Experience when divorcing school employee

[Anonymous]

What is it like at these private schools for families when a parent divorces a school employee? Trying to prepare for the likely

I’ve recently heard wild stories and can see how mine could turn into one. Stories about school actively helping the employee/alum/donor, the other parent in the stories being ostracized by the powers that be in the school community. My sister knows a parent whose children, who were good students, were not offered contracts after the school helped the employee-parent in litigation. The parallels make that one alarming. Covertly high-conflict, wealthy, employed before kids were born, little alternative for equivalent schooling near us/at these grades

[Anonymous]

Is the school employee the kids’ parent too?

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

I am sorry you are in this situation. Your ex is such a terrible person that he would advocate for the school to expel his own kids? That isn’t covert high conflict that is openly high conflict.

If you suspect he would do that I would think you would want the kids out of there and spending as little time with him as possible. I can’t imagine wanting my kids to stay because of school quality.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure I understand. Why would the employee parent want their children removed from the school?

[Anonymous]

Changed schools.

[Anonymous]

Troll thread.

[Anonymous]

I have seen many a divorces in private schools and a few with one parent working for the school. I have never heard of the school getting involved in the way you described. Generally it plays out like any divorce with kids involved. Parents split time with kids and just don't engage with each other. Never heard of a school expelling kids to punish the other parent... it would go against their own interests unless that parent was so disruptive to the school on their own and the school no longer wanted to deal with that level of disruption. So maybe your scenario could happen if the other parent showed up unexpectedly and caused scenes on a regular basis, but I think they would press trespassing charges long before removing the students.

I do find it is mild common for someone getting divorced tend to lack self awareness and create extreme stories in their heads...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is it like at these private schools for families when a parent divorces a school employee? Trying to prepare for the likely

I’ve recently heard wild stories and can see how mine could turn into one. Stories about school actively helping the employee/alum/donor, the other parent in the stories being ostracized by the powers that be in the school community. My sister knows a parent whose children, who were good students, were not offered contracts after the school helped the employee-parent in litigation. The parallels make that one alarming. Covertly high-conflict, wealthy, employed before kids were born, little alternative for equivalent schooling near us/at these grades

Sooooooo you need help with writing your novel?...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is it like at these private schools for families when a parent divorces a school employee? Trying to prepare for the likely

I’ve recently heard wild stories and can see how mine could turn into one. Stories about school actively helping the employee/alum/donor, the other parent in the stories being ostracized by the powers that be in the school community. My sister knows a parent whose children, who were good students, were not offered contracts after the school helped the employee-parent in litigation. The parallels make that one alarming. Covertly high-conflict, wealthy, employed before kids were born, little alternative for equivalent schooling near us/at these grades

Sooooooo you need help with writing your novel?...

Ha! This! But in the event that OP is actually in this situation themselves - how divorces go are fully under the control of the two splitting parties. If you and your spouse put your kids first and act like grown ups in all matters relating to your kids, the fact that they work for the school won't matter.

[Anonymous]

Why would you want internet horror stories right now? You know your ex best - you can guess what he will do better than we can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am sorry you are in this situation. Your ex is such a terrible person that he would advocate for the school to expel his own kids? That isn’t covert high conflict that is openly high conflict.

If you suspect he would do that I would think you would want the kids out of there and spending as little time with him as possible. I can’t imagine wanting my kids to stay because of school quality.

Why do you assume the OP to be the wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is it like at these private schools for families when a parent divorces a school employee? Trying to prepare for the likely

I’ve recently heard wild stories and can see how mine could turn into one. Stories about school actively helping the employee/alum/donor, the other parent in the stories being ostracized by the powers that be in the school community. My sister knows a parent whose children, who were good students, were not offered contracts after the school helped the employee-parent in litigation. The parallels make that one alarming. Covertly high-conflict, wealthy, employed before kids were born, little alternative for equivalent schooling near us/at these grades

I doubt it, boo - this is in your head. The kids will be fine wherever they end up.

[Anonymous]

This just seems like crazy talk, tbh, like you're inventing drama to avoid doing what you ought to do.

[Anonymous]

Switch schools or don’t divorce. You have pretty much those options. Nothing to talk about.