Before location sharing..

[Anonymous]

It's always the women asking to share location. Everytime I get into a serious location the next step is location sharing..I have never cheated, why can't women just admit to their insecurities? Don't worry I am not going to be kidnapped or chopped up by a weirdo. I'll be okay. Why do you guys want to know where we are?

Before location sharing, how did women track their boyfriends/husbands? It's exhausting...

[Anonymous]

This isn’t normal. I’m guessing there were other red flags before these women asked about location sharing.

[Anonymous]

I don't think most people do this while dating. In marriage with kids, we do sometimes location share for logistical reasons, like if we want to know when the other person will arrive home when they're taking the bus.

If you're consistently late, flaky, unreliable about meeting up, that might be why. But I would just break up with a man for that.

[Anonymous]

We don't use it to "track" one another. I want DH and DCs to know where I am for safety reasons.

[Anonymous]

DH and I have never had the need or desire to share location. We have it on just in case something ever happened and also because we share it with DS too. I couldn't tell you the last time I've checked his location. If I need to know when he will be home, he just shoots me a text with his eta.

[Anonymous]

So put your big boy pants on and tell them no instead of bothering us all with it. I have never asked any guy to share this location.

[Anonymous]

Just say NO..I don't understand why some of you guys as soon as you are in a relationship you suddenly say yes to everything. Seriously. If she is not happy about it, 100 guys are going to lined up and surrender their autonomy to her. Don't be that guy. This is some invasive manipulative nonsense. If the guys before you cheated on her that's a her issue. The next man shouldn't have to be on supervised release walking around with a location target on him.

[Anonymous]

We didn't. And I don't understand it, now. I wouldn't put up with it ~ I've been married for decades. Op, you do not have to say yes. And your no doesn't need to mean anything. Just say no. Better to find someone who's more on the same page if it's a deal breaker. Do give them the benefit of the doubt - that is (may?) not be about the checkin-up on you and cheating. But, live your life as you feel is best. Say no

[Anonymous]

This is strange, and I question the type of women you date if it’s a repeated occurrence. My dh and I don’t track each other, and the same goes with our friends. I don’t know any spouses who do.

[Anonymous]

My XH and I used to location share so we didn’t have to bother each other at work and could have some insight into whether we were on the way home. Trust wasn’t the issue, it was just practical to be able to know where each other was. He turned it off when he went on Ashley Madison.

Current husband and I don’t share locations. Don’t feel a need to. I would if he asked but it’s no big deal either way.

[Anonymous]

I location share with my husband, parents, and sisters. It’s not a big deal for us. I use it most often to time dinner on the table. It would be different for me if it was a fairly new relationship and they were insistent that they need it for reasons. I would wonder why.

[Anonymous]

Location sharing is better than 100 questions about your whereabouts when you get home. Women hate being told that they are suspicious but I wish they could listen to themselves when they embark on their 'interrogative' journeys..and they don't do it at once. They do it over several days dropping one question at a time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My XH and I used to location share so we didn’t have to bother each other at work and could have some insight into whether we were on the way home. Trust wasn’t the issue, it was just practical to be able to know where each other was. He turned it off when he went on Ashley Madison.

Current husband and I don’t share locations. Don’t feel a need to. I would if he asked but it’s no big deal either way.

Is husband#2 more faithful? Hopefully that's it for you. No #3 on the horizon right lol?

[Anonymous]

We dint have it turned on in our house. I had no idea this was a thing.

[Anonymous]

Consider thinking about the type of women you are attracted to and why. It seems like these women are highly conscientious - Often responsible, safety-oriented, and detail-minded. They also seem highly Neurotic - worried about if you are cheating or in an accident. That's a lot of worry. They are highly Agreeable - They value emotional closeness, mutual care, and cooperation.

I think you are much less Agreeable. You are a bit confrontational, at least in your writing and very defensive.
You are less Open and have a preference for binary reasoning: I have never cheated, therefore the request must come from insecurity and while you express frustration, you have limited curiosity about your GF's perspective.
You are moderately Conscientious, emphasizing your own reliability (Never cheated!) but you struggle with sustained empathy. You are less Neurotic and have greater emotional stability. You are reacting to what you perceive is control or mistrust and feel sensitive to relationship pressure. Overall, you are a somewhat defensive, skeptical, emotionally reactive communicator who values autonomy and personal trust, low in agreeableness, and moderate in emotional sensitivity.

You should be looking for women that are more independent, who values her own space and freedom. You should consider looking for women that are less Neurotic - more emotionally stable and less insecure who believes privacy is normal in a relationship. You want someone who is as conscientious as you and manages her own emotional world instead of relying on you. You might find this person is less Extroverted than the women you have been dating - someone who does not need constant interaction or hyper-connection and is comfortable with time alone.

Overall, you are looking for someone who is much more emotionally stable and less Neurotic and a bit less Extroverted and doesn't need constant interaction with you.