I want to hear from men

[Anonymous]

I like when I see men commenting on posts here, it actually makes me feel happy and kind of like… wow. Even when you don’t agree with the OP, it’s usually more like “I don’t like that” without attacking, and I respect that. It makes me want to talk to men more. Most of my friends are men, and I think men are underappreciated. A lot of women hate men for no reason, and it’s odd.

First and most importantly, how are you doing? I hope everything going well in your life.

What do you actually want?
Like in life, in relationships, all of

How can women make things better for you?

What makes you feel respected or valued?

What do you want from the woman you’re with?

What kind of woman do you actually want to date?

And do you think men are devalued right now?

[Anonymous]

And remember, if you feel unloved and unappreciated today, there’s some woman out there thinking about you. I love and appreciate you. Have a great day!

[Anonymous]

Women posters will hang you dry very soon. I hate that about women.

[Anonymous]

Here’s another one you can add. What’s going on in your life? Tell us whatever new accomplishment you have or things you’ve done that you’ve maybe haven’t had anyone to tell? Or just tell us whatever, really, share you thoughts.

[Anonymous]

1. As cliche as it sounds, just being happy is what I want. To enjoy my family and friends, travel, and retire early.
2. Wife and I have a great relationship. She has a lighter work schedule than me so sometimes she does my laundry or does more around the house that I would normally do so when we have downtime we can spend it together vs me doing the things I need to. So that's nice.
3. Not really sure how to answer this. I guess our close relationship makes me feel valued? If I ask DW or DS to do something and they do it (DW had a habit of leaving cups or dishes everywhere and it drove me nuts. She's stopped) then I guess I feel respected.
4. I like that DW and I are like equals. I'm the primary contact for school/activities and I like that DW trusts me to manage it all. I like that she initiates sex as much as I do. I like that DW has a life outside of just me and DS, as I am a bit of an introvert so I'm glad she has people to do things with outside of me.
5. We've been together 15+ years but when I was dating, someone who held their own. Someone who had a good job. Someone who was adventurous. Someone who would fit in seamlessly with my group of friends or at a work function. I'm a boob guy and prefer a more average size body than thin.
6. I think there is a group that undervalues men and I think they get a lot of attention, especially when they post/say inflammatory things for the purpose of getting that attention. As a whole, I don't think it exists though. There is definitely more attention on the toxic masculinity and DW and I have had the discussion many times about how guys have changed from when we were growing up. But we both agree it's largely in a good way (at least where we live)
7. Recently got a large raise and bought my dream car. DS just made a soccer team for next year that he's thrilled about and I'm going to help coach. I just booked a trip for me and DW for August that I haven't told her about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women posters will hang you dry very soon. I hate that about women.

Think about what this world would look like if women would support each other and lift each other up instead of tearing each other down.

[Anonymous]

Men want low drama and normalcy. 90% of what woman think we care about we really don’t. The other 10% is where we focus. We also have wish woman understood the concept or opportunity cost.

Also woman try to be content with what you have for 1-2 days a week. Your husband will be thankful.

[Anonymous]

55 y.o. male lawyer here, make around $400k, have 2 DC's, one wife.
Generally, life is pretty good, as I get to do spend time on what I love: my DC's, family, work, exercising, and a few hours a week on my obscure hobby.
What would I like?
1) i wish everyone (my wife and DC's) appreciated how demanding it is to come up with the $20k per month that is required to keep the household running. I'm not saying that we don't live well, but that private school, that big house, all those school extra curricular activities aren't free, and I'm the one responsible for them. On top of that, I still have to attend recitals, teach them how to ride a bike, and be a therapist when a DC is having an emotional crisis.
2) I also LOVE it when my wife makes the effort to look hot. After everything that I do for (1), it's a nice reward that I wish I got more often.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:55 y.o. male lawyer here, make around $400k, have 2 DC's, one wife.
Generally, life is pretty good, as I get to do spend time on what I love: my DC's, family, work, exercising, and a few hours a week on my obscure hobby.
What would I like?
1) i wish everyone (my wife and DC's) appreciated how demanding it is to come up with the $20k per month that is required to keep the household running. I'm not saying that we don't live well, but that private school, that big house, all those school extra curricular activities aren't free, and I'm the one responsible for them. On top of that, I still have to attend recitals, teach them how to ride a bike, and be a therapist when a DC is having an emotional crisis.
2) I also LOVE it when my wife makes the effort to look hot. After everything that I do for (1), it's a nice reward that I wish I got more often.

What is involved in her looking hot? Do you mean going to the gym and dieting, wearing (more?) makeup, more expensive clothes, getting her hair dyed? Or wearing sexier clothes like tighter and shorter? Or something else?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:55 y.o. male lawyer here, make around $400k, have 2 DC's, one wife.
Generally, life is pretty good, as I get to do spend time on what I love: my DC's, family, work, exercising, and a few hours a week on my obscure hobby.
What would I like?
1) i wish everyone (my wife and DC's) appreciated how demanding it is to come up with the $20k per month that is required to keep the household running. I'm not saying that we don't live well, but that private school, that big house, all those school extra curricular activities aren't free, and I'm the one responsible for them. On top of that, I still have to attend recitals, teach them how to ride a bike, and be a therapist when a DC is having an emotional crisis.
2) I also LOVE it when my wife makes the effort to look hot. After everything that I do for (1), it's a nice reward that I wish I got more often.

Count your blessings.
I am a 47 y.o. female lawyer. This year I will earn low seven figures. Yet I do everything on my own for the kid and the household, my husband is checked out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. As cliche as it sounds, just being happy is what I want. To enjoy my family and friends, travel, and retire early.
2. Wife and I have a great relationship. She has a lighter work schedule than me so sometimes she does my laundry or does more around the house that I would normally do so when we have downtime we can spend it together vs me doing the things I need to. So that's nice.
3. Not really sure how to answer this. I guess our close relationship makes me feel valued? If I ask DW or DS to do something and they do it (DW had a habit of leaving cups or dishes everywhere and it drove me nuts. She's stopped) then I guess I feel respected.
4. I like that DW and I are like equals. I'm the primary contact for school/activities and I like that DW trusts me to manage it all. I like that she initiates sex as much as I do. I like that DW has a life outside of just me and DS, as I am a bit of an introvert so I'm glad she has people to do things with outside of me.
5. We've been together 15+ years but when I was dating, someone who held their own. Someone who had a good job. Someone who was adventurous. Someone who would fit in seamlessly with my group of friends or at a work function. I'm a boob guy and prefer a more average size body than thin.
6. I think there is a group that undervalues men and I think they get a lot of attention, especially when they post/say inflammatory things for the purpose of getting that attention. As a whole, I don't think it exists though. There is definitely more attention on the toxic masculinity and DW and I have had the discussion many times about how guys have changed from when we were growing up. But we both agree it's largely in a good way (at least where we live)
7. Recently got a large raise and bought my dream car. DS just made a soccer team for next year that he's thrilled about and I'm going to help coach. I just booked a trip for me and DW for August that I haven't told her about.

Gay.

What an embarrassing response. How old are you?

[Anonymous]

What do you actually want?
Like in life, in relationships, all of

What I actually want is to have a meaningful life, and for my children and family to have meaningful lives. I want us all to have a sense of purpose and to feel fulfilled by our worlds. Loving and healthy relationships, healthy lifestyles, and pursuing school/work that has meaning.

How can women make things better for you?

Helping me figure out how to do the above, checking me when I’m off track. Being one of the relationships and helping guide the children.



What kind of woman do you actually want to date?

The kind of woman I get along with that shares my idea of healthy relationships and purposeful life.


And do you think men are devalued right now?

Nope

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:55 y.o. male lawyer here, make around $400k, have 2 DC's, one wife.
Generally, life is pretty good, as I get to do spend time on what I love: my DC's, family, work, exercising, and a few hours a week on my obscure hobby.
What would I like?
1) i wish everyone (my wife and DC's) appreciated how demanding it is to come up with the $20k per month that is required to keep the household running. I'm not saying that we don't live well, but that private school, that big house, all those school extra curricular activities aren't free, and I'm the one responsible for them. On top of that, I still have to attend recitals, teach them how to ride a bike, and be a therapist when a DC is having an emotional crisis.
2) I also LOVE it when my wife makes the effort to look hot. After everything that I do for (1), it's a nice reward that I wish I got more often.

lol you want big thank yous for paying the bills and teaching your kids to ride a bike? That ain’t how it works. You just do those things and be the parent and when the kids are like 25 they realize and will be grateful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women posters will hang you dry very soon. I hate that about women.

Irony can be very ironic

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:55 y.o. male lawyer here, make around $400k, have 2 DC's, one wife.
Generally, life is pretty good, as I get to do spend time on what I love: my DC's, family, work, exercising, and a few hours a week on my obscure hobby.
What would I like?
1) i wish everyone (my wife and DC's) appreciated how demanding it is to come up with the $20k per month that is required to keep the household running. I'm not saying that we don't live well, but that private school, that big house, all those school extra curricular activities aren't free, and I'm the one responsible for them. On top of that, I still have to attend recitals, teach them how to ride a bike, and be a therapist when a DC is having an emotional crisis.
2) I also LOVE it when my wife makes the effort to look hot. After everything that I do for (1), it's a nice reward that I wish I got more often.

I LOVE how PP has no concept of how #2 and #1 are related.

Willingly chose a transactional relationship and is upset that he isn't Mr Art of The Deal he thought he was.