Asking guests to walk between ceremony and reception

[Anonymous]

What's the actual distance? From where to where?

[Anonymous]

This seems fine to me. If they can get themselves to the ceremony, they can get themselves to the reception venue.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You’ve got to be kidding me. 10 minutes is like 5 blocks. Sure, arrange transport for the elderly and disabled but most should be fine.

+1 have done this at tons of weddings.... not a big deal at all, just get help for elderly/guests with health matters

In downtown DC in summer? I suspect not. You'd remember how those sweat stains (not just under your arms) forever wrecked your clothing, and how miserable you were by the time you got to the reception. Yeah, after just 10 minutes. It's literally swamp weather here in summer. Even in the evenings, many days.

I mean, is this any different than the numerous outdoor weddings we have all been to in the mid-Atlantic in July? So I'm going to sweat while I walk from the church to the reception hall? No worse than sweating to death during the ceremony and/or cocktail hour in that beautiful sunny, hot and humid garden because a hotel ballroom wasn't good enough for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This seems fine to me. If they can get themselves to the ceremony, they can get themselves to the reception venue.

If you’re going to a wedding in a city, you probably Uber or taxi to the event. If 250 people come out of the church all at once and try to Uber or taxi to the reception, it’s a sh&t show.


Or there might be a shuttle from the hotel to the service and then from the party back to the hotel later that night. Hence everyone is going to be needing a taxi or Uber if they don’t want to walk in heels or sweat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here’s what will happen. It will be raining or gross outside when the ceremony ends, and people won’t be able to get Ubers right away due to the number of problem requesting them. So they will go to the bar across the street to wait 30 min until the crowd clears and they can get an Uber. 30 min will turn into 60 min will turn into 2 hours, and then you will end up with a bunch of people showing up late and drunk to your reception. Enjoy!

Yep!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We did this with our guests. Catholic wedding so needed a church for the ceremony. It was in the middle of Manhattan so transportation didn’t make sense for a few blocks.

....................I may have attended this wedding. Catholic Church to fancy club in NYC? Not arranging for transport was a sh*tshow. We couldnt' get ubers and we all wound up walking for blocks in heels and dresses we did not want sweaty. It was incredibly annoying.

Pay for transport. Economize elsewhere if you need to

Ha, not that was not my wedding. Mine was in the fall on a cool day and we walked along with our guests through Grand Central Station. Only thing we heard was that I walked too fast (nervous energy!) a guest with a double stroller couldn't get through a door and needed help.

We had arranged for cars for the older guests, but if I remember correctly, everyone ended up walking. It was a fun memory.

[Anonymous]

OP it’s a mistake. Get a bus. You can control the weather and people’s bad shoes. They’re not coming in their walking clothes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This seems fine to me. If they can get themselves to the ceremony, they can get themselves to the reception venue.

If you’re going to a wedding in a city, you probably Uber or taxi to the event. If 250 people come out of the church all at once and try to Uber or taxi to the reception, it’s a sh&t show.


Or there might be a shuttle from the hotel to the service and then from the party back to the hotel later that night. Hence everyone is going to be needing a taxi or Uber if they don’t want to walk in heels or sweat.

I think people are trying to tell the bride or relative that posted, that one or both of them has to spring for a shuttle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We did this with our guests. Catholic wedding so needed a church for the ceremony. It was in the middle of Manhattan so transportation didn’t make sense for a few blocks.

....................I may have attended this wedding. Catholic Church to fancy club in NYC? Not arranging for transport was a sh*tshow. We couldnt' get ubers and we all wound up walking for blocks in heels and dresses we did not want sweaty. It was incredibly annoying.

Pay for transport. Economize elsewhere if you need to

Ha, not that was not my wedding. Mine was in the fall on a cool day and we walked along with our guests through Grand Central Station. Only thing we heard was that I walked too fast (nervous energy!) a guest with a double stroller couldn't get through a door and needed help.

We had arranged for cars for the older guests, but if I remember correctly, everyone ended up walking. It was a fun memory.

I am really glad I was not there, because it is not up to you to decide who needs proper transport or not. So rude!

Brides, it is NOT ONLY OLD PEOPLE who need transport. That is a bunch of hooey.

This reeks of my MIL dismissing anyone's concerns that don't suit her - because Narcissism (with a cap!)

[Anonymous]

Could be raining. Provide transportation.

You could do a small shuttle and just take multiple trips.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We did this with our guests. Catholic wedding so needed a church for the ceremony. It was in the middle of Manhattan so transportation didn’t make sense for a few blocks.

....................I may have attended this wedding. Catholic Church to fancy club in NYC? Not arranging for transport was a sh*tshow. We couldnt' get ubers and we all wound up walking for blocks in heels and dresses we did not want sweaty. It was incredibly annoying.

Pay for transport. Economize elsewhere if you need to

Ha, not that was not my wedding. Mine was in the fall on a cool day and we walked along with our guests through Grand Central Station. Only thing we heard was that I walked too fast (nervous energy!) a guest with a double stroller couldn't get through a door and needed help.

We had arranged for cars for the older guests, but if I remember correctly, everyone ended up walking. It was a fun memory.

I am really glad I was not there, because it is not up to you to decide who needs proper transport or not. So rude!

Brides, it is NOT ONLY OLD PEOPLE who need transport. That is a bunch of hooey.

This reeks of my MIL dismissing anyone's concerns that don't suit her - because Narcissism (with a cap!)

PP here. Wow that's an aggressive response! Old people is just the operative phrase for anyone who needs accommodations. I don't think anyone is going to check IDs to make sure they are old enough to qualify. Having transportation for those who opt out of walking seems reasonable.

OP - one thing we did was let our guests know in advance that there would be a walk so no one was surprised.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We did this with our guests. Catholic wedding so needed a church for the ceremony. It was in the middle of Manhattan so transportation didn’t make sense for a few blocks.

....................I may have attended this wedding. Catholic Church to fancy club in NYC? Not arranging for transport was a sh*tshow. We couldnt' get ubers and we all wound up walking for blocks in heels and dresses we did not want sweaty. It was incredibly annoying.

Pay for transport. Economize elsewhere if you need to

Ha, not that was not my wedding. Mine was in the fall on a cool day and we walked along with our guests through Grand Central Station. Only thing we heard was that I walked too fast (nervous energy!) a guest with a double stroller couldn't get through a door and needed help.

We had arranged for cars for the older guests, but if I remember correctly, everyone ended up walking. It was a fun memory.

I am really glad I was not there, because it is not up to you to decide who needs proper transport or not. So rude!

Brides, it is NOT ONLY OLD PEOPLE who need transport. That is a bunch of hooey.

This reeks of my MIL dismissing anyone's concerns that don't suit her - because Narcissism (with a cap!)

Yeah, I look young and healthy but I have chronic pain issues that makes it hard to walk long distances in wedding shoes, and also hard for me to haul around a bag with better walking shoes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We did this with our guests. Catholic wedding so needed a church for the ceremony. It was in the middle of Manhattan so transportation didn’t make sense for a few blocks.

....................I may have attended this wedding. Catholic Church to fancy club in NYC? Not arranging for transport was a sh*tshow. We couldnt' get ubers and we all wound up walking for blocks in heels and dresses we did not want sweaty. It was incredibly annoying.

Pay for transport. Economize elsewhere if you need to

Ha, not that was not my wedding. Mine was in the fall on a cool day and we walked along with our guests through Grand Central Station. Only thing we heard was that I walked too fast (nervous energy!) a guest with a double stroller couldn't get through a door and needed help.

We had arranged for cars for the older guests, but if I remember correctly, everyone ended up walking. It was a fun memory.


YATA. It was fun for YOU

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We did this with our guests. Catholic wedding so needed a church for the ceremony. It was in the middle of Manhattan so transportation didn’t make sense for a few blocks.

....................I may have attended this wedding. Catholic Church to fancy club in NYC? Not arranging for transport was a sh*tshow. We couldnt' get ubers and we all wound up walking for blocks in heels and dresses we did not want sweaty. It was incredibly annoying.

Pay for transport. Economize elsewhere if you need to

Ha, not that was not my wedding. Mine was in the fall on a cool day and we walked along with our guests through Grand Central Station. Only thing we heard was that I walked too fast (nervous energy!) a guest with a double stroller couldn't get through a door and needed help.

We had arranged for cars for the older guests, but if I remember correctly, everyone ended up walking. It was a fun memory.

I am really glad I was not there, because it is not up to you to decide who needs proper transport or not. So rude!

Brides, it is NOT ONLY OLD PEOPLE who need transport. That is a bunch of hooey.

This reeks of my MIL dismissing anyone's concerns that don't suit her - because Narcissism (with a cap!)

PP here. Wow that's an aggressive response! Old people is just the operative phrase for anyone who needs accommodations. I don't think anyone is going to check IDs to make sure they are old enough to qualify. Having transportation for those who opt out of walking seems reasonable.

OP - one thing we did was let our guests know in advance that there would be a walk so no one was surprised.

It's not aggressive, since it seems you plan to leave your guests in the lurch, and give Aunt Lulu a ride, on the sly. Not cool.

Is this OP??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We did this with our guests. Catholic wedding so needed a church for the ceremony. It was in the middle of Manhattan so transportation didn’t make sense for a few blocks.

....................I may have attended this wedding. Catholic Church to fancy club in NYC? Not arranging for transport was a sh*tshow. We couldnt' get ubers and we all wound up walking for blocks in heels and dresses we did not want sweaty. It was incredibly annoying.

Pay for transport. Economize elsewhere if you need to

Ha, not that was not my wedding. Mine was in the fall on a cool day and we walked along with our guests through Grand Central Station. Only thing we heard was that I walked too fast (nervous energy!) a guest with a double stroller couldn't get through a door and needed help.

We had arranged for cars for the older guests, but if I remember correctly, everyone ended up walking. It was a fun memory.

I am really glad I was not there, because it is not up to you to decide who needs proper transport or not. So rude!

Brides, it is NOT ONLY OLD PEOPLE who need transport. That is a bunch of hooey.

This reeks of my MIL dismissing anyone's concerns that don't suit her - because Narcissism (with a cap!)

Yeah, I look young and healthy but I have chronic pain issues that makes it hard to walk long distances in wedding shoes, and also hard for me to haul around a bag with better walking shoes.

+1

Exactly. It is not up to OP to be narcissistic, controlling and snarky and tell guests they are walking - and no guest should have to ask for a ride, and single themselves out. OP seems to be playing dense, on purpose - and not very well.