His credit card gave me the ick

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's a photo of the card he used.

DCUM always tries to zag for an excuse to attack an OP. This shiny flowery Amex is a feminine girly card. He picked this card, which is abnormal but fine. Not fine is lying about picking the card and acting weird after compliments. Casually lying on a first date and becoming defensive and insecure over nothing are huge red flags.

My DH selected this card because of the artist rendering. We want to support the artist. But we're black so I guess it's fine.

Maybe your DH is down low.

[Anonymous]

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Am I crazy for this bothering me? Nice date and he pays. He uses a metallic card which caught my eye because it had shiny eye-catching flowers on it. I say that's a really pretty card, even the waitress noted it's a pretty card. I think he was embarrassed by us calling it pretty, because it's sort of feminine? Instead of admitting he ordered it, his face turned a little red and he says it's just the replacement version they sent them. I don't know if the feminine card bothered me or just his lack of agency. Whatever the case it's been bothering me all week.

You are not crazy for letting this bother you.

You are emotionally very immature and should be dating until you become more of an adult.

Making fun of a man (or, in the case of your target market, a boy) for having something that you perceive as "feminine" should have been left behind in grammar school.

This.

Do y'all have eyes? There's no perception, it is objectively a feminine card.

[Anonymous]

Maybe it’s his wife’s card and he’s cheating on her with you. Did you see his name on it?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Here's a photo of the card he used.

Are you a troll? You're upset he paid with an American Express Platinum card?

That's bizarre.

I would actually like him more for having a lovely credit card.

[Anonymous]

What is wrong with people? How is this, IN ANY WAY, a problem?
Good lord. The most stupid thing I've read today and here we are in the US where stupid is now cool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look lady this is the second time in a week you got the ick. Maybe the reason you are still single is because you are so picky.

I am fascinated that anyone over the age of 13 actually says “the ick.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's a photo of the card he used.

DCUM always tries to zag for an excuse to attack an OP. This shiny flowery Amex is a feminine girly card. He picked this card, which is abnormal but fine. Not fine is lying about picking the card and acting weird after compliments. Casually lying on a first date and becoming defensive and insecure over nothing are huge red flags.

Yeah, no to all of the above. No. Just no. Nada, nope, nooooo, nah....no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Am I crazy for this bothering me? Nice date and he pays. He uses a metallic card which caught my eye because it had shiny eye-catching flowers on it. I say that's a really pretty card, even the waitress noted it's a pretty card. I think he was embarrassed by us calling it pretty, because it's sort of feminine? Instead of admitting he ordered it, his face turned a little red and he says it's just the replacement version they sent them. I don't know if the feminine card bothered me or just his lack of agency. Whatever the case it's been bothering me all week.

You are not crazy for letting this bother you.

You are emotionally very immature and should be dating until you become more of an adult.

Making fun of a man (or, in the case of your target market, a boy) for having something that you perceive as "feminine" should have been left behind in grammar school.

This.

Do y'all have eyes? There's no perception, it is objectively a feminine card.

Do you know what that word even means? Do you know that pink used to be the color for boys and blue for girls? Do you know that it’s insanely misogynistic to believe that feminine things are inferior and stupid and not meant for men? This board makes me fear for humanity as much as watching Fox News does sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Am I crazy for this bothering me? Nice date and he pays. He uses a metallic card which caught my eye because it had shiny eye-catching flowers on it. I say that's a really pretty card, even the waitress noted it's a pretty card. I think he was embarrassed by us calling it pretty, because it's sort of feminine? Instead of admitting he ordered it, his face turned a little red and he says it's just the replacement version they sent them. I don't know if the feminine card bothered me or just his lack of agency. Whatever the case it's been bothering me all week.

You are not crazy for letting this bother you.

You are emotionally very immature and should be dating until you become more of an adult.

Making fun of a man (or, in the case of your target market, a boy) for having something that you perceive as "feminine" should have been left behind in grammar school.

This.

Do y'all have eyes? There's no perception, it is objectively a feminine card.

Do you know what that word even means? Do you know that pink used to be the color for boys and blue for girls? Do you know that it’s insanely misogynistic to believe that feminine things are inferior and stupid and not meant for men? This board makes me fear for humanity as much as watching Fox News does sometimes.

More so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's a photo of the card he used.

Are you a troll? You're upset he paid with an American Express Platinum card?

That's bizarre.

I would actually like him more for having a lovely credit card.

Maybe don't say it that way. More manly praise using words like "cool", "dope" or "gnarly" would be good descriptions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Am I crazy for this bothering me? Nice date and he pays. He uses a metallic card which caught my eye because it had shiny eye-catching flowers on it. I say that's a really pretty card, even the waitress noted it's a pretty card. I think he was embarrassed by us calling it pretty, because it's sort of feminine? Instead of admitting he ordered it, his face turned a little red and he says it's just the replacement version they sent them. I don't know if the feminine card bothered me or just his lack of agency. Whatever the case it's been bothering me all week.

You are not crazy for letting this bother you.

You are emotionally very immature and should be dating until you become more of an adult.

Making fun of a man (or, in the case of your target market, a boy) for having something that you perceive as "feminine" should have been left behind in grammar school.

This.

Do y'all have eyes? There's no perception, it is objectively a feminine card.

Do you know what that word even means? Do you know that pink used to be the color for boys and blue for girls? Do you know that it’s insanely misogynistic to believe that feminine things are inferior and stupid and not meant for men? This board makes me fear for humanity as much as watching Fox News does sometimes.

DP, but when and where was this. Genuinely curious.

I remember learning how high-heels were originally for European male royalty, so they could tower above their subjects while holding court, and was like "wow that's a plot twist!" but never heard about pink/blue thing. Purple was reserved for royalty as well. Commoners could be put to death for wearing purple in the past.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Look lady this is the second time in a week you got the ick. Maybe the reason you are still single is because you are so picky.

I am fascinated that anyone over the age of 13 actually says “the ick.”

Blame social media for ruining languages, cultures, education levels, and customs.

It is homogenizing the world into a blob, appealing to the LCDs of society.

[Anonymous]

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I get it OP. I once stopped seeing a guy because he wore hideous sandals to our date and had troll feet. The ick is millions of years of evolution keeping us safe. It's not just the card or the sandals. It's multiple tiny data points that culminate in some seemingly petty detail that gives us the ick. Trust your instincts.

As a man, I agree with this (sock-puppet) post. You do not need petty details to tell you that any woman who uses the term "the ick" is telling everyone she should not be out in public with a man.

Personally, I have never heard a woman use the term "gives me the ick" IRL. That is because the women I want to be around are mature, articulate, and well-read. A man's instinct should be to dump any woman who would say, with a straight face, that something gave her the "ick."

PP above has it completely correct. Never, never, date anyone who says this either IRL or on SM. Run.

[Anonymous]

You’re weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's a photo of the card he used.

lol I think he was embarrassed for you because you didn’t realize it was an Amex Platinum. They don’t hand these out to everyone. The annual fee is $700.

That's just crazy. What is the advantage of that? Do you get more cash back or something? If so it's a push unless you use it a lot.
Many places don't like taking Amex either cause they have to pay higher fees as vendors.

I have this same card, flowers and all. It’s a great travel card.
Advantages are it pays for our clear membership, airline credit, uber credit, lounges (including two guests - sadly not OP), credit towards streaming services plus earn points. It’s an expensive and desirable card and the guy was probably surprised to be teased about it.