Dating in college

[Anonymous]

Are your students looking at the ratio of males/females and heterosexual/not heterosexual data when applying to colleges? It seems like the dating pool at different select universities varies widely (depending on what one is looking for.) I was a bit surprised by some Ivies, frankly. Or maybe today’s teens don’t really worry much about this kind of thing at all & simply don’t care?

[Anonymous]

No. This not something anyone considers. What a strange post.

[Anonymous]

There have been a few posts about this recently. My daughter and her friends are smart, hard working, achievement oriented etc and dating was never at the front of their minds in high school (although some of them did) but now they're in college and they feel "I'd like to date once in awhile" and it's not happening. This was the chatter on Thanksgiving break.

I don't think this is unreasonable--I mean they're 18/19. By dating I don't mean serious boyfriends or the road to marriage. To spell it out I'm talking about going to coffee or a movie, grabbing dinner, kissing, making out etc. You know, all that small stuff that most of us did in our late teens or early 20s. It sounds like there is not much or any of it or any of it going on now. Drunk hook-ups are available but not many girls are interested in that. And to my understanding almost all the hook-ups that the girls know of involve both parties being REALLY DRUNK. Not great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are your students looking at the ratio of males/females and heterosexual/not heterosexual data when applying to colleges? It seems like the dating pool at different select universities varies widely (depending on what one is looking for.) I was a bit surprised by some Ivies, frankly. Or maybe today’s teens don’t really worry much about this kind of thing at all & simply don’t care?

Absolutely a consideration as well it should be

[Anonymous]

Go to Boston/Cambridge. Lots of eligible students.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are your students looking at the ratio of males/females and heterosexual/not heterosexual data when applying to colleges? It seems like the dating pool at different select universities varies widely (depending on what one is looking for.) I was a bit surprised by some Ivies, frankly. Or maybe today’s teens don’t really worry much about this kind of thing at all & simply don’t care?

Slightly different question, this thread discusses finding that someone in college :
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1298278.page

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are your students looking at the ratio of males/females and heterosexual/not heterosexual data when applying to colleges? It seems like the dating pool at different select universities varies widely (depending on what one is looking for.) I was a bit surprised by some Ivies, frankly. Or maybe today’s teens don’t really worry much about this kind of thing at all & simply don’t care?

What were you surprised about? Most Ivy schools are close to 50/50…many big flagships like UGA are more skewed female.

Places like Ga Tech are flipped and 60% male.

[Anonymous]

I think it should be on their radar but not a top driving force. But if your kid fits into the overall culture of the school, then by definition there will likely be other kids with similar interests, personalities, etc. so it should be a good dating pool.

Not that college is solely for earning an MRS like in the old days, but the social aspect of college is highly under-rated while people obsess over nuanced differences between different school's pure math departments or who has the best kale in their salads.

[Anonymous]

Did not come up once for my kids, nor did I overhear them talk about it with their friends.

We did talk about male/female admit rates a bit, but dating never really came up.

Gender splits tracked more with specific programs (engineering schools have more males, etc.), so the schools they were drawn to (or not drawn to) had similar gender characteristics, but the gender characteristics themselves were never a factor.

[Anonymous]

I think my daughter would want to date in college. Like, really date some people, maybe find a boyfriend by junior or senior year. Not just hookups. I think she’s looking at stats and rankings of everything academic and then she could easily wind up at a terrific college and discover that the social scene is not at all what she really wants or expected. Looking around wondering where the boys are… she’s serious about academics—really serious. But she’s serious about marriage and a family in her future, too. (US News, are you listening? There’s a ranking category missing! Kidding but kinda sadly not entirely kidding.)

[Anonymous]

No. That's not really how it works, in college or the real world.

[Anonymous]

Yes if you have a daughter she should be choosing the school with a D1 team and more men if she means to marry well.

[Anonymous]

Oh and I think all the boys know which schools have the “hottest women” that’s Arizona State, Alabama, U of Miami and a few others in the southern US

[Anonymous]

Ladies, learn to ask the nice, shy boys out in your elite college. Times have changed, and it shouldn’t just be up to them. If their lack of confidence is a turn off, that’s a you problem: they will be rich and confident in their 30s and no longer interested in women their own age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh and I think all the boys know which schools have the “hottest women” that’s Arizona State, Alabama, U of Miami and a few others in the southern US

The most attractive women I've met all go to MIT
- current male college student