Do your parents treat your mixed race kids different than their non-mixed race cousins?

[Anonymous]

Do your parents treat all the grandkids pretty equally or do they treat their mixed race grandkids differently from the ones who aren’t mixed?

[Anonymous]

No, because they're a mixed-race couple themselves

[Anonymous]

Not that I've seen. My parents actually often get the same presents for my son and his same age cousin for holidays.

[Anonymous]

My mother does treat my niece (Caucasian) different than my dd's ( Hispanic/Caucasian) but not because my children are mixed race but because she has a better relationship with my brother then she has with me.

[Anonymous]

My MIL treats them individually but not differently. Like by happenstance the only mixed race child is a boy and the rest are all girls.

[Anonymous]

I do not believe so, no.
In order of preference it seems to be my eldest son because they practically raised him as a baby, followed by my mixed race niece because she is the only girl. The others are non-favored grandkids.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Not in obvious ways, but I think subconsciously they believe the non-mixed race cousins will be more amenable to cultural advice/methods/practices than the mixed race kids. That doesn't mean in obvious ways like celebrating holidays, etc., but in more subtle ways like methods of discipline, etc.

[Anonymous]

The bigger issue between my kids (mixed) and my sister's kids (same-race) is that she lived near our parents and so they got to know her kids much better than mine.

There was maybe some additional exoticizing of my kids, but mostly they were just not as familiar with them.

[Anonymous]

Nope. Treats them all the same.

[Anonymous]

No

And we have multi racial and mixed religion couples everywhere on our current family tree.

[Anonymous]

No, in our family my kids are non-favored grandchildren simply because in-laws have a much closer relationship with SIL than they do with my DH and spent the toddler years babysitting them. Even though SIL married out of our religion and they initially were not happy about that.

[Anonymous]

Mixed?
Are we discussing dogs or kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, because they're a mixed-race couple themselves

Actually, research shows that parents bond less well with kids who look differently. Sad, but probably applies to grandparents too. It’s biological.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, because they're a mixed-race couple themselves

Actually, research shows that parents bond less well with kids who look differently. Sad, but probably applies to grandparents too. It’s biological.

PP you replied to. You're going to have to cite this, because I don't believe you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do your parents treat all the grandkids pretty equally or do they treat their mixed race grandkids differently from the ones who aren’t mixed?

No. We all married out of our race.