Is it ever ok to ghost?

[Anonymous]

What are circumstances under which ghosting someone is acceptable to you?

[Anonymous]

After you pass its perfectly normal to ghost. 👻

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After you pass its perfectly normal to ghost. 👻

I only think ghosting is acceptable when the relationship is casual and not established (you have someone’s number, you have texted/called a little but very low stakes. Okay.)

It is not okay when there is any depth or length to the relationship. It is not okay. Even if you’ve only been on one day, the honorable thing to do is say “great meeting you but this isn’t going to work.”

Ghosting is extremely emotionally immature and cowardly.

[Anonymous]

It’s okay if someone has crossed your boundaries and/or you feel unsafe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s okay if someone has crossed your boundaries and/or you feel unsafe.

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s okay if someone has crossed your boundaries and/or you feel unsafe.

+1 Also when the ghosted person is not mature/empathetic enough to understand the issue(s). Having a conversation will just compound on the problem and create an even bigger mess. They most likely will have a problem when you go silent but it’s like a pick your poison thing.

[Anonymous]

I once got a woman to ghost me by telling her I'd quit my job and was trying to figure out what to do with my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I once got a woman to ghost me by telling her I'd quit my job and was trying to figure out what to do with my life.

Smart.

I think the ideal way is to convince the other person to ghost you. Way less messy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s okay if someone has crossed your boundaries and/or you feel unsafe.

+1 Also when the ghosted person is not mature/empathetic enough to understand the issue(s). Having a conversation will just compound on the problem and create an even bigger mess. They most likely will have a problem when you go silent but it’s like a pick your poison thing.

Uhh this seems like a much wider license to ghost. And there are alternatives to ghosting that don’t involve a long conversation.

[Anonymous]

Abuse, unsafe situations.

Otherwise it's cruel and cowardly and making society worse.

[Anonymous]

I lived in a house with a ghost. I didn’t even make it a week before we moved out.

[Anonymous]

No it is not! I got ghosted back in February by someone who I had been friends with for 16 years! We even lived together for three years in college. Sometimes, I still wonder what the f*** happened. I wish she had told me why she doesn't want to be friends anymore. I'd rather hear harsh words than be left wondering.

[Anonymous]

You can ghost after two dates. No harm.

[Anonymous]

I ghost every guy who shows signs of being abusive, controlling or misogynistic.

[Anonymous]

If the relationship has been short/relatively casual and you know the person is going to have a serious problem with you moving on. I get why it isn't cool to ghost people, but I also get why some people don't want to deal with the other person's drama and therefor ghost.