Miserable people here

[Anonymous]

Why don’t people want to be helpful when they comment?
Why do they seem to try to pick you apart and judge you?

When I comment, I try to be helpful. If I can’t think of a helpful answer, it’s not my job to comment..why would I even want to?? I scroll on

[Anonymous]

A lot of people here seem to need a reality check.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of people here seem to need a reality check.

This…yes every post could potentially attract the odd troll or purely mean spirited person, but in most cases if you post a reasonable request for advice/support I feel like you’ll typically get a mostly helpful set of responses.

It’s the people who post with topics like being worried about being able to comfortably retire with over 5 million dollars or complaining that their adult child only visits them 4-5 weeks out of the year, or other issues that are similarly wildly out of touch or show the op to be unreasonable who rightly attract significant snark.

[Anonymous]

Because happy people have real friends, not an anonymous chat forum.

[Anonymous]

It's the wine theyrecdrinking

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because happy people have real friends, not an anonymous chat forum.

I notice people post things here they don’t want to ask their real friends.

If they wanted to ask for everyone to see.. they wouldn’t be here

[Anonymous]

I actually find it puzzling that people post on an anonymous forum and think everyone will be supportive. If you want to hear the answers you want to hear, ask your friends in real life.

I think there is a subset of comments that genuinely get mean and are inappropriate but a lot of times people are very directly and kindly telling the truth. I think women are not used to this in real life since we can lack directness face to face.

[Anonymous]

I think a lot of people are frustrated right now, and feel powerless to change their situation. This often leads to people acting out in anger. It’s not right, and doesn’t help.
Be kind, we all need that right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because happy people have real friends, not an anonymous chat forum.

You here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually find it puzzling that people post on an anonymous forum and think everyone will be supportive. If you want to hear the answers you want to hear, ask your friends in real life.

I think there is a subset of comments that genuinely get mean and are inappropriate but a lot of times people are very directly and kindly telling the truth. I think women are not used to this in real life since we can lack directness face to face.

I agree there's a difference between kindly saying something hard someone might not want to hear or even saying something uncomfortable that's based on a misinterpretation or an incomplete OP versus being rude or insulting.

I read OP's question as being about people who are rude or insulting. There are plenty of those here. It's never necessary to say "why would anyone ever want to do/go to stupid X?" Just move past or suggest another activity with insulting anyone. It's never necessary to say "I can't believe you only have/don't have XYZ trait/preference/item/money.' Again move on or frame your advice to gain the the thing kindly and explain how it's helped you.

My theory is miserable people don't believe in everyone's inherent value. So they don't extend any value to themselves except by comparing themselves into superiority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually find it puzzling that people post on an anonymous forum and think everyone will be supportive. If you want to hear the answers you want to hear, ask your friends in real life.

I think there is a subset of comments that genuinely get mean and are inappropriate but a lot of times people are very directly and kindly telling the truth. I think women are not used to this in real life since we can lack directness face to face.

I agree there's a difference between kindly saying something hard someone might not want to hear or even saying something uncomfortable that's based on a misinterpretation or an incomplete OP versus being rude or insulting.

I read OP's question as being about people who are rude or insulting. There are plenty of those here. It's never necessary to say "why would anyone ever want to do/go to stupid X?" Just move past or suggest another activity with insulting anyone. It's never necessary to say "I can't believe you only have/don't have XYZ trait/preference/item/money.' Again move on or frame your advice to gain the the thing kindly and explain how it's helped you.

My theory is miserable people don't believe in everyone's inherent value. So they don't extend any value to themselves except by comparing themselves into superiority.

"WithOUT insulting anyone"

[Anonymous]

It’s fun

[Anonymous]

I think many people here truly believe they are better than everyone else. So they post from a judgmental and holier than thou attitude. It makes them feel superior when they put down people who are asking for opinions.

I also think there are a lot of people here who have grown up quite spoiled and cannot handle any adversity or change. Then posters are so aghast at some of the questions, their rudeness comes out.

[Anonymous]

People can tell the truth without filters here. Some people like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually find it puzzling that people post on an anonymous forum and think everyone will be supportive. If you want to hear the answers you want to hear, ask your friends in real life.

I think there is a subset of comments that genuinely get mean and are inappropriate but a lot of times people are very directly and kindly telling the truth. I think women are not used to this in real life since we can lack directness face to face.

NP. There is some truth to this, but I don't think OP is talking about the comments that are direct and kind, but just disagreeing or seeing things another way. A lot of posters on here think they are "telling the truth" but are doing it in such a spiteful, mean way. Often you can tell that what is actually happening is that they are offended or defensive about some aspect of what is being asked or discussed, and lashing out to protect their egos.

You see this often in the parenting threads, and in relationships. Many posters are quick to jump all over the OP and it is not done in a direct and kind way. It's done with meanness.