Small acts that signal to strangers you are TA

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Anonymous wrote:People who park themselves for hours at a table in a café and proceed to take loud work calls and/or attend Zoom meetings, shouting into the phone or mic like they are in their damn office. There are always men doing this at Northside Social in Falls Church. Serious lack of social skills.

I worked at a restaurant in a business district in college and we had dudebro corporate Chads who would buy a cup of coffee or a bagel and then spend all day conducting “meetings” and “interviews” with a rotating cast of characters at the table.

Especially at Union Market. At least take one of the tables in the back. The front window seats should be for people who just bought a meal. People should move in and out of those seats every 20 minutes or so.

Why don't establishments put limits on how long patrons can stay and consume what they purchased? Honest question because I also think it's ridiculous to just sit there all day.

Starbucks had to apologize for their racism. That's why.

Their answer has been to make the seating less comfortable in their cafes and build new drive through only stores. The squatters won't win.

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Anonymous wrote:People who park themselves for hours at a table in a café and proceed to take loud work calls and/or attend Zoom meetings, shouting into the phone or mic like they are in their damn office. There are always men doing this at Northside Social in Falls Church. Serious lack of social skills.

I worked at a restaurant in a business district in college and we had dudebro corporate Chads who would buy a cup of coffee or a bagel and then spend all day conducting “meetings” and “interviews” with a rotating cast of characters at the table.

Especially at Union Market. At least take one of the tables in the back. The front window seats should be for people who just bought a meal. People should move in and out of those seats every 20 minutes or so.

Why don't establishments put limits on how long patrons can stay and consume what they purchased? Honest question because I also think it's ridiculous to just sit there all day.

Starbucks had to apologize for their racism. That's why.

Their answer has been to make the seating less comfortable in their cafes and build new drive through only stores. The squatters won't win.

I think there is truth to this. The Starbucks near us just remodeled. It has always been an extremely high volume location in the suburbs and often tables were filled all day. The new renovation makes it very clear that they don’t want people hanging out there.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t talk to strangers. It irks me when some AA women start to comment in public that I should have said excuse me or hello or thank you.
I do what I can to stay out of people’s way and that is just the way I am.
I am also curious as to whether or not that person who berates me in public is just as harsh with her judgments when it is a person who is also from her ethnicity.

I don’t understand why some women behave like this

Oh, you're definitely TA. A racist one at that.

You are exactly what I mean.
When I am out and about I do not converse with strangers or start or join a conversation. What is wrong with that?

People like you are what I need to avoid

The fact that you're a grown-ass adult who can't function in public and yet it's everyone else's fault is why you're the TA.

Oh I function very well. And I have learned the street smarts to avoid certain types of people

But you're getting called out for not saying "Excuse me" and "Thank you". I think you need to learn that that is part of functioning in public. You have to say those things. It's not "conversing with strangers". Even children know this.

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Those are not words you need to say when commuting
You should say them when you’re at work, school, or wherever else.
When out and about you avoid people and keep your mouth shut.

[Anonymous]

Walking on my side straight for me while looking down at your phone.

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Anonymous wrote:People who park themselves for hours at a table in a café and proceed to take loud work calls and/or attend Zoom meetings, shouting into the phone or mic like they are in their damn office. There are always men doing this at Northside Social in Falls Church. Serious lack of social skills.

I worked at a restaurant in a business district in college and we had dudebro corporate Chads who would buy a cup of coffee or a bagel and then spend all day conducting “meetings” and “interviews” with a rotating cast of characters at the table.

Especially at Union Market. At least take one of the tables in the back. The front window seats should be for people who just bought a meal. People should move in and out of those seats every 20 minutes or so.

Why don't establishments put limits on how long patrons can stay and consume what they purchased? Honest question because I also think it's ridiculous to just sit there all day.

Starbucks had to apologize for their racism. That's why.

Their answer has been to make the seating less comfortable in their cafes and build new drive through only stores. The squatters won't win.

I think there is truth to this. The Starbucks near us just remodeled. It has always been an extremely high volume location in the suburbs and often tables were filled all day. The new renovation makes it very clear that they don’t want people hanging out there.

I support this. It's really irritating when you want to sit for 5 minutes and there are people camped out for what you can tell has been hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Judgemental people like you.

People who spell judgmental wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of my greatest pet peeves now is when I am in a public place & someone is either talking loud to someone on speaker or they can be playing audio from their phone! 😡
Drives me so mad!

I encounter this on Metro nearly every workday.

[Anonymous]

When you are too damn lazy to clear the snow off your car and I try to pass you because it’s blowing all over my car and you speed up to prevent me. True @hole behavior.

[Anonymous]

Letting your family walk 3-5 abreast while shopping. Other people exist!

[Anonymous]

Those super-judgy lawn signs.

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Anonymous wrote:People who park themselves for hours at a table in a café and proceed to take loud work calls and/or attend Zoom meetings, shouting into the phone or mic like they are in their damn office. There are always men doing this at Northside Social in Falls Church. Serious lack of social skills.

I worked at a restaurant in a business district in college and we had dudebro corporate Chads who would buy a cup of coffee or a bagel and then spend all day conducting “meetings” and “interviews” with a rotating cast of characters at the table.

Especially at Union Market. At least take one of the tables in the back. The front window seats should be for people who just bought a meal. People should move in and out of those seats every 20 minutes or so.

Why don't establishments put limits on how long patrons can stay and consume what they purchased? Honest question because I also think it's ridiculous to just sit there all day.

Starbucks had to apologize for their racism. That's why.

Their answer has been to make the seating less comfortable in their cafes and build new drive through only stores. The squatters won't win.

I think there is truth to this. The Starbucks near us just remodeled. It has always been an extremely high volume location in the suburbs and often tables were filled all day. The new renovation makes it very clear that they don’t want people hanging out there.

I support this. It's really irritating when you want to sit for 5 minutes and there are people camped out for what you can tell has been hours.

I used to occasionally meet a friend for coffee and it got to the point where we could never find a seat so we had to go elsewhere because people were camped out there all day every day.

[Anonymous]

Sidewalks covered in ice for sure.

On the positive side, you now know where the aholes actually live.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not talking about obvious things but small ones.

I’ll start:
- taking calls or listening to music on speaker in public setting
- putting your bag on a chair in a crowded place where a person could sit
- having unnecessarily loud engine

These signals have probably been said many times already but

1. Being rude to cafe and restaurant servers/ customer service reps/ and/or supermarket checkout staff.

2. Being rude and thoughtless towards others - such as not holding doors for those coming after you or not holding elevator doors for someone rushing to catch the elevator.

3. Tailgating aggressively and honking unnecessarily.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sidewalks covered in ice for sure.

On the positive side, you now know where the aholes actually live.

I am so pissed about this! Have some common decency and either clear or pay to have your sidewalks cleared!

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Anonymous wrote:People who park themselves for hours at a table in a café and proceed to take loud work calls and/or attend Zoom meetings, shouting into the phone or mic like they are in their damn office. There are always men doing this at Northside Social in Falls Church. Serious lack of social skills.

I worked at a restaurant in a business district in college and we had dudebro corporate Chads who would buy a cup of coffee or a bagel and then spend all day conducting “meetings” and “interviews” with a rotating cast of characters at the table.

Especially at Union Market. At least take one of the tables in the back. The front window seats should be for people who just bought a meal. People should move in and out of those seats every 20 minutes or so.

Why don't establishments put limits on how long patrons can stay and consume what they purchased? Honest question because I also think it's ridiculous to just sit there all day.

Starbucks had to apologize for their racism. That's why.

Their answer has been to make the seating less comfortable in their cafes and build new drive through only stores. The squatters won't win.

I think there is truth to this. The Starbucks near us just remodeled. It has always been an extremely high volume location in the suburbs and often tables were filled all day. The new renovation makes it very clear that they don’t want people hanging out there.

This only works for corporate chains like Starbucks.

I work out of mom & pop type coffee shops, and a huge portion of their revenue is from workers like me. Easily half of the customers I see there are working.

It's just a different business model. Small coffee shops are generally wildly inefficient - I've had to wait 15-30 minutes for a drink & food at some of these places. So the whole point is you hang out and have higher-quality drinks than Starbucks has.

Starbucks is WAY lower quality drinks and especially food, but the tradeoff is speed. Starbucks also has more baristas working than neighborhood coffeeshops - they can take the financial hit if they over-schedule, but a small place can't.

I do try to order something every 3 hours or so - both food and a drink - so they're still making money off of me. We also visit other times during the week, like when they have live music or we'll go for breakfast Saturday mornings.

Although I did visit a coffeeshop in FL once that solved the problem by having no Wi-Fi. They were extremely "woke" and attracted a large, mostly young clientele so I think business was pretty good for them.