Sooo am I just the best parent ever or are the others complete duds?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

NP-So I’m super judgy about the use of devices for kids in restaurants, and grocery stores (of all the places to need to distract your kids??), but I make a huge exception for travel. That’s A-OK in my book.

I also am judgy about screens at restaurants or at home. I’m amazed at the number of people who need to put a screen in front of a kid to have them sit at the table.

I judge you for judging me

Kids were able to eat before phones. Not sure why a kid needs a phone to eat at their own house.

You're a parent whose kid probably runs around the house leaving sticky fingers everywhere.

No, I keep an immaculate home. We can eat meals without screens. My kids are older now but we always had no screens at the table.

My kids don't either - but I also don't judge parents who do. Obviously I'm a better person than you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:lol. You are the only one staring around noticing and judging though, right?

I have several kids and I am tired AF when we finally get on that plane after packing all their stuff and dealing with the hours it takes to get to the airport get the stroller car seat feed them security and I want to lay down. I want to sleep. I want to look at my phone. So they get too, too. Travel time is down time for us. It’s so nice. We are all happy. Why do you care? I refuse to feel inferior to you because you are performative parenting like a massive tool. If I saw you doing this I would just lol at your intense need for martyr recognition and go back to scrolling.

+1

The flight itself is a break- with hours of “travel chaos” on both ends of the trip, depending where we are going. I take my breaks and recharge when I can- makes me a better parent and more able to handle the kids patiently on a long travel day. If some parents don’t need breaks, great. Whatever works.

+1

I’m the only adult wrangling my kid, my ADHD husband, and anyone else going with us. And I’ve also done all the planning and scheduling and booking for the vacation.

The flight is the only time I get on vacation without anyone constantly asking me a million questions.

And I’m a crap parent, but I’m good with that.

You are not a crap parent. You are doing the best you can - and unlike the OP, not looking down on other people.

Thank you! I should have put the sarcasm tag on that! I’m perfectly fine with my imperfect parenting of my kid. She’s a good egg. Who is an excellent traveler.

And I’ve received enough compliments on my parenting from older folks who only saw a 15 minute snippet of my interactions with my daughter to be smug about how amazing 8 am as a mom.

[Anonymous]

We also tend to interact or just relax without screens on planes and other forms of travel. My older kids do have tablets but only use them at home, not when we are out in the world. I do judge those families if I stop to think about it, but I also have two kids who are happy just sitting and chilling or doodling on a receipt from my purse, and my wilder kid is also very curious and loves watching the plane's workings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

NP-So I’m super judgy about the use of devices for kids in restaurants, and grocery stores (of all the places to need to distract your kids??), but I make a huge exception for travel. That’s A-OK in my book.

I also am judgy about screens at restaurants or at home. I’m amazed at the number of people who need to put a screen in front of a kid to have them sit at the table.

I judge you for judging me

Kids were able to eat before phones. Not sure why a kid needs a phone to eat at their own house.

You're a parent whose kid probably runs around the house leaving sticky fingers everywhere.

No, I keep an immaculate home. We can eat meals without screens. My kids are older now but we always had no screens at the table.

Sure you do Janice

[Anonymous]

Our kids never use iPads outside the house (and v little insider the house - week or two goes by without in house screen time) but on flights they can watch as much as they like

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

NP-So I’m super judgy about the use of devices for kids in restaurants, and grocery stores (of all the places to need to distract your kids??), but I make a huge exception for travel. That’s A-OK in my book.

I also am judgy about screens at restaurants or at home. I’m amazed at the number of people who need to put a screen in front of a kid to have them sit at the table.

I judge you for judging me

Kids were able to eat before phones. Not sure why a kid needs a phone to eat at their own house.

You're a parent whose kid probably runs around the house leaving sticky fingers everywhere.

No, I keep an immaculate home. We can eat meals without screens. My kids are older now but we always had no screens at the table.

Sure you do Janice

Yes, we have a housekeeper clean our 10,000sf house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

NP-So I’m super judgy about the use of devices for kids in restaurants, and grocery stores (of all the places to need to distract your kids??), but I make a huge exception for travel. That’s A-OK in my book.

I also am judgy about screens at restaurants or at home. I’m amazed at the number of people who need to put a screen in front of a kid to have them sit at the table.

I judge you for judging me

Kids were able to eat before phones. Not sure why a kid needs a phone to eat at their own house.

You're a parent whose kid probably runs around the house leaving sticky fingers everywhere.

No, I keep an immaculate home. We can eat meals without screens. My kids are older now but we always had no screens at the table.

Sure you do Janice

Yes, we have a housekeeper clean our 10,000sf house.

💩

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Reading aloud, and walking up and down the aisles sounds annoying and unsafe. Glad other parents are raising their kids with manners and prioritizing safety.

OK, I don't actually believe their way is better, just like I don't believe your way is better.

As a fellow passenger, I don't want to hear you reading to your kid. You probably stop at each row and expect everyone to ohh and ahh over your kid, too.

np I don't like op's smugness but, honestly her reading is fine. You should wear noise cancelling headphones if normal conversation bothers you

[Anonymous]

I was on a 4 hour flight recently. A family with 3 kids decided that they will give the kids iPad for only two hours. The oldest two read for the first two hours. However, the youngest one hit my seat more times that I can count, didn’t stop talking and asking for the iPad. Once she gave him the iPad he was quit. The mom is probably proud that they didn’t watch iPad the whole time. But the child was bothering their fellow passengers for two hours straight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was on a 3-hour flight. Packed books, toys, cards and travel games to engage our preschooler and elementary schooler. Spent the rest of the time talking, reading quietly together, closing our eyes. Walked down the aisle a few times for bathroom trips, and each time, every single other family - kid on iPad, parent scrolling X or Instagram on their phone.

What gives?

(Ready for flames for being holier-than-thou, but seriously, what gives? Travel time is great for talking and engaging)

Neither.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is being smug and maybe trolling, but it's also secretly judge the parents who rely 100% on iPads for travel. I have also noticed the families where each person has their device and they all just stare at their personal screen for the duration of the trip. I think it's lazy parenting and wonder if that's what their families are like at home too. I am glad my kid can get through a flight, even an international one, without an ipad. I guess I'm smug too.

But why does this make you glad? Who cares and what are yiu gaining? I dont like sitting through a long flight without a screen. Outside of a plane I cant tell you the last movie I saw though, its not a bit part of my life and i dont have time. Watching a movie on a plane is a treat!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Reading aloud, and walking up and down the aisles sounds annoying and unsafe. Glad other parents are raising their kids with manners and prioritizing safety.

OK, I don't actually believe their way is better, just like I don't believe your way is better.

As a fellow passenger, I don't want to hear you reading to your kid. You probably stop at each row and expect everyone to ohh and ahh over your kid, too.

np I don't like op's smugness but, honestly her reading is fine. You should wear noise cancelling headphones if normal conversation bothers you

+1 I don't judge people who give their kids iPads on planes but the idea that a parent reading a book to a toddler is wrong is silly. I give my kid an iPad and ALSO sometimes read to her. I use noise-canceling headphones when flying if I want to sleep or focus including when my kid is doing something with her dad and I'm getting a break.

[Anonymous]

I thought the no screen families only allow on planes. They are the best parents according to dcum

[Anonymous]

Sounds like something a martyr would do. I also assume you don’t have much of a life outside of your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We also tend to interact or just relax without screens on planes and other forms of travel. My older kids do have tablets but only use them at home, not when we are out in the world. I do judge those families if I stop to think about it, but I also have two kids who are happy just sitting and chilling or doodling on a receipt from my purse, and my wilder kid is also very curious and loves watching the plane's workings.

Your teens spend time doodling on a receipt from your purse?

Also, relaxing on a plane without screens we assume you mean your 2 hour flight to Disney or somewhere else basic.