Advice: 10 year old wants to use a binder

[Anonymous]

My 10 year old is figuring out their gender identity and expressing that they are non binary and/or trans. They are not out. I think a few friends know about their gender id and I know some about it. I’m trying to let them share with me on their own timeline.

Unfortunately puberty is upon us and they have some breast growth. I discovered some online searches for using a binder, making your own binder, etc. Even an Amazon search for binders. Should I directly tell my kid I found this info and talk about options? Do I just get some very compressive sports bras and act like I don’t know? I want to support my kid and I hate that they feeling so uncomfortable with and in their body.

[Anonymous]

I would have an open discussion, in a compassionate way. Love is a wonderful thing.

[Anonymous]

If your child didn't ask for a binder, I wouldn't suggest it.

[Anonymous]

FFS leave them alone.
There are many types of bras and sports bras. There are also many ways NBs dress and present. No, I would not bring this up. Sports bras are fine for a 10 year old.
Also get them off the internet and don’t feed the dysphoria.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your child didn't ask for a binder, I wouldn't suggest it.

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yes to sports bras though

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your child didn't ask for a binder, I wouldn't suggest it.

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yes to sports bras though

+1
Just get some good sports bras. My kid had some similar dysphoria and actually wanted a binder, but I wasn't comfortable with that level of compression on a still-growing body, and explained why. They wore sports bras instead, and I just never made a big deal about it one way or the other. (Now at 13 they choose to wear "normal" wireless bras most of the time.) Open communication is important, but your kid, not you, should be driving the bus.

[Anonymous]

Binders can have long term health impacts and cause rib damage and pain. Go for sports bras, and be open to your daughter growing up as a butch lesbian vs. a trendy gender identity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your child didn't ask for a binder, I wouldn't suggest it.

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yes to sports bras though

+2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your child didn't ask for a binder, I wouldn't suggest it.

They’re clearly curious though.

I would explain why you’re not comfortable with that and talk about alternatives

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 10 year old is figuring out their gender identity and expressing that they are non binary and/or trans. They are not out. I think a few friends know about their gender id and I know some about it. I’m trying to let them share with me on their own timeline.

Unfortunately puberty is upon us and they have some breast growth. I discovered some online searches for using a binder, making your own binder, etc. Even an Amazon search for binders. Should I directly tell my kid I found this info and talk about options? Do I just get some very compressive sports bras and act like I don’t know? I want to support my kid and I hate that they feeling so uncomfortable with and in their body.

Which chromosomes?

[Anonymous]

My kid went through this. She asked for a binder, and I got her one. It was just a more muscular version of a sports bra. She wore it for a couple of years while coming to terms with the garbage fire that is femininity today-- through puberty, basically. Once she became more comfortable with her new body, she stopped.

I think it's great that kids today--whether they end up trans or cis-- have the option of postponing becoming capital-w Women, rather than being thrown into the deep end, complete with sexualization they're not ready for. I was told to "enjoy the attention, it won't last" when I was a body-conscious adolescent.

[Anonymous]

I would bring up as little as possible. If they have questions, answer them honestly. If they want a binder, I would support them having one.

Their own timeline is an important phrase that you used. Let them learn about things on their own. And hopefully they don't learn much until they're a lot older.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FFS leave them alone.
There are many types of bras and sports bras. There are also many ways NBs dress and present. No, I would not bring this up. Sports bras are fine for a 10 year old.
Also get them off the internet and don’t feed the dysphoria.

AGAIN with the cis-normative content. Get them ON the internet so they can get support from people who actually care about them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FFS leave them alone.
There are many types of bras and sports bras. There are also many ways NBs dress and present. No, I would not bring this up. Sports bras are fine for a 10 year old.
Also get them off the internet and don’t feed the dysphoria.

AGAIN with the cis-normative content. Get them ON the internet so they can get support from people who actually care about them.

Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FFS leave them alone.
There are many types of bras and sports bras. There are also many ways NBs dress and present. No, I would not bring this up. Sports bras are fine for a 10 year old.
Also get them off the internet and don’t feed the dysphoria.

AGAIN with the cis-normative content. Get them ON the internet so they can get support from people who actually care about them.

Lol

I am glad you think this is a laughing matter. You have the blood of trans kids on your hands.