Weddings and health issues

[Anonymous]

I’m curious about how people organize weddings when the bride/groom and a number of family members and guests can’t have carbs, wine, soft drinks, salt, and nuts due to diabetes, severe allergies, heart problems.

[Anonymous]

I imagine they make sure to have a couple of dishes they can eat, and drink water.

[Anonymous]

We assume they will pass on the bread and cheese plate and load up on the happy hour veggies and salad course

[Anonymous]

For ours, we made sure everything served was free of the person's allergens. We had a couple Celiac as well and chose a caterer who was rated high for their ability to cook for large amounts of people while having to keep a separate Celiac friendly cooking area.

Other than that, we had a wide variety of beverages so no one could really complain they couldn't find something. As for diet related things like DM or heart issues....we didn't have pasta as a dish and our entrees included veggies and a carb. People could skip the carbs if they wanted. We included the option to request a special diet because we knew our caterers could accommodate. No one did (other than the allergy/Celiac which we already knew about). My Type I diabetic brother planned for it. My grandma with heart failure enjoyed one bad meal.

[Anonymous]

Oh JFC just drink water.

[Anonymous]

I mean, if it is the bride/groom that have issues, then just plan the menu around them avoiding the issues with carbs, salt and allergies. A good caterer can probably do this pretty easily, just make all of it clear when talking to potential caterers.

And if you are going to serve alcohol at all, there is no need for the bar to be effected -- just serve beer/wine/mixed drinks/soad/juices/whatever and everyone figures out on their own what they want to drink.

[Anonymous]

I would ensure the people with restrictions could have a full and hearty meal and also serve more general food options for the people who do not have restrictions. I would not force the entire menu to be restricted unless it was for personal ethics or religious reasons.

Personally, I have celiac as well as a dairy allergy (casein, not lactose). It's a tight diet, for sure, and I never ask a host to bend over backward for me. However, I have walked away from more than one event starving because I couldn't get a proper meal. The last wedding I attended, the only thing I could eat was white rice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious about how people organize weddings when the bride/groom and a number of family members and guests can’t have carbs, wine, soft drinks, salt, and nuts due to diabetes, severe allergies, heart problems.

weddings or receptions?

[Anonymous]

Eat before you go and drink water.

[Anonymous]

Adults need to manage their own health and dietary restrictions. Eat beforehand or bring in a small bag of nuts in your purse. It's not that hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Adults need to manage their own health and dietary restrictions. Eat beforehand or bring in a small bag of nuts in your purse. It's not that hard.

Or a small snack of what you can eat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious about how people organize weddings when the bride/groom and a number of family members and guests can’t have carbs, wine, soft drinks, salt, and nuts due to diabetes, severe allergies, heart problems.

weddings or receptions?

Both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Adults need to manage their own health and dietary restrictions. Eat beforehand or bring in a small bag of nuts in your purse. It's not that hard.

It’s hard for many people, especially young children, teens, and elderly.

[Anonymous]

The responsibility rests on the guests to make informed, healthy choices among what's been offered. And not demand special consideration.

Traditionally, one vegetarian dish, at a minimum, is offered as a choice. That's being a good host. But there is no way to cater to all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would ensure the people with restrictions could have a full and hearty meal and also serve more general food options for the people who do not have restrictions. I would not force the entire menu to be restricted unless it was for personal ethics or religious reasons.

Personally, I have celiac as well as a dairy allergy (casein, not lactose). It's a tight diet, for sure, and I never ask a host to bend over backward for me. However, I have walked away from more than one event starving because I couldn't get a proper meal. The last wedding I attended, the only thing I could eat was white rice.

Another celiac with casein allergy here. I usually eat in advance before I go to the reception. Like the PP I eat what I can at the reception.
In a wedding situation I would not ask the host to bend over backward for me.