FIL died

[Anonymous]

He left instructions to be cremated. Do you request blood work to be done if you suspect your the deceased person overdose on the medication before going to sleep at night?
FIL had been recently diagnosed with cancer, and had expressed to one of his sons he was willing to fight. But he requested another son to come to stay with him two days before.

[Anonymous]

What's the point? You want one son charged with murder?

[Anonymous]

Everyone who dies in MD will have an autopsy done unless a doctor signs an order saying they expected the death.

[Anonymous]

To what end? He had cancer and was going to die eventually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's the point? You want one son charged with murder?

That son had texted his brother that he didn’t deserve any money from the family. This fact raises questions because the brother he exchanged heated texts with had helped their father all year long.
My first thought when I learned the news was a self overdose of meds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To what end? He had cancer and was going to die eventually.

+1

What are you hoping to accomplish here? Any further investigation sounds like it would just create stress in the family.

[Anonymous]

Why?

My mother was dying of cancer and was at home bedridden under hospice care. We suspect she OD'd on her pain meds. The topic of confirming this with a blood test or in any other way never came up. Nobody cared abot that. We were sad she was gone, but relieved that she was not suffering anymore.

[Anonymous]

Who cares. I'd be celebrating if I was you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's the point? You want one son charged with murder?

That son had texted his brother that he didn’t deserve any money from the family. This fact raises questions because the brother he exchanged heated texts with had helped their father all year long.
My first thought when I learned the news was a self overdose of meds.

Just leave it alone, OP. If the family has concerns, let them deal with it. It's not your place to start making accusations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who cares. I'd be celebrating if I was you.

I’m not celebrating despite having been discriminated by FIL and other members of the family.
When my mother died none of my ILs sent me condolences, offered support, or showed a tiny wave of empathy.
It brakes my heart seeing DH’s crying.

[Anonymous]

Would knowing FIL chose to end his life rather than suffer longer help anyone? I doubt it. Let him RIP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who cares. I'd be celebrating if I was you.

I’m not celebrating despite having been discriminated by FIL and other members of the family.
When my mother died none of my ILs sent me condolences, offered support, or showed a tiny wave of empathy.
It brakes my heart seeing DH’s crying.

I’m sorry to hear your DH is sad, OP. But your FIL was sick and at that age, beating cancer was not likely, and it’s good he is not suffering or going through that miserable treatment.

[Anonymous]

Just stop this, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What's the point? You want one son charged with murder?

That son had texted his brother that he didn’t deserve any money from the family. This fact raises questions because the brother he exchanged heated texts with had helped their father all year long.
My first thought when I learned the news was a self overdose of meds.

This is too hard to follow. Name the brothers Bill and Ted, and only use their names while you re-tell this story. Be clear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would knowing FIL chose to end his life rather than suffer longer help anyone? I doubt it. Let him RIP.

DH told me his father had repeatedly expressed his desired to die while sleeping.