Tell me not to have another baby (please!)
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Overcome lately with baby fever: a few friends have little ones (under six months) and my best friend is having her 4th any day.
I’m 40 and my youngest is turning 3 and starting to really lose his baby-ness. While I love this age I am starting to yearn for a little baby and their chubby legs and sweet smell. (I really love babies!) Consciously/logically, I do not want another baby: pregnancy is hard on me, I’m finally at a passable weight again, I’m happy at my job and don’t want the upheaval, and financially it would be unwise. But, being 40, I’m more aware of my window closing, and DH would be thrilled if we had another, even though he’s okay not doing it. Basically, if we were to do it, now would be the time - DH is 44 and wouldn’t want a baby any later than 45 - so it’s baby fever with some urgency. How did you decide, if you were on the fence. Or talk yourself out of it? Please talk me off this ledge! |
Anonymous
| Hiw many do you have and what ages? |
Anonymous
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Just make up the picture books and when you miss your babies, do a short nostalgia stroll.
The babies are still there. They just talk better now. |
Anonymous
| Do you have the money? Kids are expensive. Could you stay home if your third had special needs? |
Anonymous
| I had my 4th at 40. It’s really hard. I love them all so much but it’s very very hard. I wouldn’t recommend it. Go snuggle your friends babies and be glad to sleep through the night. |
Anonymous
| Don't do it. |
Anonymous
💩 |
Anonymous
| Baby is not entertainment. Don't. |
Anonymous
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Sounds like you have other kids/more than one? That’s pretty fortunate. Within a few years your younger one will be in school and life will be more manageable.
Not sleeping with a new baby at 41/42 is dreadful. Had my only the it aged me hardcore. Recovery was slow. |
Anonymous
| Enjoy your friend’s babies and be happy with your life. You are really too old to have a baby despite it being the the thing to do now. Enjoy your life! |
Anonymous
| Babies become teenagers. |
Anonymous
| You way too old boo |
Anonymous
| 40 is too old to have another. |
Anonymous
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You’re NOT too old. It’s time to move on though. If you’re having any reservations listen to them. Re-establishing yourself at work gets harder each time. If you are content there dot push it.
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Anonymous
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OP, you need to accept that The-Baby-Stage ends. Just because you like that phase, doesn't mean you should have another.
If might even be that you don't want to be all-in on the phases that comes after. You need to be. Think about that. Your other kids need you. You owe your other kids your best self. Even if you find it harder. Even if you don't relate to it as well. We all have our favorite phases. And maybe feel most confident during that phase. Some of us prefer the baby phase, or young child phase, or teen/young adult. But your other children need you now, all-in |