Just turned 8 and still has "accidents"

[Anonymous]

I have browsed for other posts on topics similar to this. My daughter turned 8 in Dec and still has "accidents" sometimes. When I say accidents, its her waiting till the last second to go to the bathroom and dribbling then running to the bathroom. Not full blown accidents but just enough to make her pants damp.

I have set alarms to go off every 30 minutes to an hour. I prompt her to try which typically I get "I don't have to" but I make her try anyways. Time outs. Taking away electronics. Rewarding her for staying dry all day. Numerous dr. visits and all have resulted with her having a clean bill of health. No UTI's or anything. You name it I tried it.

She never has this problem at school that I am aware of. She has lots of friends and isn't being bullied. She loves school. We have been out of school for 2 weeks because of the snow and ice and she cant wait to go back (I cant either!!!) haha.

I just don't know what else to do. She does have the occasional night time accident but that only happens like 1-2 times every 2 weeks or so. Has anyone dealt with this from the older child? I feel at 8 she should be way past this by now.

[Anonymous]

Look for sleep apnea, tonsils, avoids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look for sleep apnea, tonsils, avoids.

This is happening during the day. It only happens at night 1-2 times every 2 weeks or so.

[Anonymous]

Is she thin build? Do you think she could still wear the potty training underwear? That will keep her pants dry but she will still feel it if she has an accident

[Anonymous]

I think this is pretty normal. She just needs more reminders to go.

On the night time ones, completely normal too.

[Anonymous]

This sounds pretty normal if she’s just running to the bathroom and leaking. One of my kids was a bedwetter for years beyond that age so that’s pretty normal as well.
They make kids period underwear from size 8-16 and that might help if these are not full blown accidents so she wouldn’t get her pants wet and could just change the underwear.

https://a.co/d/06fyiN3K

[Anonymous]

ADHD

[Anonymous]

This can be a sign of constipation, and a child can be constipated even if they’re pooping a little bit every day.

[Anonymous]

My kid did this too. No medical cause we could find. It stopped when she wanted it to stop, which was around 8.5.

I set a rule that if she had an accident, she had to shower immediately. Not as a punishment but as a consequence because no one wants to smell like pee. That annoyed her enough to incentivize stopping. Took about 6 months though. Also, I suspect she just matured socially enough to realize that if she did this at school - and she used to - she'd be very embarrassed. That is probably what finally did it, but I didn't ask and she didn't say.

[Anonymous]

Any chance she’s autistic, OP. This is my daughter to the T. You are describing classic autism behaviors. Google autism urination

[Anonymous]

You don’t need more reminders you need fewer. And those reminders can’t be “do you need to go?” They need to be let’s take a break and go now. Who needs to pee every 30 minutes? You’re not teaching her to listen to her body but rather the clock. Then you say things like “I’m not playing with you until you go. Just sit on the toilet for 30 seconds with the water running.” If she says I don’t have to, but it’s been 2 hours since she last did “ok I’ll wait. Prove that you don’t have to”. If you make her go every 30 minutes she’ll hate the toilet. Also it’s not a potty anymore, it’s a bathroom.

[Anonymous]

My ADHD kid is like this. Could she be neurodivergent? The ironic thing for my kid is she literally potty trained herself at age 2- night and day. Then when she was 9 or 10 she started waiting waaaaaay too long to pee and end up getting her underwear wet. I don't worry about it- honestly, just try to help her remember to take care of herself

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she thin build? Do you think she could still wear the potty training underwear? That will keep her pants dry but she will still feel it if she has an accident

Thanks for the tip. Yes she is tall but very slim. Are you referring to the cloth training pants? That might be an option as I just dont know what else to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think this is pretty normal. She just needs more reminders to go.

On the night time ones, completely normal too.

Her dr did tell me that it is quite common up until 10 years old to still wet the bed. I might have to remind her every 30 minutes to go. I shouldnt have to at her age though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds pretty normal if she’s just running to the bathroom and leaking. One of my kids was a bedwetter for years beyond that age so that’s pretty normal as well.
They make kids period underwear from size 8-16 and that might help if these are not full blown accidents so she wouldn’t get her pants wet and could just change the underwear.

https://a.co/d/06fyiN3K

Thanks for the suggestion. Definitely something I will look into.

How old was he/she until they stopped wetting the bed. Thankfully its not an every night issue here.