Appropriate Consequences for Forging Note?
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Anonymous
| DC is a senior. What do you feel are the appropriate consequences for forging an attendance note and leaving school early? I'm very tempted to tell the school, along with taking away the car. Thanks for your input. |
Anonymous
| I’d probably take the car but I’d need more context. Is this a first time? What did they miss at school? My kids never forged a note (that I’m aware of) but I remember one day DD left early without permission to avoid a pep rally. She thought she’d go shopping. The consequence was she didn’t get to go. |
Anonymous
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I would definitely take the car but I'm a tentative "don't tell the school" until I get more context.
I don't have teens yet but my high school had an honor code and we definitely would've gotten in trouble for this. Which, fine, she should get in trouble for this, but I would be concerned about interference with getting into college at this point in senior year. |
Anonymous
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Thank you!
More context: DC skipped last period on Friday to finish packing for a ski trip. This was the first time, as far as I know. Ongoing struggles with defiance and lying. |
Anonymous
| Is he 18? If so he can likely write his own notes and that would make a difference as to how I’d handle it. |
Anonymous
No more ski trips or other activities. Those are reserved for kids who follow rules. |
Anonymous
There would be major consequences at home, including losing the car, the phone because of the ongoing lie. I would be on the fence about telling the school. Would they do? What discipline does the school impose for forging school notes? |
Anonymous
Wow. Ongoing struggles with defiance and lying…and you let him go on a ski trip?! |
Anonymous
Ah, okay. I was tentative about telling school and think I'm a "no" given that she was packing for a ski trip. I assume it's too late to take away the ski trip - I would take away car and phone and there would be some other loss of activity. |
Anonymous
| DO NOT tell the school. |
Anonymous
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Dishonestly is never ok. But I laugh a little at this. Are they 18? At 18 in MoCo, this was many decades ago, we were allowed to submit our own attendance notes. We were 18 and legally allowed as adults. Another reason I laughed a little is my parents traveled a lot and starting at about 16, if I needed a note signed and they weren't around, I was to go into their desk and use the stamp and stamp pad of their signature.
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Anonymous
I am the pp. I would be more concerned about this ski trip. A good amount of "fun" happens. |
Anonymous
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Thanks, everyone. Not 18 yet and DC has one parent who is way more permissive. I would have allowed this trip.
Car is definitely gone and DC is grounded. Thinking about the phone. |
Anonymous
| I would NOT have allowed… |
Anonymous
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A senior - I would do nothing related to punishment / consequences.
But I would tell them they are never to sign my name again. That is my only issue. I don't care if my senior skips a period once in a blue moon. |