I think I win the Thanksgiving 2023 petty vents already

Anonymous
ILs who can capably get settled and entertain themselves might be fine… otherwise DH would be taking care of all needs.
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Anonymous wrote:I need some more information. So they showed up at 8am? How far away do they live that they were worried about traffic?


OP here. They live 2 hours away. So hardly a huge trek. They did not text or call to say they had decided to get moving basically right after they woke up. That still would have been weird, but not as weird as our doorbell ringing right after DH had left to drop the kids off at daycare. A text would have been nice.

I am planning on staying up here, working, getting myself and only myself lunch when I need to, and leaving them to entertain themselves. DH has the office that’s in a more central location, so he can deal with them. My “office” is a corner of our bedroom.

Now that business hours have started, this is my final post about my situation, and I cede the thread to anyone who has a petty vent!


Translation: you’re embarrassed by your own pettiness.


How does it feel that everyone else in the thread is in agreement this is annoying, and you are so totally wrong and doubling down on it?


Part of the tradition of a DCUM petty vent thread are a fraction of posters who say OP is being ridiculous and petty.

Like another poster said, bring more of the the petty vents! I love reading them.


Here for the petty, rolling my eyes at every poster who's told a venter to suck it up/she's the problem.
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Anonymous wrote:Yup, you win.


I wouldn't give op an award yet. Thanksgiving hasn't happened yet!


You are right but if there are many categories it could be first the cross the finish line for the most minor of offenses.

Idk, perhaps a more clever person can wordsmith that.
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Anonymous wrote:I need some more information. So they showed up at 8am? How far away do they live that they were worried about traffic?


OP here. They live 2 hours away. So hardly a huge trek. They did not text or call to say they had decided to get moving basically right after they woke up. That still would have been weird, but not as weird as our doorbell ringing right after DH had left to drop the kids off at daycare. A text would have been nice.

I am planning on staying up here, working, getting myself and only myself lunch when I need to, and leaving them to entertain themselves. DH has the office that’s in a more central location, so he can deal with them. My “office” is a corner of our bedroom.

Now that business hours have started, this is my final post about my situation, and I cede the thread to anyone who has a petty vent!


Translation: you’re embarrassed by your own pettiness.


How does it feel that everyone else in the thread is in agreement this is annoying, and you are so totally wrong and doubling down on it?


Part of the tradition of a DCUM petty vent thread are a fraction of posters who say OP is being ridiculous and petty.

Like another poster said, bring more of the the petty vents! I love reading them.


Here for the petty, rolling my eyes at every poster who's told a venter to suck it up/she's the problem.


+1, it’s like if they repeat it enough, more people will agree with them.
Anonymous
I totally get it OP. what is it with old people and this obsession about traffic? They have all the time in the world.
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Anonymous wrote:I totally get it OP. what is it with old people and this obsession about traffic? They have all the time in the world.


Dp. Some older people get panic attacks when they are stuck in traffic. It has nothong to do with having all the time in the world.

Some worry their car will overheat or they run out of gas. Let's hope people aren't as judgemental as you are to you when you are older.

Not saying I don't get the annoyance
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Anonymous wrote:I totally get it OP. what is it with old people and this obsession about traffic? They have all the time in the world.


Shrew.
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Anonymous wrote:I totally get it OP. what is it with old people and this obsession about traffic? They have all the time in the world.


Their eyes don’t work well, they live in areas without traffic and don’t have experience with it, they have anxiety, their reflexes are diminished, on and on and on
Anonymous
My inlaws used to do this often when we were just starting out professionally and didn't work from home. They'd start calling around noon and tell us they were waiting on the porch when they knew we had to work until 6 p.m. and they'd been asked not to arrive until after 6 p.m. We were in a townhouse at the time so neighbors would message us as well, and eventually DH would have to leave the office and let them in and start the visit early. I get it. It's rude and annoying.
Anonymous
OMG, this is classic. My mom and step dad would do this. And sometimes they'd show up at like 7am.
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Anonymous wrote:I love a petty vent thread!


Me too! But I don't think this is petty. This is a huge imposition and clear failure of communication on the in-laws part. How hard is it to send a text the night before saying "hey we're gonna start driving at 5am and get there earlier than planned".
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Our house would still be the pit of despair and fridge empty. Nine hours early is a nightmare and really inconsiderate of them to change the plan without checking in. Id be unavailable until after work as well. At best order lunch in - even if you have groceries.

My sisters inlaws are like this too. Then want jobs to help/stay busy/manage their anxiety. It’s well meant, but exhausting- even second hand.


This would be my house 9 hours out as well!

Keep coming with petty vents folks, I love them! We are having small Thanksgiving at home so no good vents from me this year. I will start up the Christmas thread. I have elderly parents with weird food and garbage management demands. They can supply endless petty vents!
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Anonymous wrote:I need some more information. So they showed up at 8am? How far away do they live that they were worried about traffic?


OP here. They live 2 hours away. So hardly a huge trek. They did not text or call to say they had decided to get moving basically right after they woke up. That still would have been weird, but not as weird as our doorbell ringing right after DH had left to drop the kids off at daycare. A text would have been nice.

I am planning on staying up here, working, getting myself and only myself lunch when I need to, and leaving them to entertain themselves. DH has the office that’s in a more central location, so he can deal with them. My “office” is a corner of our bedroom.

Now that business hours have started, this is my final post about my situation, and I cede the thread to anyone who has a petty vent!


OP, I get it, but trust me, they also will be happy to deal with their son and grandkids and not you. So you staying in the bedroom works out great for everyone. Except they will think you are not a good wife, but you don’t care do you?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I need some more information. So they showed up at 8am? How far away do they live that they were worried about traffic?


OP here. They live 2 hours away. So hardly a huge trek. They did not text or call to say they had decided to get moving basically right after they woke up. That still would have been weird, but not as weird as our doorbell ringing right after DH had left to drop the kids off at daycare. A text would have been nice.

I am planning on staying up here, working, getting myself and only myself lunch when I need to, and leaving them to entertain themselves. DH has the office that’s in a more central location, so he can deal with them. My “office” is a corner of our bedroom.

Now that business hours have started, this is my final post about my situation, and I cede the thread to anyone who has a petty vent!


OP, I get it.

When I was in labor with DC#2, DH called his parents and asked them to come at noon, when we planned to leave for the hospital, to take care of DC. Around 9AM, he got in the shower and as I walked around the house moaning, with wet hair and wearing a flimsy nightgown sans underwear, the ILs showed up. WTAF
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:My inlaws used to do this often when we were just starting out professionally and didn't work from home. They'd start calling around noon and tell us they were waiting on the porch when they knew we had to work until 6 p.m. and they'd been asked not to arrive until after 6 p.m. We were in a townhouse at the time so neighbors would message us as well, and eventually DH would have to leave the office and let them in and start the visit early. I get it. It's rude and annoying.


This is funny. My parents would use the opportunity to circle the house to create their list of things that we need to fix right away regarding exterior of home and landscaping.
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