Really stressed right now

[Anonymous]

Apparently DC went to the counselor and told that spouse is screaming at them during arguments. Now I am worried this will start a report on our family. For what is worth we are both immigrant and in our country yelling at a child would not be considered crazy but I know for anglo people this is a big deal. I am terrified

[Anonymous]

You should be.

[Anonymous]

You can scream at your kids, nothing will happen with the report. If there are bruises on your child something may happen.

Its one thing to speak firmly to your children its another to scream constantly.

[Anonymous]

Screaming is not normal ever.

[Anonymous]

These regular screaming and scary screaming. It depends, it’s not that simple.

[Anonymous]

Maybe this can be a wake up call to your spouse to find a better way to communicate with your DC. While it might be common is your culture, research indicates (depending on frequency and what’s being said) it can be very harmful to children. And depending on the context, possibly illegal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe this can be a wake up call to your spouse to find a better way to communicate with your DC. While it might be common is your culture, research indicates (depending on frequency and what’s being said) it can be very harmful to children. And depending on the context, possibly illegal.

And just because something is common in a culture doesn't mean it's not damaging.

[Anonymous]

Your kid is being raised in this culture, so it’s not ok to scream at them. I’m not sure it’s ever ok, but I digress. If cps shows up, just be open and honest and do whatever parenting classes they suggest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Screaming is not normal ever.

There's a huge difference between yelling "Stop bothering your sister" or "Do your homework" vs swears and insults.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you can excuse yourself by being an immigrant. Screaming is poor manners and low impulse control no matter where you come from. Looks like your DC wants nothing to do with your "culture". Hopefully this is a wake-up call for you.

[Anonymous]

The Uzbekistan family we know is constantly screaming and yelling at their kids.

[Anonymous]

If you're constantly screaming at your kid, then clearly screaming at them isn't working - if it DID work, you'd only have had to do it once. Time to find a new method to motivate them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Screaming is not normal ever.

There's a huge difference between yelling "Stop bothering your sister" or "Do your homework" vs swears and insults.

Doubt this kid of tiger parents is being warned to stop bothering his sister.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Apparently DC went to the counselor and told that spouse is screaming at them during arguments. Now I am worried this will start a report on our family. For what is worth we are both immigrant and in our country yelling at a child would not be considered crazy but I know for anglo people this is a big deal. I am terrified

What you SHOULD be worried about, is the damage to your child, NOT that you'll get in trouble. JFC lady.

[Anonymous]

I am a criminal defense attorney, unless threatening physical harm, yelling at your kid is not a crime. Just felt compelled to post since someone said it was "illegal".