Told we are waitlisted for our top choice school

[Anonymous]

We are pretty devastated that we have found out we will be waitlisted for our top choice school. Our second choice is still very interested.

I also heard through the grapevine that our PSD was pushing for another child to get in to our top choice because that child got “no” from their top choices, and our child got interest from our second and third choice.

I don’t want to say if we have a boy or girl of what school in fear it will give us away.

All our schools are TT single sex.

Unsure what to do now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are pretty devastated that we have found out we will be waitlisted for our top choice school. Our second choice is still very interested.

I also heard through the grapevine that our PSD was pushing for another child to get in to our top choice because that child got “no” from their top choices, and our child got interest from our second and third choice.

I don’t want to say if we have a boy or girl of what school in fear it will give us away.

All our schools are TT single sex.

Unsure what to do now.

Did your PSD tell you you would be waitlisted? How do you know already? I would imagine he / she should be scrambling right now to get you a Yes at your #2 or #3?

[Anonymous]

Waitlists move at many schools (especially the girls schools, which is my assumption as there aren’t multiple TT boy schools). Prepare now to work it- write an email now to respond to the waitlist right away. If you know anyone connected to the school, reach out now and see if they’d be willing to talk to the school on your behalf after notifications go out. It likely won’t move until next week and it is miserable to add days to this already long process, so I’m sorry you’re in this position. It isn’t fun but use this time to come up with an actionable plan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are pretty devastated that we have found out we will be waitlisted for our top choice school. Our second choice is still very interested.

I also heard through the grapevine that our PSD was pushing for another child to get in to our top choice because that child got “no” from their top choices, and our child got interest from our second and third choice.

I don’t want to say if we have a boy or girl of what school in fear it will give us away.

All our schools are TT single sex.

Unsure what to do now.

Did your PSD tell you you would be waitlisted? How do you know already? I would imagine he / she should be scrambling right now to get you a Yes at your #2 or #3?

My guess is they’re applying from a connected preschool. You have feedback and know where you stand by this point.

[Anonymous]

I assume you have a daughter since there are not multiple TT boys schools. B/S/C are all roughly equivalent to be honest. Don't be devastated. Realistically, your daughter will be fine at any of the three, and I am sure your PSD is working hard to ensure that you will get into one of them.

That being said, I know of people who have gotten into all three of the TT girls schools off the waitlist, so if you are waitlisted at your top choice, definitely send an email saying you will immediately accept a spot if you are offered one.

[Anonymous]

You need a reality check and God if you are “devastated” over this.

[Anonymous]

Don’t trust or worry about the grapevine. Be productive and constructive!

Top 3 choice still sounds like a win! Dream bigger! Your child is 4/5 - you are trying to do the best you can right now, but also things can change if necessary in the future too! I agree with prior comments that some of these schools are more similar than different. They also can change over the next 10+ years, it’s a dream to lock in until graduation but not a given! See angry posts about schools in other threads

Talk to your PSD now!

Draft a plan for Thursday! Emails, any school connections- good luck!

[Anonymous]

This is ridiculous. These feeder schools should be ashamed playing all these brokering games with people. I am sorry to hear this, OP. You sent a first choice letter and everything? They can’t take more kids from your school?

[Anonymous]

Only two schools have notified so far so you are giving away the school a bit. If you get into your 2nd choice, that’s a big win. The PSDs can only push so much so the school was probably more enthusiastic about the other child. The waitlists might move but not much. Focus on your 2nd choice. I know lots of families who are extremely happy at what was originally their second choice. Maybe even send them a first choice letter to up the chances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need a reality check and God if you are “devastated” over this.

OP here:

WOW! aren't you a ray of sunshine.

"devasted" I agree is a strong word, but yes I am upset. From the start we had only gotten great feedback and even wink winks, so yes I am pretty damn mad/sad. I am not investing in a school I do not think my daughter fits in to or that we are excited about as a family. That is too much money to give away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only two schools have notified so far so you are giving away the school a bit. If you get into your 2nd choice, that’s a big win. The PSDs can only push so much so the school was probably more enthusiastic about the other child. The waitlists might move but not much. Focus on your 2nd choice. I know lots of families who are extremely happy at what was originally their second choice. Maybe even send them a first choice letter to up the chances.

It is an all girls school correct. One is not giving away any info yet, but my child is one of two girls that they are interested in. Our top choice did say to our PSD that my child will be wait listed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is ridiculous. These feeder schools should be ashamed playing all these brokering games with people. I am sorry to hear this, OP. You sent a first choice letter and everything? They can’t take more kids from your school?

Yes, it is all a game at this point. Not too much about who is "smarter" "better" etc. It is just a game.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Waitlists move at many schools (especially the girls schools, which is my assumption as there aren’t multiple TT boy schools). Prepare now to work it- write an email now to respond to the waitlist right away. If you know anyone connected to the school, reach out now and see if they’d be willing to talk to the school on your behalf after notifications go out. It likely won’t move until next week and it is miserable to add days to this already long process, so I’m sorry you’re in this position. It isn’t fun but use this time to come up with an actionable plan.

OP here:

We did already tap in to two families who are connected at that schools and they had already put in a good word for us in person and through email to admissions. But we can ask them again. We will wait to send a letter come Thursday when we get the official waitlist notification. We were told that it won't move until around Tuesday of next week.

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Had this same experience last year at a SS girls school after what we thought was super positive feedback. WL ended up not moving. It was frustrating to have had our hopes up for what seemed like no good reason, especially as we had initially thought the school was a long shot. Hang in there! It will work out for the best

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Had this same experience last year at a SS girls school after what we thought was super positive feedback. WL ended up not moving. It was frustrating to have had our hopes up for what seemed like no good reason, especially as we had initially thought the school was a long shot. Hang in there! It will work out for the best

Curious what school? Now I am even more nervous.

If we get waitlisted to our second choice I think our child will need to go to our zoned public school. Which also means she would have to skip to 1st grade. Oh what fun.