Is the idea of “never chase a man” true for ugly-to-average women?

[Anonymous]

Obviously the beautiful, well proportioned, young women don’t have to do anything to attract and pursued by a rotating suite of suitors. But if you’re an ugly or average woman…you don’t get a string of suitors. Men don’t chase you except for random construction workers whistling at you.

I find I have to make a move to let a guy know I’m interested and even then I get rejected. What’s a good strategy for women like me?

[Anonymous]

Been there. Happily married. Wait for one who'll chase you.

[Anonymous]

It's especially true. Put yourself in situations where you can meet people and talk to people, but if you chase the guy, you don't know if he's actually into you or just going along with something being offered. (I've been down that road.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Obviously the beautiful, well proportioned, young women don’t have to do anything to attract and pursued by a rotating suite of suitors. But if you’re an ugly or average woman…you don’t get a string of suitors. Men don’t chase you except for random construction workers whistling at you.

I find I have to make a move to let a guy know I’m interested and even then I get rejected. What’s a good strategy for women like me?

Yeah, you do. If you're an average woman who can present herself well and smile and make eye contact and say hello, you'll have no shortage of suitors. I've been plain-to-meh my whole life, and never wanted for male attention. You don't have to "make a move"; just show a bit of interest and be something less than horrid to be around. I don't even wear makeup, I dress to depress, and I still get attention I'd rather not have. If I actually wanted attention, I could have more.

A good strategy is to lose this victim attitude, get some confidence, and start trying to connect with people. It's not nearly as hard as you're making it seem. Many men are desperate for attention and happy to reciprocate the slightest acknowledgement.

[Anonymous]

Be open to (very) ugly, short men who are hard-working, smart and loving.

[Anonymous]

Let your friends make introductions for you

[Anonymous]

If you want a good one, grab him.

[Anonymous]

If a woman wants to date, she needs to make the first move.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Never chase a man.

[Anonymous]

It’s especially brutal on the apps!

[Anonymous]

We must be different levels of ugly because construction workers don’t notice me.

[Anonymous]

Inside beauty shines through. Don’t forget that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Inside beauty shines through. Don’t forget that!

Oh that is such bullshit. Men are visual. They aren’t looking for a great personality. They want someone hot.

[Anonymous]

You’re being stupid.

The only thing that changes if you’re a chubby average looking woman is that you should look to partner with chubby average looking guys. Standards for how they treat you should stay the same.

If you chase the super attractive men, they’ll sleep with you, sure, but they’re not going to date you.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t want to be with a guy who didn’t feel like I was worth asking out.