Why is it ok to comment on someone's weight loss, but not their weight gain?

[Anonymous]

OP did you start a thread just to see how quickly it gets locked?

[Anonymous]

I feel the exact smae when someone comments on my body - be it because I lost weight or gained weight. None of your business. I have had to tell two family members to stop making comments when I lost weight. I told them I am sorry you thought I was a hideously ugly cow until a few months ago. It must have been awful to have to look at me. That is exactly what people are thinking when they comment on you losing weight.

Personally I am the same person at any weight. I don't really have any respect for people who feel your value as a human depends on what the number is on the scale.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you should test it out. The next time someone you know shows up looking like they gained weight, start calling them Shamu (the whale) and let us know how it goes. If it goes over like a skunk at a garden party, you might want to refrain from making future comments.

OP here. I might test it out on the people who keep commenting that I lost weight (no, not on a GLP1) - almost all of the people commenting on my body have gained weight.

Don't you think they are trying to be nice though? I get where you are coming from because I really really really hate when people comment I lost weight, but I wouldn’t want to comment on their body in return.

No, they're asking if I'm ok. fyi, I went from a 24 bmi to 21. I've also been obese in my 20s and 30s. Why is it ok to ask someone "are you ok?" if they lost weight, but not as "are you ok?" when people gain weight?

[Anonymous]

I've lost a lot of weight and nobody has mentioned it to me except my mom. I guess the people around me must know that you're not supposed to talk about anyone's weight ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Neither is appropriate but the people who comment on weight loss do it because they thing one (weight loss) is a compliment and the other (weight gain) is an insult.

I've been overweight most of my life and you would be absolutely SHOCKED to know how many people open almost every conversation with their fat friend with "have you lost weight? You look great!" because it's the easiest 'compliment' they can pull out of their hat. Even if that friend has not lost any weight, or even if they've gained weight.

This is so true. It's so insulting. There is more to me than my body.

[Anonymous]

No one comments when I gain or lose weight. Maybe I should get a facial tattoo like Mike Tyson and see if anyone comments.

[Anonymous]

I’m on a GLP1 and have lost 50 pounds. Most people just say “you look great” without mentioning weight. I was on a long course of steroids last year so I truly looked bad before.

[Anonymous]

I totally understand and have been subject to this myself. If you are already a heathy weight and lose weight, people will comment. Especially women. They just do. Say you go from a size 8 to a size 4. It is a
maybe a 10-15 lb loss but you will get a lot of “you’re so skinny!” type comments. Which I just find rude. It’s not even phrased as a compliment.

On the flip, I have had overweight acquaintances tell they they’ve lost 50+ lbs, and I honestly wouldn’t have been able to tell.

I don’t know why people feel the need to comment on weight loss. Obv you cannot tell someone they are looking fat lately. I avoid mentioning anyone’s weight, body, or any changes to theirs at all.

[Anonymous]

Is this generational? I'm older and I remember people getting mad if you didn't notice their weight loss. I've been guilty of complimenting people for looking smaller.

[Anonymous]

My parents have zero trouble commenting on my weight gain

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP did you start a thread just to see how quickly it gets locked?

It’s pretty obvious that OP is autistic, but doesn’t know because people politely comment on their weight loss rather than the obvious autism.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this generational? I'm older and I remember people getting mad if you didn't notice their weight loss. I've been guilty of complimenting people for looking smaller.

Yes. Younger people have been taught not to comment on people’s bodies. The boomers, on the other hand. Woo boy. They are something.

[Anonymous]

I mean people work very hard to lose weight. I want it recognized

[Anonymous]

Don’t make unsolicited comments on other people’s bodies. If someone has a breakout of zits, don’t mention it. If the acne on face improves, don’t mention it. Same with weight or hair loss or anything you can judge someone about. Shut up because you don’t know what someone is dealing with.

[Anonymous]

Idk everyone I know says it's not appropriate to mention weight loss.