Normal Americans don’t offer tea and coffee to a guest immediately upon their arrival…maybe a glass of water at most. this sounds like a cultural issue. |
Well at least one poster expected Op to serve tea and cheese! |
My MIL would always offer coffee and pastry if you came over. She would make a fresh pot of coffee and always had something like coffeecake or a danish available. |
Probably because she wasn't working full time. Who in the heck keeps coffeecake or danish around these days? |
Except that it apparently HAS to be a woman that opens the door and offers you tea? Your brother must have no arms, poor guy! |
Don't knock it til you've tried it. May I suggest a Darjeeling with smoked Dutch gouda? |
That’s lovely, but did she have a full time job and young children like op at that time and did you show up unannounced? |
She was actually a full-time educational sales vp but had schedule flexibility. |
Interesting, do you think its similar to certain cultures of DILs who feel that because they had to deal with awful MILs that they too can become awful MILs? So she is "fighting back" against her SIL who sets proper boundaries and doesnt deal with her sh!t? |
Yes to all questions--she was Silent Gen so an older generation of women who were expected to be excellent hostess on top of the rest of her responsibilities. |
^^Sorry, not young children. |
Why did you show up unannounced when visiting her? |
Hopefully she passed on her recipe to the son she raised so he can do the same. |
Frankly, the ILs should figure out how to entertain themselves till their agreed upon arrival time. I've arrived early on a few occasions as I got a jump on travel due to traffic concerns, but it's on me to take care of myself when I do that. |
This tea and cheese indeed makes me laugh because i can imagine what the SIL is thinking...
In my family people are so worried about being an imposition that we bring bags of food with us when staying with family so as not to cause any expense or trouble. My aunt showed up with a tin of coffee, a tupperware full of hardboiled eggs, oranges and a loaf of bread "so she wouldn't be a bother." |