Why is it ok to comment on someone's weight loss, but not their weight gain?

[Anonymous]

In my opinion, I don't think it's ok to comment on either, or to comment on people's bodies in general.

But it's astounding how many people will comment on someone's weight loss, but not weight gain. Why is one more "acceptable" (to some) over the other?

[Anonymous]

Neither is appropriate but the people who comment on weight loss do it because they thing one (weight loss) is a compliment and the other (weight gain) is an insult.

I've been overweight most of my life and you would be absolutely SHOCKED to know how many people open almost every conversation with their fat friend with "have you lost weight? You look great!" because it's the easiest 'compliment' they can pull out of their hat. Even if that friend has not lost any weight, or even if they've gained weight.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you should test it out. The next time someone you know shows up looking like they gained weight, start calling them Shamu (the whale) and let us know how it goes. If it goes over like a skunk at a garden party, you might want to refrain from making future comments.

[Anonymous]

Most people I know don't comment on either

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you should test it out. The next time someone you know shows up looking like they gained weight, start calling them Shamu (the whale) and let us know how it goes. If it goes over like a skunk at a garden party, you might want to refrain from making future comments.

The polite term is ABSOLUTE UNIT

[Anonymous]

Is this something you’d like to comment on? Why?

Why would you want to comment on other people’s bodies?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you should test it out. The next time someone you know shows up looking like they gained weight, start calling them Shamu (the whale) and let us know how it goes. If it goes over like a skunk at a garden party, you might want to refrain from making future comments.

OP here. I might test it out on the people who keep commenting that I lost weight (no, not on a GLP1) - almost all of the people commenting on my body have gained weight.

[Anonymous]

Because people look better when they're less overweight.

That's the truth.

It's rarely the case that someone is going to lose too much weight. If they did, they wouldn't be complimented either. Too thin is also a bad look, but let's be honest, it doesn't happen very often.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately I’ve also have people comment when I’ve gained weight.

[Anonymous]

Because people work at losing weight and it's really hard. So it's acknowledging all that effort.

[Anonymous]

I'm waiting for someone to compliment me and then I get to tell them it's the cancer. Don't comment on other people's bodies.

[Anonymous]

It’s not ok to comment on other people’s bodies period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you should test it out. The next time someone you know shows up looking like they gained weight, start calling them Shamu (the whale) and let us know how it goes. If it goes over like a skunk at a garden party, you might want to refrain from making future comments.

OP here. I might test it out on the people who keep commenting that I lost weight (no, not on a GLP1) - almost all of the people commenting on my body have gained weight.

Don't you think they are trying to be nice though? I get where you are coming from because I really really really hate when people comment I lost weight, but I wouldn’t want to comment on their body in return.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not ok to comment on other people’s bodies period.

And yet they will keep doing it, because it's human nature to want to compliment and say nice things.

[Anonymous]

I lost 15lbs last year and was really sad no one mentioned it. Objectively I look much better.

I don’t think people comment either way because special snowflakes complained. I’d never say something to someone who gained weight as who wants to gain weight??