Single friend with no dc never ever asks about my family or kids

[Anonymous]

She shows me pics of her life, talks about her issues etc and it’s like my world with dc doesn’t exist. When I mention them, she quickly rushes over the topic, often pathologizing them (if I mention dc has attention issues at school “oh he probably is on the spectrum and has ADD, you should get him on meds’ and then quickly pivots back to her life.

It’s tiring. Wwyd?

[Anonymous]

You do not have marriage or kids as common topics.

So, you are foolish if you expect her to have great insights. She is giving you as much knowledge she has because this is not a shared experience of parenthood for her.

Why don't you just enjoy her company? Remember that your thoughts alone can make life and life situations blissful or hellish. So, go do something constructive or go for a walk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She shows me pics of her life, talks about her issues etc and it’s like my world with dc doesn’t exist. When I mention them, she quickly rushes over the topic, often pathologizing them (if I mention dc has attention issues at school “oh he probably is on the spectrum and has ADD, you should get him on meds’ and then quickly pivots back to her life.

It’s tiring. Wwyd?

A lot of people are only into talking about themselves, I don't see that as any issue of her having children or not (some people may talk only about their husband and kids and don't ask their single friends questions)... but that's super rude what she said about your son! It's incredibly dismissive if he actually did have those special needs because it's basically "just use meds and shut up about it!"

[Anonymous]

She just sounds self-centered?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do not have marriage or kids as common topics.

So, you are foolish if you expect her to have great insights. She is giving you as much knowledge she has because this is not a shared experience of parenthood for her.

Why don't you just enjoy her company? Remember that your thoughts alone can make life and life situations blissful or hellish. So, go do something constructive or go for a walk.

Not op but your post is dumb and unhelpful

Op some people are self centered and insecure

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't consider her a friend if she can't have enough perspective to know she should ask her "friend" about her life. Dump her

[Anonymous]

I think we probably have different definitions of friends. For me, those are more superficial acquaintances. My friends actually care about and take an interest in my life, as I do theirs. Those acquaintances are fine, and don't bother me at all because I have zero expectations of a genuine friendship.

[Anonymous]

^^ Me again, also I don't share very personal information with superficial acquaintances. Maybe you should start there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^ Me again, also I don't share very personal information with superficial acquaintances. Maybe you should start there.

What? You don't even discuss circumcision?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She shows me pics of her life, talks about her issues etc and it’s like my world with dc doesn’t exist. When I mention them, she quickly rushes over the topic, often pathologizing them (if I mention dc has attention issues at school “oh he probably is on the spectrum and has ADD, you should get him on meds’ and then quickly pivots back to her life.

It’s tiring. Wwyd?

It sounds like she dominates you and your are very submissive.
If you want to share things about your family and kids, just do it. Why do you want her to ask about them?
She talks about her life because that's what she can talk about. Do you want her to talk about other people's life?

It's very rude to asks acquaintances about their kids and family unless they signal that they are comfortable sharing those deeper private details of their life with you.

Maybe you are just acquaintances, not close friends.

[Anonymous]

That’s not a friend, OP. A friend cares about the things that are important to you.

I would consider them an acquaintance, as PP said, and I’d spend very little time with them. They aren’t your real friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She shows me pics of her life, talks about her issues etc and it’s like my world with dc doesn’t exist. When I mention them, she quickly rushes over the topic, often pathologizing them (if I mention dc has attention issues at school “oh he probably is on the spectrum and has ADD, you should get him on meds’ and then quickly pivots back to her life.

It’s tiring. Wwyd?

What I did was distance myself and work on the slow fade. This friend thinks of me as a sister, due to my interest and support. I think of her as an acquaintance, who only is interested in the broad strokes of my life. It is one sided and unsatisfying, so bye bye!

[Anonymous]

It may be you? I have plenty of friends who are childless by choice and I’ve never run out of things to talk to them about. I also don’t expect them to care about certain things related to my kids. I talk about those issues with my friends who have children.

[Anonymous]

It is hard to relate to other people if you are in very different life circumstances or not very close. Find other friends more empathic or with similar life struggles to discuss your parenthood experience

[Anonymous]

I don’t care to hear about kids.