Is this tacky to give cleaner for Christmas?
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Anonymous
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Weigh in on a debate:
Some of my friend group were discussing how much money we were giving our cleaners as a holiday bonus, and one person noted that her husband "doesn't believe in giving them extra money", so she was giving her cleaner a soap making kit. The cleaner has never indicated that soap making is an itnerest of hers. This is tacky, right? I feel so bad thinking of this hard-working lady's disappointment when she realizes this is her "bonus." We were trying to reason with the soap-giver, and now she is angry an not speaking to us after telling us that we are "part of the problem" and "the reason these people expect more and more." |
Anonymous
| No, she’s nuts. |
Anonymous
No it's not tacky? |
Anonymous
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Holy crap, that’s insulting. It screams “regift,” even if it isn’t. A cleaning person deserves money as a gift. You don’t know them or their circumstances well enough to choose a personal gift for them. And they likely aren’t earning SO much that they couldn’t use more cash. Cash is the answer.
Soap-making kit is awful. Your weird friend doesn’t know if the woman has sensitive skin or allergies or a soap she already lives or zero interest in craft projects. And maybe she wants to get away from gifts related to cleaning ANYTHING! The more I think about it, the more I think your friend and her husband are cheap jerks who lack all empathy. Jeezus. |
Anonymous
| 6:09 again. I forgot to answer your question. It’s tacky, cheap, insulting, and completely tone-deaf. |
Anonymous
| 6:9 again! For some reason I am so riled up by this. Your friend is flouting the standard expectation that a holiday bonus is the cash amount of one cleaning session. |
Anonymous
| More than tacky. Insulting. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn’t use the word tacky. It’s very rude and disrespectful. |
Anonymous
| OMG no. That is awful. It’s like buying them a mop. We give money (like, a 13th month bonus) |
Anonymous
| We just doubled the fee on the last cleaning. |
Anonymous
| We give money. We actually give our bonus at Thanksgiving, so our cleaner can take advantage of Black Friday sales. |
Anonymous
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That is probably one of the most terrible gifts ever.
Give the soap making kit to your MIL or your grandkids. Give cash to the woman who cleans your disgusting house. |
Anonymous
+1 and gave a nice box of candy. What OP describes is extremely rude and disrespectful. |
Anonymous
| Well this post reminded me to send my cleaning lady her gift. This gift idea is horrible and insulting - like they don't see her as a whole person, just things related to cleaning. |
Anonymous
| I don’t care for the soap gift, but I also don’t understand why you have to tip every person that crosses the threshold of your house. House cleaner charges X amount and you agree to it. The end. |