other women who have raised kids and share their wisdom and advice, coworkers, one-on-one friends. There’s so many ways to have the support and community, without the “group” part of it.

Many, many women find themselves in Mom groups. They want to know other moms in the neighborhood with babies the same age. This isn't remotely weird or odd.

The “group” idea is odd. Most people find 1-2 people they like in a group.

In a class of people you find 1-2 friends.
On a sports team you find 1-2 friends.
At work you find 1-2 friends.

The idea you will find a group where every single person is close friends is not real life.

Ok? But in that group are people pointedly excluding you, being weird and sitting you far away from the rest of the group, making plans in front of you? We don't all have to be friends but some of these women went out of their way to be jerks. It's not that hard to be nice at a kid's birthday party and not you know, invite all the other girlies for something like a brunch the next day in front of the hostess and not include her.

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Anonymous wrote:Tisdale’s article appeared on my newsfeed today right next to the headlines about Tatiana schlossberg’s funeral and untimely death from aggressive cancer. A stark contrast and a reminder of how completely asinine and unimportant this entire topic is. It’s pedantic that cliques exist amongst grown adults and attention and validation seeking that tisdale would write an article about it. People lack perspective on what’s important in life.

Of course it seems unimportant compared to someone dying at a young age from cancer. 99% of this website is unimportant compared to that.

But friendships, finding support as a mom, and just generally having community are actually very important.

Which you can do without the friend “group” angle. Your own mom, or other women who have raised kids and share their wisdom and advice, coworkers, one-on-one friends. There’s so many ways to have the support and community, without the “group” part of it.

Many, many women find themselves in Mom groups. They want to know other moms in the neighborhood with babies the same age. This isn't remotely weird or odd.

The “group” idea is odd. Most people find 1-2 people they like in a group.

In a class of people you find 1-2 friends.
On a sports team you find 1-2 friends.
At work you find 1-2 friends.

The idea you will find a group where every single person is close friends is not real life.

Ok? But in that group are people pointedly excluding you, being weird and sitting you far away from the rest of the group, making plans in front of you? We don't all have to be friends but some of these women went out of their way to be jerks. It's not that hard to be nice at a kid's birthday party and not you know, invite all the other girlies for something like a brunch the next day in front of the hostess and not include her.

In a class we break into groups and yes I’m not part of every group. In school at lunch the lunch tables are harder to join than sororities. I’m not invited to every study group. In sports I’m not always invited to get food after practice, I don’t sit with certain people at pre-game dinners.

I go to birthday parties and don’t talk to every parent.

Your taking this not talk about something too far. It reminds me of the movie Booksmart where nobody’s allowed to talk about what school they got into because it might hurt somebody’s feelings.

Here’s the reality people are doing things without you. Some people have more money than you. Some people go on vacation vacations with friends and you’re not invited. You’re not invited to every brunch.

Find your one or two friends and do something with them.

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Anonymous wrote:Tisdale’s article appeared on my newsfeed today right next to the headlines about Tatiana schlossberg’s funeral and untimely death from aggressive cancer. A stark contrast and a reminder of how completely asinine and unimportant this entire topic is. It’s pedantic that cliques exist amongst grown adults and attention and validation seeking that tisdale would write an article about it. People lack perspective on what’s important in life.

Of course it seems unimportant compared to someone dying at a young age from cancer. 99% of this website is unimportant compared to that.

But friendships, finding support as a mom, and just generally having community are actually very important.

Which you can do without the friend “group” angle. Your own mom, or other women who have raised kids and share their wisdom and advice, coworkers, one-on-one friends. There’s so many ways to have the support and community, without the “group” part of it.

Many, many women find themselves in Mom groups. They want to know other moms in the neighborhood with babies the same age. This isn't remotely weird or odd.

The “group” idea is odd. Most people find 1-2 people they like in a group.

In a class of people you find 1-2 friends.
On a sports team you find 1-2 friends.
At work you find 1-2 friends.

The idea you will find a group where every single person is close friends is not real life.

Ok? But in that group are people pointedly excluding you, being weird and sitting you far away from the rest of the group, making plans in front of you? We don't all have to be friends but some of these women went out of their way to be jerks. It's not that hard to be nice at a kid's birthday party and not you know, invite all the other girlies for something like a brunch the next day in front of the hostess and not include her.

In a class we break into groups and yes I’m not part of every group. In school at lunch the lunch tables are harder to join than sororities. I’m not invited to every study group. In sports I’m not always invited to get food after practice, I don’t sit with certain people at pre-game dinners.

I go to birthday parties and don’t talk to every parent.

Your taking this not talk about something too far. It reminds me of the movie Booksmart where nobody’s allowed to talk about what school they got into because it might hurt somebody’s feelings.

Here’s the reality people are doing things without you. Some people have more money than you. Some people go on vacation vacations with friends and you’re not invited. You’re not invited to every brunch.

Find your one or two friends and do something with them.

Oh please. This is about what Ashley wrote. If you want to talk about your own personal groups do that elsewhere. What she described sucks.

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Anonymous wrote:Tisdale’s article appeared on my newsfeed today right next to the headlines about Tatiana schlossberg’s funeral and untimely death from aggressive cancer. A stark contrast and a reminder of how completely asinine and unimportant this entire topic is. It’s pedantic that cliques exist amongst grown adults and attention and validation seeking that tisdale would write an article about it. People lack perspective on what’s important in life.

Of course it seems unimportant compared to someone dying at a young age from cancer. 99% of this website is unimportant compared to that.

But friendships, finding support as a mom, and just generally having community are actually very important.

Which you can do without the friend “group” angle. Your own mom, or other women who have raised kids and share their wisdom and advice, coworkers, one-on-one friends. There’s so many ways to have the support and community, without the “group” part of it.

Many, many women find themselves in Mom groups. They want to know other moms in the neighborhood with babies the same age. This isn't remotely weird or odd.

The “group” idea is odd. Most people find 1-2 people they like in a group.

In a class of people you find 1-2 friends.
On a sports team you find 1-2 friends.
At work you find 1-2 friends.

The idea you will find a group where every single person is close friends is not real life.

Ok? But in that group are people pointedly excluding you, being weird and sitting you far away from the rest of the group, making plans in front of you? We don't all have to be friends but some of these women went out of their way to be jerks. It's not that hard to be nice at a kid's birthday party and not you know, invite all the other girlies for something like a brunch the next day in front of the hostess and not include her.

In a class we break into groups and yes I’m not part of every group. In school at lunch the lunch tables are harder to join than sororities. I’m not invited to every study group. In sports I’m not always invited to get food after practice, I don’t sit with certain people at pre-game dinners.

I go to birthday parties and don’t talk to every parent.

Your taking this not talk about something too far. It reminds me of the movie Booksmart where nobody’s allowed to talk about what school they got into because it might hurt somebody’s feelings.

Here’s the reality people are doing things without you. Some people have more money than you. Some people go on vacation vacations with friends and you’re not invited. You’re not invited to every brunch.

Find your one or two friends and do something with them.

Oh please. This is about what Ashley wrote. If you want to talk about your own personal groups do that elsewhere. What she described sucks.

We are in the relationship forum not the entertainment forum. This is talking about women groups in general.

Ashley, just needs to relax. People are mean I could write 20 articles about mean women I’ve met in the DC area.

Really? It’s not new. It’s not interesting.