If you could financially quit your job, would you?

[Anonymous]

I'm currently facing this dilemma. DH makes enough that we can comfortably live without my salary. I have a fairly flexible job - only 1 day in office per week but I need to be at my computer most of the day. We have two kids 15 and 12 who I am constantly shuttling around and I do almost all of the housework - cooking, laundry, driving to school and activities. I would like to spend the last few years that my kids are at home spending time with them and having the flexibility to travel, take them on adventures, etc. However, I worry that I will regret leaving my job once they go to college. I don't particularly find my job fulfilling but it does make some extra money and gives me something to do. Any thoughts on what you would do in my situation. I understand I'm fortunate to have this choice.

[Anonymous]

How much are you making? Do you have enough life insurance to live on in case something happens to your husband?

[Anonymous]

200%

[Anonymous]

Yes but I also teach a class in my field at a community college twice a week and I'd keep that because I love teaching. Perhaps I'd add another section and work on a book.

I do like having an income and I think going to a job and having professional commitments is good for mental health and social connectivity. That's actually what I dislike most about working from home. I actually like a lot of my work well enough, but I feel so isolated and disconnected.

[Anonymous]

That's a tough one, because it sounds like a good setup and you could regret it in only a few short years. I feel like your kids are just about old enough to make staying the better choice. How stable is it? Any option to go part time or take unpaid leave in excess of your PTO?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes but I also teach a class in my field at a community college twice a week and I'd keep that because I love teaching. Perhaps I'd add another section and work on a book.

I do like having an income and I think going to a job and having professional commitments is good for mental health and social connectivity. That's actually what I dislike most about working from home. I actually like a lot of my work well enough, but I feel so isolated and disconnected.

Oh, that changes everything if you don't like WFH (I just posted above saying this was a good setup; I thought you were afraid to lose this benefit). You still have a career and can keep your resume fresh with the teaching, so if you don't need the money and don't mind taking an in-office job when the kids are launched, quitting isn't that big of a risk.

Working full time, raising kids, and teaching at night is a lot if you don't even need the money!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes but I also teach a class in my field at a community college twice a week and I'd keep that because I love teaching. Perhaps I'd add another section and work on a book.

I do like having an income and I think going to a job and having professional commitments is good for mental health and social connectivity. That's actually what I dislike most about working from home. I actually like a lot of my work well enough, but I feel so isolated and disconnected.

Oh, that changes everything if you don't like WFH (I just posted above saying this was a good setup; I thought you were afraid to lose this benefit). You still have a career and can keep your resume fresh with the teaching, so if you don't need the money and don't mind taking an in-office job when the kids are launched, quitting isn't that big of a risk.

Working full time, raising kids, and teaching at night is a lot if you don't even need the money!

OP here. I was not the person to post about teaching a class but I do share the feeling of isolation from WFH. part of the reason I want to quit is to have the opportunity to get out and meet more people by doing things like tennis, golf, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes but I also teach a class in my field at a community college twice a week and I'd keep that because I love teaching. Perhaps I'd add another section and work on a book.

I do like having an income and I think going to a job and having professional commitments is good for mental health and social connectivity. That's actually what I dislike most about working from home. I actually like a lot of my work well enough, but I feel so isolated and disconnected.

Oh, that changes everything if you don't like WFH (I just posted above saying this was a good setup; I thought you were afraid to lose this benefit). You still have a career and can keep your resume fresh with the teaching, so if you don't need the money and don't mind taking an in-office job when the kids are launched, quitting isn't that big of a risk.

Working full time, raising kids, and teaching at night is a lot if you don't even need the money!

OP here. I was not the person to post about teaching a class but I do share the feeling of isolation from WFH. part of the reason I want to quit is to have the opportunity to get out and meet more people by doing things like tennis, golf, etc.

Is your DH going to resent you quitting your job to play tennis with your new friends? I feel like if I was stuck working a job and my husband said "I don't want to miss out on the last years the kids are in the house" and I said I'd shoulder the finances and then he used his newfound time off to take up golfing I would be pretty bothered.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes but I also teach a class in my field at a community college twice a week and I'd keep that because I love teaching. Perhaps I'd add another section and work on a book.

I do like having an income and I think going to a job and having professional commitments is good for mental health and social connectivity. That's actually what I dislike most about working from home. I actually like a lot of my work well enough, but I feel so isolated and disconnected.

Oh, that changes everything if you don't like WFH (I just posted above saying this was a good setup; I thought you were afraid to lose this benefit). You still have a career and can keep your resume fresh with the teaching, so if you don't need the money and don't mind taking an in-office job when the kids are launched, quitting isn't that big of a risk.

Working full time, raising kids, and teaching at night is a lot if you don't even need the money!

OP here. I was not the person to post about teaching a class but I do share the feeling of isolation from WFH. part of the reason I want to quit is to have the opportunity to get out and meet more people by doing things like tennis, golf, etc.

Is your DH going to resent you quitting your job to play tennis with your new friends? I feel like if I was stuck working a job and my husband said "I don't want to miss out on the last years the kids are in the house" and I said I'd shoulder the finances and then he used his newfound time off to take up golfing I would be pretty bothered.

Actually, DH is encouraging me to quit. He sees that I'm feeling isolated and unhappy and wants me to pursue my interests. He recognizes the burden I've had of years of working full time and shouldering the household tasks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes but I also teach a class in my field at a community college twice a week and I'd keep that because I love teaching. Perhaps I'd add another section and work on a book.

I do like having an income and I think going to a job and having professional commitments is good for mental health and social connectivity. That's actually what I dislike most about working from home. I actually like a lot of my work well enough, but I feel so isolated and disconnected.

Oh, that changes everything if you don't like WFH (I just posted above saying this was a good setup; I thought you were afraid to lose this benefit). You still have a career and can keep your resume fresh with the teaching, so if you don't need the money and don't mind taking an in-office job when the kids are launched, quitting isn't that big of a risk.

Working full time, raising kids, and teaching at night is a lot if you don't even need the money!

OP here. I was not the person to post about teaching a class but I do share the feeling of isolation from WFH. part of the reason I want to quit is to have the opportunity to get out and meet more people by doing things like tennis, golf, etc.

Is your DH going to resent you quitting your job to play tennis with your new friends? I feel like if I was stuck working a job and my husband said "I don't want to miss out on the last years the kids are in the house" and I said I'd shoulder the finances and then he used his newfound time off to take up golfing I would be pretty bothered.

Actually, DH is encouraging me to quit. He sees that I'm feeling isolated and unhappy and wants me to pursue my interests. He recognizes the burden I've had of years of working full time and shouldering the household tasks.

Formulate a plan about how you'll spend your time while the kids are at school. If that plan makes you happy, do it. Working FT plus all household responsibilities is exhausting. You did it long enough and will not regret having more time to spend with your kids before they leave home, trust me. So long as your husband's job is secure.

[Anonymous]

I could quite mine, and have not. I enjoy it, and would be depressed without having something I have to do. And I enjoy my coworkers.

[Anonymous]

YES. I would quit today.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely I would. My office is hybrid but I've peaked out and am most likely not being tracked for greater and much higher-paying, things. I had a good run and if I could, would bow out and pursue something else.

[Anonymous]

Why doesn't he do any housework? Is he making enough that it's reasonable to outsource more? Will you be able to go back to work when the kids are out of the house?

[Anonymous]

SAHM - Zero regrets.