Is the idea of “never chase a man” true for ugly-to-average women?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a woman wants to date, she needs to make the first move.

No. Never.

Yes, she has to be pleasant and friendly, but she does not have to chase a man or lack standards in what she will tolerate from a man. She cannot be a victim. She needs to have self-respect and stand on her own two feet. She needs to NOT tolerate bullying, indifference, disrespect disparaging and misogynistic behavior. She needs to be respected by the man and she in turn needs to respect the man.

In short - be a nice and pleasant human being to others. Don't string people along. Understand that you are dating to get married and you have to suss out that your goals, values and morals match the other person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Obviously the beautiful, well proportioned, young women don’t have to do anything to attract and pursued by a rotating suite of suitors. But if you’re an ugly or average woman…you don’t get a string of suitors. Men don’t chase you except for random construction workers whistling at you.

I find I have to make a move to let a guy know I’m interested and even then I get rejected. What’s a good strategy for women like me?

First of all think more of yourself. You don't have to be beautiful to be loved.

[Anonymous]

Ugly people get together, fall in love, marry and procreate every day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Obviously the beautiful, well proportioned, young women don’t have to do anything to attract and pursued by a rotating suite of suitors. But if you’re an ugly or average woman…you don’t get a string of suitors. Men don’t chase you except for random construction workers whistling at you.

I find I have to make a move to let a guy know I’m interested and even then I get rejected. What’s a good strategy for women like me?

Don't punch above your weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a woman wants to date, she needs to make the first move.

No. Never.

Yes, she has to be pleasant and friendly, but she does not have to chase a man or lack standards in what she will tolerate from a man. She cannot be a victim. She needs to have self-respect and stand on her own two feet. She needs to NOT tolerate bullying, indifference, disrespect disparaging and misogynistic behavior. She needs to be respected by the man and she in turn needs to respect the man.

In short - be a nice and pleasant human being to others. Don't string people along. Understand that you are dating to get married and you have to suss out that your goals, values and morals match the other person.

Someone has been watching those bizarre "How to be an elegant lady and attract high-value men" videos on Youtube, lol.

[Anonymous]

I see ugly women with great looking men all the time. Start asking them how they met when you see a couple with an uglier women in it. I met DH at church. He’s better looking than me and I came on to him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Obviously the beautiful, well proportioned, young women don’t have to do anything to attract and pursued by a rotating suite of suitors. But if you’re an ugly or average woman…you don’t get a string of suitors. Men don’t chase you except for random construction workers whistling at you.

I find I have to make a move to let a guy know I’m interested and even then I get rejected. What’s a good strategy for women like me?

what is ugly or average women? It is subjective. I am 43F Latina who is 5'3" and 185 lbs and some of them love me.

[Anonymous]

chase a men, steal a mean, do whatever you need to for settling down. It is all good. You have to look out for yourself so get them however you could.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a woman wants to date, she needs to make the first move.

ESPECIALLY a beautiful woman.

You’ll get the predators without giving a signal but any decent guy will wait for a look or a smile before approaching.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s especially brutal on the apps!

On the app, you can tell what kind of men you’re looking for. When I answered that question, I listed multiple qualities that are important to me and said that I’m looking for a man “who takes initiative”. Such men recognized themselves in the description and did show up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a woman wants to date, she needs to make the first move.

ESPECIALLY a beautiful woman.

You’ll get the predators without giving a signal but any decent guy will wait for a look or a smile before approaching.

looks and smiles are not moves.

[Anonymous]

ALL men love a good chase - - so if you are a woman (no matter where you are in the looks department!) - - it is a wise + strategic move to not let yourself be “too available” if you want a guy to really fall hard for you. ❤️🩷❤️🩷