What options do I have to hold my teen back a grade midway through Hs?
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Anonymous
| I have a teen whose bday is in July. In hindsight, I should have held back a grade at earlier age but public school didn’t permit and we have been in a private school that is 5-12th grade. We are about to start 11th grade. What options do I have at this stage? They are just starting to grow and could also benefit from another year for their sport. I might be SOL and the idea of a postgrad year at a private prep school when tuition is same price as college doesn’t seem to make much sense plus they also want one more year of living at home. Any guidance? |
Anonymous
| What is with these trolls? |
Anonymous
| Community college. |
Anonymous
| Boarding school is where I've heard repeating 8th instead of heading to 9th. That is a lot younger though. |
Anonymous
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Do a PG year. I think there are local schools that may do it.
Look at bullis Episcopal Georgetown Prep |
Anonymous
| I bet there are local gap year programs too. Will your private school assist with college apps after a gap year? |
Anonymous
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As soon as you get into "holding back" territory, it means you need to get your child evaluated instead for ADHD, anxiety, etc.
Holding back is not done in high school. It will look REALLY PROBLEMATIC on the transcripts you send to college. Holding back for a sport is the height of stupidity. No sport is worth the emotional and psychological burden of a child who knows they were held back (particularly in high school). These days, US colleges really hold the students' hands when they come in as freshmen. Also, from now until they step into their dorm, they will mature A LOT. So don't be stupid, OP. |
Anonymous
| Homeschool a year, claim it was a failed experiment and try to re-enroll at local high school and repeat the grade. Get creative if your kid will go along with it. |
Anonymous
I would expect significant issues with college admittance after that scheme. Do a gap year after high school. |
Anonymous
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How is he doing academically?
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Anonymous
| The horse is out of the barn. That being said… you would need to change to a private school where nobody knows him. Otherwise your kid will feel humiliated. That is why experts recommend against holding a kid back once they have started school. If you want him to take a gap year after high school that is the best way to handle it. |
Anonymous
That's where the "get creative" comes into play. One could do a travel year and a home study year filled with experiences. I think you could explain it away. Maybe not for every level of school but there are plenty of schools that need butts in seats and if the gpa and test scores are good, even with a miscellaneous year, you'd get plenty of acceptances. The harder sell is how to get public school to take you back... I'm not sure but I'm am sure there is a work-around.... |
Anonymous
Agreed and the fire 🔥 dept has been notified to hook a supply hose up to the nearest hydrant to quench that massive thirst of yours. I really don’t think they will be successful. |
Anonymous
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Not a good idea to hold back in high school unless they are failing.
What are her actual Issues? Grades? |
Anonymous
This. |