Co-Worker applying for jobs
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Anonymous
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My co-worker hates her job and casually asked me if she can put me as reference for jobs she's applying elsewhere. We have work in the same team for about two years now and we get alone pretty well, however, if she leaves with short notice, her duties will fall into me and it will take months to train a new person. I know she's looking out for herself and I'd rather stay out of it, however, I will be directly affected by her sudden departure. Since I know of her plans, should I say something to our supervisor, who I am close with? I feel awful knowing she's planning on leaving and I'm stressing I will have to take over her duties as well. |
Anonymous
| So you're asking us if you should be a vindictive bitc8 and get your coworker fired before she found abother job? May you encounter the same karma when you decide to leave your job. |
Anonymous
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You don't want her to leave, but you want to tell her supervisor she's looking? How would that help you?
If you were smart, you'd say "I'll be a reference if you put together some job aids for the person who will replace you because it's going to be really hard when you leave." |
Anonymous
| Yeah, like PP said, ask her to do a full document of her job how tos and also a job description. |
Anonymous
| The winning move is for you to ask her to agree to do the same and may the best woman win! |
Anonymous
| Yuck, is that how you would want to be treated? |
Anonymous
Oh the "Karma" is already coming my way as I will be stuck doing her job. Ideally, she would give enough notice to train someone or as other suggested write down and document all her duties/task, which she hasn't and I don't think she plans to do it either. My concern is knowing about it and not saying anything... |
Anonymous
Let me guess, you "hate drama." |
Anonymous
Well if you sabotage her new job then she certainly won’t help you transition! This is between you and your boss, not you and her. Expecting someone to stay on to train their replacement is not realistic. 2 weeks is the norm. |
Anonymous
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She’s likely to leave with two weeks notice. Tell her what you’ve told us, that you can be her reference but her workload will fall on you and so will training her replacement, so can she put together the job aids or whatever. Then ask her to give them to you so you can see if you have any questions about them before she is gone to her new job.
Then she’ll know that you won’t give her a good reference if she doesn’t pony up the materials. Beyond that, don’t tell your boss. She’ll either get fired, which screws you, or you’ll be working with someone who knows you ratted them out, and that’s also bad for you. |
Anonymous
| Good God, don't tell anyone! |
Anonymous
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I don't say this often, or lightly, but you're a shitty person.
She's got a crap job, she's trying to get out of it, she's asking you to be a reference and your response is to consider TELLING ON HER because if she leaves, you'll have more work?? The correct response is "Of course! Best of luck on your search! If someone calls me, is there anything in particular you'd like me to emphasize?" If your company is so poorly run that you're preemptively stressing out about the amount of work you'll have to do if someone else leaves, then you should either be working to fix that because you're understaffed, setting more limits at work, or looking for a new job yourself. People leave jobs, everyone adjusts, a new hire comes in, everyone adjusts. You'll live. It's not that big a deal. Be grateful you've got an extra heads up, and if you DO get called for a reference, give a great one and then go to her and say "I gave you a really good reference, I hope you get the job! I'm going to miss you around here. I will say, I'm starting to get stressed about the extra work - will you do me a favor and start working on your documentation? That would really help me out." I'm sure she'll give two weeks notice, which is prime time for documentation, and if you help her out and ask her, she'll probably pay even more attention to it. You might want to do a little introspection as to why you're so self-centered that you're considering blowing up someone's career and/or livelihood to prevent a couple months of being busy at the office. |
Anonymous
Now I really wish she would leave you high and dry. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
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I had to ask my current coworker/supervisor to be a reference. She was annoyed to be losing me but I promised that I would try to negotiate as late a starting date as possible so as to have ample time to wrap up. I got 3 weeks and worked that whole time and left detailed instructions about my job.
Maybe you could ask for the same? |